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PARENTING CHALLENGES, ADDICTIONS, and INNER TRANSFORMATION | Lelia Hypnosis
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Oct 29, 2024
In this insightful video, clinical hypnotherapist and art therapist, Lelia, popularly known as Lelia Hypnosis, delves into the world of hypnotherapy. She demystifies the practice, sharing her expertise on how it can be a powerful tool for mental and physical well-being.Lelia discusses her unique approach, emphasising the importance of bringing clients into a natural, calming trance-like state to address various issues. From coping with grief and parenting challenges to managing addiction and reducing weight, she offers a comprehensive understanding of hypnotherapy's transformative potential. Lelia's engaging and authentic style makes this video not only informative but also relatable, providing a glimpse into the art of healing through hypnotherapy and personal anecdotes. Explore the possibilities of self-discovery and positive transformation with Lelia Hypnosis. See more at www.leliahypnosis.com/
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um my name is Leia barzi I am a clinical hypnotherapist and RT therapist and I do
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give hypnotherapy sessions and uh they're very powerful and not just
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powerful but I would say lifechanging right because I think when we go and see
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someone for for therapy first of all we need to build trust because we're opening ourselves up for for painful
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situations of our past and being able to release them and I think for that we really need to have a real bond with a
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person so I feel that it's important to do that by being honest so everyone I'm
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very happy to share my flaws and my past mistakes and my current mistakes and so
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on live on the air um also to build trust with you listeners so that you
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know I'm flawed I'm not a person of authority it's just that I like to guide my clients through their sessions in the
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most peaceful and joyful way and to be able to unburden as many people as I possibly can so that we can make this
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planet a healthier and more balanced place because I mean the other day I was driving and I saw I stopped at the
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traffic lights and um I my my response to to to drive when it was green was a
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little bit delayed it was a bit slow that morning and the woman behind me was just beeping and beeping very
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aggressively to the point that I thought it was only three or four seconds right but that someone can get themselves into
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such an hysterical state I'm sure there were reasons behind it right but for me
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that just shows okay this person clearly needs some guidance to not be so
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massively triggered and I could have been triggered by her response but actually I was pretty chilled about I
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was like yeah yeah chill out it's just driving away driving even slower just to
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wind her up a little bit I'm only joking but the reason why I'm mentioning this is because I I do want to talk about
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anger rage and uh things that stress us out some of the causes behind it and
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also around parenting conscious parenting anxiety the whole shebang and
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that is what I tend to do with my clients we we work on whatever affects them the most and I I genuinely work on
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on everything physical pains uh psychological
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issues everything and it's it's it's very rewarding I really I know that it's
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my purpose so I didn't give you a lot of detail on how I do this but that's why
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this was the hook now to get you to listen so you'll carry on listening go on oh right okay so I I meant to I
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thought I was G I thought I was going to have a little time out break no right so what I usually do with my clients is I
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do regression therapy and that means that I will put you into a let's say douggy is my client wonderful people and
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he has serious rage and anger issues this is obviously just in our imagination this isn't real um and what
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I would do with douge is put him into a relaxed State this state is called Alpha
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and uh you go into that state on a daily basis so every time you go to sleep all
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of you listening you me douggy and so on when we go to sleep we go into different brain frequencies throughout the day as
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well so if you're having your little siesta throughout the day you're going to be more relaxed and the the the the
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the brain chemistry changes and so on and that is a natural ual state of hypnosis so when you're driving your
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vehicle to work or to your house and you don't even remember how you got there that is a hypnotic state so it doesn't
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mean that I have the power to make you do anything that you don't that that that that you want that I want you God
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let me just have a little reset I can't make you do anything that I want to so
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you have to be willing to want to heal you have to be motivat to want to change this thing this that is that is causing
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you issues and um yeah then I do regression therapy which is helpful
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because we go back to causes of what cause the anxiety the anger the rage the
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the addiction the the addiction to video games and so on and then we reprogram
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the subconscious mind and the wonderful thing is is that the state that you're in you're still aware of what's going on
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because we'll be conversing so you'll remember the entire session you're not knocked out don't remember anything and
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then you wake up and you have no idea it's a bit of a weird feeling if that happens right so that doesn't happen with me and my sessions and my clients
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because I want you to be aware of the things that we're working through we're going to be conversing you're just going
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to be in a very soothe and peaceful state where you're a lot more open and
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receptive to change and also more aware of some of the things that may have potentially been overlooked throughout
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your childhood and when I speak about traumas or Pains of the past past or of
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childhood it doesn't always need to be stuff that really traumatic or violent
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things you know everyone has little little things that happen throughout our life that might be injust that might be
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unfair and that causes wounds within us and these wounds also cause an energetic
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charge within our muscle so let's say I'm standing as a 5-year-old little girl
