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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! Join us as we explore the transformative world of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy. This guide is perfect for those interested in understanding EMDR's power, whether you're a potential client or simply curious.
Learn how to find a qualified EMDR therapist and uncover the captivating history of EMDR, discovered accidentally by its founder, Francine Shapiro, in a park. www.emdria.org
Explore EMDR's core, the Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) model, addressing past traumas, present triggers, and future anxieties. Discover why EMDR therapy stands out for facilitating profound physiological changes and reprocessing memories.
Hear personal stories of EMDR's life-changing effects and understand the eight EMDR process phases that guide clients to healing and resolution.
Whether considering EMDR therapy or expanding your therapeutic knowledge, this podcast offers insights into the path of relief, resilience, and lasting change EMDR therapy offers. Don't miss out!
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
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I'm Kelly ohoro and this is adaptable
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Behavior explained hi everybody thanks
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for tuning in today uh we're going to
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talk a bit about EMDR therapy and I'm
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intending to make this for the layperson
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who's not necessarily a therapist but so
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you know a little bit about what to
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expect when you decide you want to do
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EMDR therapy a little bit about how to
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find someone and where that is and we'll
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have links in the comments below where
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you can find an EMDR therapist in your
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area and we're going to talk about the
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history we're going to talk about a
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little bit about how it works and what
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we can treat with EMDR therapy and I
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have my colleague Justine Bond who is an
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EMDR therapist qualified to be a
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certified EMDR therapist and she's going
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to talk a little bit about this topic
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with me today so thank you so much for
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being here I appreciate your time and
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and energy and hopefully we can make
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this a an approachable conversational
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topic because it's it's a complicated
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topic and it's super weird to understand
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yeah EMDR therapy in general but I think
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it's important that people are aware
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it's it's one of the top two treatments
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endorsed by the World Health
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Organization for trauma and also for the
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VA uh CBT trauma focused therapy is the
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other one according to their endorsement
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and that requires homework and it takes
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a bit longer so part of what I love
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about EMDR therapy and being an EMDR
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therapist is that we can help people and
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have more reduction in their distress
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and their symptoms a little bit faster
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than than some of the other modalities
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but ultimately like I've talked about in
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episodes before we have to address
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trauma in a bottom-up fashion because
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otherwise we're not going to reprocess
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how things get stuck so thanks for being
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here I appreciate it so tell me what do
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you love about EMDR therapy I think it's
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speaking to what you said the bottom-up
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approach you know I'm someone who gets
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really in my head too right and I feel
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like well I know a lot of the things but
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that's not really what this is about
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because trauma's not stored there if
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trauma made sense we wouldn't probably
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be here and having these symptoms or
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chief complaint issues right so it's
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dropping in and using myself as that
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process in the room just to be with the
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client where they're at and getting to
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the work that way that's a beautiful
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transformation I was lucky enough to
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have people talk about EMDR therapy in
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my graduate program and so I knew about
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what it was but I didn't personally get
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it and one of my professors was very
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research based and so he talked about
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this as you know the number one
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treatment for PTSD and at that point we
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didn't have anywhere near the clinical
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trials that we do now and so we'll talk
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about more of the research and how we
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know that it is really effective to
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treat
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pretty much all presenting issues in
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some way shape or form so we'll talk
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about that I have to say my history with
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it is I saw a psychodynamic therapist
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for about a year when I was in um my
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early career profession and I really
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loved it so it was valuable to learn
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more about my history how I adapted
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you know my relationship with attachment
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with my mom and with my dad and and some
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of the things that happened in my story
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that were contributing to my symptoms
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which was preoccupied anxiousness
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needing to know what where my husband
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was what was going on and even when he
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didn't do anything to earn my anxiety I
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was anxious and so I loved what I gained
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in my year of of psychodynamic therapy
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and a talk therapy fashion but when I
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transitioned to an EMDR therapist I was
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like holy this is what's been
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missing because I had such a different
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relationship with the distress that I
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was in and I started to be able to make
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so much more sense of why I was acting
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the way I was acting and so part of my
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love is that I had such Dynamic
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physiological changes because of my own
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personal work with an EMDR therapist
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right and so do you have some experience
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in your own personal EMDR that you'd be
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willing to share
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I think what I've learned the most
