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emotions are powerful they can be very
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scary at times and all you want is for
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them to vanish since emotions are not
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going to go away on their own we
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sometimes push them away and once you
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start doing that emotional avoidance
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becomes a practice now feeling bad about
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something or being vulnerable is not a
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bad thing we break at times gather
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ourselves and get back on our feet
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that's how life is and it's also natural
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to not want to be in such situations
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the problems begin when you start to
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completely avoid some of your emotions
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our emotions can help us a lot and
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emotional avoidance will not end well so
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let's use our negative emotions to our
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benefit what exactly is emotional
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according to mental health experts
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emotional avoidance is when you stop
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acknowledging your feelings and emotions
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we all have bad days and we start
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avoiding our emotions we will only end
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up worsening the situation when we
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purposely try to numb ourselves to our
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negative emotions in order to reduce the
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pain is called emotional avoidance
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whenever things go wrong we try to make
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it right don't we when we stop
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considering that things aren't right and
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that we feel a certain way about it
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that's how emotional avoidance works for
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example you have a problem with
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something your friend does you are
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really bothered by it and it makes you
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feel very angry but you choose to avoid
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your emotions and do not confront the
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the anger that you are bottling up will
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change the way you look at your friend
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and may even end up losing the
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if you would have confronted your friend
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and acknowledged emotions you would have
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saved your friendship and your mental
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this is a very very basic example but
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can you understand what I'm trying to
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say give your emotions the importance
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they need because sometimes our emotions
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can help us understand our problems here
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are reasons why avoiding emotions is not
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a good idea one emotions have a message
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our emotions are always trying to tell
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us something they give us signals
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whenever we are confused so when we
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avoid emotions when in avoid important
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signals and messages these messages have
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the capacity of even warning us for
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future dangers two avoiding emotions
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only intensifies them when you have a
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knife cut do you try to push it back
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into your skin do you forget about it or
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do nothing about it no you don't
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similarly when you push your emotions
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back into your mind it's only going to
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intensify the feeling address it and
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move on three harmful steps you take to
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avoid emotions many people take support
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of self-harm or substance abuse in order
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to avoid what they might be feeling the
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measures you might take to avoid feeling
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a certain way can be dangerous for you
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I know that negative emotions can be
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overwhelming and not having to feel them
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is better but no shortcut leads to a
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happy ending so take the tougher route
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so that the end is fruitful here's how
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you can use these negative emotions to
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your benefit because avoiding them is
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turn anger into creativity
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there have been studies that state that
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many people try to indulge in creative
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activities when they feel anger this
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means creativity can help in dealing
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with anger without having to avoid the
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emotion use the energy to build
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something or paint something or fix
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something do something creative so that
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the anger can be released in a healthier
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way being creative has a lot of other
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benefits as well two being in an intense
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situation can broaden your perspective
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sometimes when you are in an
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overwhelming situation you experience a
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shutting your mind to your emotions will
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not end up well but when you face an
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intense situation you have the
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opportunity to view things in a
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being in such situations can broaden
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your spectrum towards life don't be
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disheartened rather use it to your
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turn your shame into compassion having a
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constant feeling of Shame is a nice way
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to be but avoiding this emotion is also
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not the right thing to do since you know
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how it feels be compassionate have
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compassion for you and others
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speak up put your point across and
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listen to what others have to say shame
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is stronger when you don't have belief
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in yourself so be compassionate about
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yourself 4. pessimism can increase
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productivity first of all know when you
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are being a pessimist once you've done
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that use that information in a way that
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inverts your pessimistic thought if you
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think that the glass is half empty then
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work towards filling the glass
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completely turn your pessimism into
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productivity 5. turn jealousy into
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growth jealousy is common we can feel it
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many times and the most common approach
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is to avoid this emotion don't do that
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try to find out what is affecting you
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then try to focus your entire energy on
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building yourself work towards making
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yourself a better person
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holistically speaking try to find
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positivity in all the negativity your
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emotions might be giving you
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you always have lessons to be learned in
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any and every situation you face
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hence avoiding your emotions is not the
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right thing to do emotional avoidance
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can harm you more than your fear
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face your emotions and let them out of
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do not bottle them up because when the
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bottle bursts it's going to be a
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disaster and Now ladies and gentlemen my
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job here is done I hope this video was
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fun to watch and helps you deal with
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emotional avoidance try using your
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negative emotions to your advantage and
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you'll be amazed to see the difference