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and I'm in class and the teacher asked me to get up and answer the question and I don't know the answer and I say the
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wrong answer everyone laughs and the teacher tells me off and I am humiliated embarrassed shamed and that may
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potentially trigger issues with public speaking anxiety social anxiety all
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sorts of things even resentments we are all so unique and so different that some of us pick may have that experience and
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be completely Blaze about it and not be affected by it and some of us that might be a really traumatic event that will
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that will follow us around for the rest of our life and anytime we're at work and we have to give a presentation we really struggle we can't figure out why
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because we're actually confident people so that's just a very straightforward and simple example of how something
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quite M well it's not minor because it's very hurtful to to to shame a child especially and especially in the school
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systems you know the pressure to to succeed and exams and homework this is
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something that that needs to be worked on and then obviously we give our children the phone to entertain them and
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keep them going and that is also unhealthy and it can become highly addictive but what I can do in the
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sessions is help you get an understanding for first of all what the cause is it's not always necessary by
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the way to find out the exact cause of where this issue came from is all is
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just having acceptance and understanding of self and why we respond to these
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things in certain ways and so that's what I do in the sessions is we do a lot of inner child work and uh Rel releasing
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that energetic charge of that wound so I'm this 5-year-old little girl who had that experience so in that moment when
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everyone laughed at me and pointed and the teacher got angry because I I got
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the answer wrong there is the stress hormones in my body it will flood my
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entire body and it's as if it gets stuck within your body it's that charge so if
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you may have noticed and you think back to certain situations where anxiety comes up not all of us get it in our
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chest some of us get really bad stomach AES or they get diarrhea and they think oh there something wrong it's it's not
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most of the time a lot of children have stomach aches and they're poorly and we
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take them to the doctor and the doctor doesn't know why they do all these blood tests and so on and actually they don't
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realize but it it's it's anxiety they just don't know how to express that and it's quite straightforward to how to how
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to release that and it still baffles me to this day when um
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I hear parents mothers fathers and so on uh speak about their children he's like
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he's just a bad boy he's just he's just so difficult she's so difficult and it's
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it's not it's not the child it's we have to take ownership as parents and say
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what am I giving off energetically what am I what am I giving out in this world
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with my behavior my actions that could affect my child in a negative way can I
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handle that can you release your ego and your pride and your pain and so on and
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say do you know what this not my child yes my child is behaving in a way that
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isn't balanced and is is is strange and sometimes we don't understand it because we think we're we're we're well-rounded
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people but I would look within myself as a parent and just let all of that Pride
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wash away and just say okay what can I do within myself to improve the
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relationship ship and the bond with my child what can I do what can I put aside or heal with therapy or hypnotherapy
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obviously come to Leia Leia hypnosis that would improve my child's
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behavior and it works it works what do people come to see you mostly for there
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are so many different issues I can't even give you once so I'm just going to
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give you lots of information so um there's a lot a lot of parents that are
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struggling with their children and they're just overwhelmed with stress then there's a rage anger a lot of
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addiction clients because I'm recovery uh anxiety is massive insecurity
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menopausal issues symptoms that come up physical pains not as much at the moment
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but I have had uh a lot of people with back pains and actually IBS and stomach
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problems that's been recently it's been quite extreme actually every person that I've worked near to every person that
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I'd worked to had some issue and there's a reason for that because when we hold
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our stuff in and we suppress it when we what I'm even doing this this hand
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gesture of pushing that emotion down and it tends to be stuck within our chest as
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in the emotions and the charge of the pain or of the worry of the concern of the fear fear is one of the biggest
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causes for anxiety for a lack of self-confidence for anything really so I
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can't really pinpoint it I just see and and that's why I love my job because it never gets boring it's there's always
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something to do and I love puzzles and it's is if we're all unique puzzles that
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need to be lovingly put together and nurtured and I'm not the one who is
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healing the person or curing I'm actually just their guiding and the
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techniques that you are going to experience in a in a hypnotherapy session with me you'll be able to use
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those at home as well and so what I really want is for a person to come and see me once preferably and for the for
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the issue to be resolved and it is very rapid and I'm I'm not going to say yes I can solve everything all of your issues
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in one session most of the time people only tend to come once or twice and then
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the issues are resolved however that depends on the amount of trauma and the different issues that there are if it's
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addiction it's always going to be more because it's very complex and and very unique to each person but uh I don't
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want to hook the person to come back on a weekly basis every month you know I want them to thrive and I give a lot of