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through my own EMDR process was as I
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mentioned before I know a lot and I I
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can think my way through a lot of things
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or what I like to tell my clients are we
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solutionizing it
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right and that's all fine and good for
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some time but it's not getting to really
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what's going on because two weeks later
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I'm feeling the same thing and it's like
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damn I thought I worked through this
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right no right so my EMDR therm
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therapist taught me how to drop in and
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really come to that place again of
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what's my body holding on to what's my
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body picking up in my environment that's
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telling me threat alarm Bells
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something's off right now and how are
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you adapting in the now as a result of
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that distress exactly right right it
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makes sense yeah yeah so the other thing
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that I think is
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relevant is after going through some of
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my own EMDR therapy I was I was in this
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major state of I have to get trained in
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this I have to learn how to do this
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because I was I was primarily a CBT
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therapist and my my clients really I I
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did great with the relationship and the
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validation and I understood in their
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narratives what was going on but I just
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was frustrated that I wasn't able to
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make system changes for them and that
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they would come back week after week
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with some of the same presenting issues
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and I wasn't seeing it shift as as uh
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drastically as I would have liked and I
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certainly wasn't seeing it shift like I
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felt like I was shifting because of the
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work I was doing in EMDR therapy so I
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went and got trained as fast as possible
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and I had a mentor that was that was
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really encouraging jump in I want you to
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really try this with as many patients as
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you can so that you can get comfortable
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with it and you can see how powerful it
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is and so that's part of why I'm such a
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proponent of this kind of therapy and
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and another bottom-up therapies that
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really affect the physiology of how
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things are stored absolutely so tell us
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a little bit about how EMDR came to be
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in the history of it sure so back in
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1987 Francine Shapiro who invented and
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discovered EMDR therapy by accident was
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walking through the park and she noticed
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that her eyes were moving in a bit of a
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bilateral way along with her walking and
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she realized that as she was thinking
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about something distressing she saw the
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the effects of the distress start to
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desensitize or decrease and so she
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thought there's something to this so
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thus began her research and her studies
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about what she had experienced
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personally in a reduction of stress and
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in that timeline she was she came up
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with EMD which was the kind of the baby
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form of EMDR early on and it was kind of
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originally seen as just a
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desensitization technique and that's a
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little bit it's helpful but it doesn't
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help us to learn something new it
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doesn't help us to reprocess things
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things that are that are stuck in time
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and so it's evolved since then there's
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been like more than 30 random controlled
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trials showing its efficacy more than 28
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controlled trials learning about
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different protocols and how we can
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address different presenting issues with
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the MDR therapy so it's really come a
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long way it's a way for people to free
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themselves from destructive memories and
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it seems to work even in cases where
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years of conventional therapy have
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failed
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no one understands exactly why this
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method succeeds only that it does then
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at least like Eric discovered a new and
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unique kind of therapy it's called EMDR
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eye movement desensitization and
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reprocessing it's being practiced by
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some 7 000 therapists across the country
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and the numbers are growing okay so how
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does EMDR work
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so EMDR therapy is based on the model of
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adaptive information processing and this
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model suggests that we are hardwired for
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healing that we have an innate ability
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to lean ourselves towards health and
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wellness and to resolution and it's it's
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a learning theory so it suggests that
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everything that we have ever experienced
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in our life is is seen and learned and
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in our environments we learn to adapt to
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our environments based on what we're
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experiencing and so we're taking in
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information all the time and in so doing
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we learn to course correct or shift or
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adapt so for example if I had a family
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where my parents were fighting all the
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time and they were really angry I might
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learn to adapt to stay small just keep
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to myself to not be a problem to be a
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peacemaker to to try to get everybody to
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calm down to be a perfectionist and
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never be the reason that anyone's upset
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so I learned to adapt to my environment