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support after the sessions before the sessions I have hypnotic audios generic ones soothing ones before the client has
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their session so they get to listen to that at home in their own bed warming up to my voice building a a Connection
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getting used to being hypnotized so this is there there's a lot of steps towards
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a successful outcome and I ensure that the client has always able to contact me
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so I do a 24-hour WhatsApp service so for certain clients they don't they barely use it because they don't need it
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but then there's others that are a lot more vulnerable with serious depression or suicidal thoughts and so on and so
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that's quite helpful and even for some of the teens that I work with you know who do have phones if they're in moment
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of distress and they don't know how to communicate to another parent because maybe the parent is the biggest trigger
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they have got someone to talk to um that they can share their their stuff with
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and everything is confidential and uh I feel like we all all just it's it's so
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generic saying this but we we just we need to love ourselves more and we don't teach our children we're not really I
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mean you might have been brought up in own where you were taught how to self soothe how to self- love how to nurture
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yourself how to get over stressful situations so there I know a lot of parents that are really good at that
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they're really motivational and that know how to inspire the children to be more independent and confident and so on
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but then most of the time we're helicopter parents either we're continuously controlling because we have
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so little time so it's like come on school's finished you got go do your homework you got to do this go go bath and then we just lose our beep you know
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we just overwhelmed with stress because we've got our own stuff but we're not resolving it and then the child
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microphone the child reflects just a mirror just like our partner is a is a mirror to us and something that might
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annoy you in one person which is for example if you have let's say you have a
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a um a couple and one of them is extremely abusive violent to the other
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one right and the other one just continues to go back to that person so and there's a lot of jealousy from one
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of the abuser and the victim it seems to just continue to go back they've got very similar wounds we just think oh
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this person is an abuser they're abusing their partner and the and that poor person keeps going back to the abuser
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but actually their emotional wounds are so similar he's insecure or she's
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insecure the abuser is insecure and jealous because there is a wound of not enoughness or because there is whatever
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reason right and the other person that keeps going back to the abuser also lack of self-worth insecurity not enoughness
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so sometimes we look at someone and think ah what an awful person however we
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might have some of that within us and so we need to slowly become observers rather than judge everything because
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there is a lot of bad in this world but there's also so much good we just don't hear about it and when I get my phone
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out and I'm on social media which I have to be for my businesses and I I enjoy it
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to an extent but my social media is incredibly positive I only follow people
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or companies that enlighten me I I'm not going to listen to any gossip anything negative anything that might try and
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persuade me to change my opinions on things that like for example the Earth is not flat guys the Earth is
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round I hope um but things like that you know we
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need to be more aware and not a lot of it is laziness as well we want our
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children to thrive we want to thrive ourselves but then I guess by the end of the day and then you end up having a
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glass of wine just to kind of get through the day and the same thing hope happens over and over and over again
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nothing really changes because we're not doing anything because I don't like people wasting my time because I know I
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don't have a lot of time with this beautiful Earth so I only spend my time
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with in very special people who I can bond with on a on a pure level who make
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me feel enlightened and when I say enlightened I don't mean like woo woo woo you know all holy no I just mean
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recharge vibrant happy joyful grateful to be alive what's that saying your Vibe
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attracts your tribe oh I like that have you not heard that no oh it's true but I
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I love it your Vibe you can have that you that one yeah thank you my vibe attracts this tribe you I mean seeing
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these people in this room um and now I've lost my trail of thought I do apologize I do but the reason why I'm
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saying this is because we don't have a lot of time here and we don't know how long our loved ones are going to be here
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and and rather than being fearful about that is do everything take risks but
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take positive risks in treating yourself with love nourishing yourself and that doesn't mean hey come here and see Leia
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hypnosis you you're going to do so much better afterwards I would love that of course but if you don't have the funds
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for it there are so many different options so many things that you can do
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even if they're small changing your outlook on things writing down three things you're grateful for the moment
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you wake up in the morning it's small it's small steps and all of the giant CEOs and the big bosses will tell you
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that it's about the small things that that matter the most so even um even
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with your partner right let's say i' I live with my partner I don't but I let's imagine I'm with my partner and my
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partner goes off to work and they say that a 20 second hug or a sixc kiss with
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a loved one secretes oxytocin for both of you so that will your relationship
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will improve it will last me and my I told my son this this morning cuz I said oh I'm going to share that on Bay radio
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today and he was like let's try it out and he was just hugging me and hugging
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me and the relationship with me and him wasn't always easy because I was the
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problem he's always been pure but his behavior has has has gone up and
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down because of my ups and downs my wounds my traumas but I'm not going to use that as an excuse I'm going to use
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that for wisdom and how can I get through this if I've made a mistake if I shouted at him because I'm very stressed
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or because uh he's not doing I've repeated myself for the 20th time and if you're a parent you know how it get it
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just it just pushes you to another limit of stress right you're just like oh my God please just brush your teeth how
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many times but when if if that does ever happen then I am able to in that moment or even
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before I get to that point of stress remove myself cuz it's not the end of the world he will brush his teeth right
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now me going to the extremes and causing him stress causing me stress which is
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adrenaline csing through my body I'm not going to sleep very well am I before bed screaming like that getting him to go to
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bed things like that you know it's we just need to become more aware conscious
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and take our time and it's very difficult in such a busy and stressful
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world but we're the ones that can control how much stress we allow into our lives how we see um what Outlook we
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have for example yesterday I got a bill quite a Big Bill I must
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say and I've been waiting for this bill and I got it handed to me by a lovely Postman he was so sweet and I was so
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happy cuz I was in a good mood anyway it's I'm not happy because I need to pay this because really don't want to have
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to pay it and it's going to be difficult to do so however I felt grateful cuz I
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thought do you know what now I know how much it is now I can complete this and it will be done and I know that's not
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always easy cuz if you're flooded with with with that and you've got an X partner is being annoying and you've got
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this and the dog has just broken its porw and you need to invest another grand into that and you're just
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emotionally bankrupt and and financially bankrupt it's hard to then be like oh thank you so much for my lovely Grand of
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a bill yes I get that so I I do I have compassion and empathy for every
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person's situation and circumstances but there is a way of slowly altering your
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behavior and your mindset because the more you focus on the negative the more negative you're going to receive it is
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just the law of vibration of frequency of Attraction and anytime I don't think
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about money and because this is a topic that that affects a lot of us and it's
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very stressful and sometimes we also let that out on our children cuz they oh Mom I want this I want that and we just
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explode CU it's like I don't have the money for it and you don't want to have to share that with your child because again our confidence our pride our ego
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gets in the way and also it's sometimes there's a bit of Shame around it we want our children to see us as providers and
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that we're doing well and and and I get that and it's uh I the the more we focus
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on the negative and the lack of and not just focus consciously I mean you can
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feel it in in your body the more you heal the more connected you'll be to your emotions and your emotions are a
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very clear sign of what is not aligned in your life and I always know I'm about
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to get something negative Financial now because I've been thinking about money too much and where am I going to get
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this money from and I can feel it in my chest and so then I do a a little walk
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around around my block or I go and sit by a plant and and call me a tree hugger
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if you want but it works for me or I'll water my plants and I'll just enjoy
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watching how the water is flowing into the plants and seeing the green color
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and the stripes on the leaf and the Beautiful petals and the softness of The Petal and even just describing this it's
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very soothing but you can do that anyone who's listening can do that um we were
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talking about addiction um earlier yes and similarities between yes so there's this they've done
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some brain scans on children who use devices play video games or spend time
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on social media for more than 20 hours a week they did brain scans on these
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children and also on adults people with substance abuse problems so addiction to
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drugs or alcohol and the brain scans were incredibly similar that's quite
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shocking we don't know the effect listen I use my phone on a daily basis
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sometimes I want to lob it out the window because I'm just like Bing Bing Bing I love it in a way because I'm
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helping clients and they're excited and I get to bond and I can speak to people from all over the world so I use this
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platform but I use it very consciously and so I had noticed the more I was
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working and the more stressed I was the less time I had to focus and be present
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with my child and I know a lot of you guys have that same problem as that I just don't know where I get the time
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from we need to earn money we need but then we can't be calm and and peaceful with our children so um I've changed how
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much screen time I allow my child to have but I replace it with something
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that is nourishing and I do have to say guys it makes a massive difference to
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your to to your child the benefits are insane so what you could for example
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start doing is if you know notice that your child has got a a a a need to be on
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this device CU it's habitual as well right addiction is Habitual and and a lot of it we can we can change and we
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can alter with by by by using just changing their behavior and and so on
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but using a system for of rewarding so what I did with my son is he knows he
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can only watch one hour what he does with that time is not only for him to do cuz I don't let him go on YouTube and
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just watch whatever he wants have you been on YouTube it's mental the stupid stuff and I said John neon you are one