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and kind of everything that we are doing
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in our life we learned somewhere and so
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what I love is the reverse engineering
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process of EMDR therapy as a therapist
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is really getting curious about what
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happened to cause someone to behave in
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whatever presenting issues they're
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behaving yeah so so how does it exactly
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work though where does it go so
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everything with the MDR therapy is about
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memory work okay how is memory encoded
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and I love the movie Inside Out because
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they do such a good job illustrating how
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memory Works they show core memories
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that are positive and then over time you
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kind of see memories shift depending on
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how people showed up for you and then
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when we get to resolution and there's a
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repair you see the way that memory is
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held shift to a more positive way and in
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that scene and I think we'll show a clip
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right here of the scene that I'm talking
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about where the way memory is encoded
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drastically drastically affects how we
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show up in the world
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anyway these are Riley's memories and
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they're mostly happy you'll notice not
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to brag
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[Music]
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they're really in
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I don't want to get too technical but
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these are called core memories each one
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came from a super important time in
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Riley's life like when she first scored
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a goal that was so amazing
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and each core memory Powers a different
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aspect of Riley's personality like
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hockey Island
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[Applause]
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goofball island is my personal favorite
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come back here you little monkey and so
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everything with the MDR therapy is about
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memory work and we're working to resolve
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memories that were maladaptively encoded
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with very specific set of information
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how we feel emotionally how our body
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takes in data the sensations that are
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with it and then the thoughts that
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couple up about myself you know I'm not
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good enough I'm not smart enough I'm not
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safe I'm powerless there's nothing I can
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do the way we experience the world we
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sometimes get stuck because of the way
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memory gets thwarted in time and it kind
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of acts as if it's still happening right
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so we end up with with with trauma
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responses that are based in a Time
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orientation issue in the past yeah and
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so ultimately we're working with memory
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and all of the memory work that we
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address in EMDR therapy has to do with
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resolving memory that was thwarted in
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time so what if I only have one
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traumatic event happen to me
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some people claim they don't have any
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traumatic events but they know
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something's not quite right very true
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and they come in and they go my
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childhood was perfect everything was
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great my parents loved me I have no
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problems but I don't know why I am so
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anxious or I don't know why I always
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have to be perfect or I don't know why I
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can't tolerate when my husband's upset
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with me and so we take whatever the
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presenting issues are and we decide how
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are we going to approach from an EMDR
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therapy approach or the AIP lens what
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are we going to use are we going to need
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to use some techniques that help just
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create some stress reduction or some
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symptom reduction is that primarily what
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someone wants to address or is there a
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specific protocol maybe they want to
12:38
address an addiction or maybe they have
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a phobia or about something so we might
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want to use a specific protocol to
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address a presenting problem but the way
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I tend to approach my clients for the
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most part is really with a full
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comprehensive psychotherapy approach
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because what I love about EMDR therapy
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is it doesn't just it's not just for
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symptom reduction
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we can address problems with low
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self-esteem we can address developmental
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deficits from attachment injuries and
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help to promote adaptive responses in
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the now that better match our current
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level of safety in our current selves
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and ultimately a more adult response
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that has space between the stimulus and
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our reaction so that it matches who I
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want to be more in line with the values
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that I hold today so it can be a really
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comprehensive full self approach and I
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think that it's so beautiful because it
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promotes personal growth it promotes the
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Therapeutic Alliance so the relationship
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is so critical kind of like an EFT
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therapy honestly where we really rely on
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in a full comprehensive
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psychotherapeutic approach that the
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relationship is the greatest predictor
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for outcome and that's in all therapies
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quite frankly right and so I love with
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with using MDR therapy that there's this
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moment to moment Attunement and
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awareness where we're able to help build
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in real time repair right we'll be we're
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able to show up for a client now in ways