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of the most intelligent children I've ever met you're so wise and you're watching someone react as in I'm
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watching you laugh at someone else playing a video game how and and your
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kids are watching this and we're not doing anything about it and then we wonder why they're aggressive and stressed and irritable and Moody and
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gobby and and so on we need to be the ones that take control and suffer for
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the first 3 weeks cuz it's going to be difficult cuz they're going to be resentful and they will be reactive but
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it will be worth it and your life will be Karma they'll want to be out in nature give them a ball give them a
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wooden puzzle or any kind of puzzle give them something that they can do with their hands they're at school all day
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and they're focused and we think rewarding them with the phone or giving them access to Netflix or whatever this
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is this is great and I'm I'm doing something good for my child no it's not depending right so watching a film
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together me and my son watched trolls 3 the other day and we were laughing hysterically and I love it and we were
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dancing and that's fun to have a treat and to connect over something but just
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giving them the device so that you can go and do the laundry or wash the dishes or or do whatever is I understand why we
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do it right I'm not judging that because I've done it but I've noticed that the
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behavior of my child was getting quite extreme and very impatient didn't want to go outside the beach was I hate the
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beach I was like what you hate the beach that's so strange I thought you love the beach so there you you need to just go
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through with this change of setting a timer very clear rules guys so what you
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could do with your children is for example on the weekend find a moment a moment where you've got 3 hours or
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something along those lines get yourself some culina some cardboard or something like that from the from the from the
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paper shop and create a star chart of things that you like to reward them for
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and when they get by the end of the week if they've gotten 20 Stars 30 stars for every morning they brush their teeth
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they make their bed and uh they've played out in nature I don't know you can put whatever you want on there at
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the end of it you can reward them maybe if they've got 30 Stars they get €3 or
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if you don't do want to do it with money do it with something healthy do it with something fun if you get 100 Stars we're
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going to go on a fishing trip or we're going to go and do something but try not to reward this whole thing with with
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phones and so on because yes it can be very beneficial for studying for learning languages and connecting I'm
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not denying that I'm just saying if we're not if we don't control how often
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and how much these children use and what they what they're taking on and and all that that crappy information sorry just
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have to say it then we we're going to create children who are can't focus they
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have they don't remember anything they have got terrible memories in insane mood swings the temper tantrums and if
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you change this Behavior Slowly by by by by make creating beautiful rules like
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that you will notice a different it just might take some time and it and it will be stressful but only for a very short
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amount of times the benefits are just they're just so worth it like I've I've written some of the benefits down there
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they'll have more Focus they'll feel calmer um it will be easier for them to
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pick up a book because they got no other option they have to and children are creative we're not allowing them to be imaginative anymore because they're
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seeing everything on the phone and then if you've noticed and I find this really important guys is when you watch your
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child watch a video let's say on YouTube and this is specifically to hook the
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child's attention you will hear in in so many different sounds that they they're
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putting into these videos is and the lights why do you think these
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children have have no attention span anymore because they the they want the viewer to be hooked and continuously
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listen and focus so when there's Stillness they don't know what to do that and and also any pains or torers
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and stuff are being supressed because you're giving them the phone to distract them it's it's not healthy however it's
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understandable I just mean that there are different ways of changing this I do work with children I thought I'd mention
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that um but mainly I prefer working with the parent because the parent's the one who's going to be the one to maintain it
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and so you can have an abusive parent and the child's having problems I'll treat the treat the child's doing a little bit better a week later the same
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thing happens weeing in the bed because they're fearful of their parent or because of whatever reason so dear
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parents if you are having difficulty with your child or you know someone or you are just feeling overwhelmed and
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stressed and you don't know where to turn to you can just book in a free consultation with me and we can chat
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about it you know it's free not the session but the consultation is it's 20 30 minutes and we can have a chat at
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least you'll be able to unburden yourself and ask the questions that you might not be able to ask your friends cuz you're embarrassed or or you just
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it's a bit intimate and you you feel uncomfortable to share how do people get in touch with you though I was just about to say that I'm basically talking
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to myself you can find me on my website on Leia hypnosis.com uh you can also
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find me on YouTube I've got my YouTube channel with uh wonderful videos that explain certain causes and and so on and
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uh I've also got free hypnotic audios for children and for adults in different languages on my
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website uh you can find me on Facebook on Instagram on LinkedIn I think I am
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near to everywhere literally literally yes I am everywhere so just Google Leia hypnosis
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and you'll find all those resources yes for
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