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that people didn't address them in the
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past and so they can start to make new
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memories in accordance with what's true
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now and so through the therapeutic
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relationship and uh connection and
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safety in the now people start to build
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more capacity to tolerate distress but
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they also build trust and resilience
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right right I think that speaks so much
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to about how humans are made for
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connection right and if we can model
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that as a therapist and they can try it
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on in the real world quote unquote I say
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right what a beautiful thing as almost
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an investment to themselves long term as
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you're talking about for all these
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future relationships they practice they
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practice with us yeah so that they can
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they can emulate or replicate the safety
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in this relationship yeah and moving it
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out into the real world with their other
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relationships I always say borrow it
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from me until you own it for yourself
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Perfect Right absolutely so EMDR Works
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to address three prongs IT addresses the
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past IT addresses present triggers and
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present issues and it also addresses
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future
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experiences so when someone comes in and
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they say something like I've never been
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in a plane crash I've never had anything
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bad happen to me in an airplane but I am
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just petrified to go on an airplane we
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can actually Target proactively an
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anticipatory anxiety and we can address
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imagining being in the plane Imagining
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the worst case scenario and we can
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reprocess future anxiety around worst
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case scenario situations bringing relief
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to a person and allowing them some
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capacity to go on that that plane trip
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that's so awesome right you know being
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able to think ahead in that way too so
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I'm coming to therapy and I'm ready to
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start EMDR what exactly does that
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process look like so EMDR therapy is an
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eight phase process and a lot of times
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clients will say you know I went to
16:10
another EMDR therapist but you know we
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never did any reprocessing and I say how
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many times did you see them oh I went
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four times but we never did any
16:18
reprocessing and so I'll say Well when
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we're using this lens of treatment we're
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thinking through things globally and so
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there are eight phases in the first
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phase and you might have only ended up
16:31
in the first couple of phases and maybe
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that's why you didn't do any
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reprocessing but we have to do a
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thorough history taking if we're doing a
16:38
a comprehensive approach so we still
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have to get a thorough history from our
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clients people need to tell us you know
16:45
their stories and we need our
16:47
generational history we need Grandma and
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Grandpa we need Mom and Dad because the
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way I'm listening is how far back did
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someone need to learn the adaptations
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that they are currently dealing with and
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so I'm listening for the landscape of
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their story their history their uh their
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socioeconomic backgrounds the the
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careers and jobs that their parents and
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grandparents had I'm listening for where
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were their parents in birth order was
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there any trauma in their families
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stories so there's a lot of history that
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I want to be thorough about especially
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when thinking about that developmental
17:24
lens and the attachment traumas that
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happen in so many people because I want
17:28
to hear where did these fractures
17:30
originate and it might not just be in
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the story of the client in front of me
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it might be that they're carrying some
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of the generational burden of their pain
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yeah absolutely so the second phase that
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we have to address is the preparation
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phase this is where we do
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psychoeducation we do stabilization we
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teach some coping skills but most
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importantly we learn if the client can
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State change meaning I can go from a
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state of arousal and I can trust that my
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body can bring me back to a state of
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calm call me enough we don't have to be
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calm calm but we have to know that we
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can shift a little bit and that's what
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we're working on to understand in the
18:07
preparation phase and and it's important
18:09
that once we have the ability for State
18:11
change that we can do some summary
18:14
processing so phase three is the
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assessment phase this is where a client
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says to us
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this is what I want to work on these are
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the problems that I'm struggling with
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this is how I want my life to look when
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it's effective and then this is where we
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reverse engineer what we're dealing with
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the presenting issue and that it's tied
18:34
back in memory somewhere in the past and
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these are where the presenting issues
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are stuck or thwarted in real time and
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so we'll assess and then we get into the
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desensitization phase and in that phase
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we are actually actively reprocessing
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memories in that phase we are combining
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a set of specific elements and we are
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using specific protocols in order to
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address the uh the maladaptively encoded
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material and so after the
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desensitization phase we are then doing
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what we call an installation phase so we
19:11
are plucking out the negative belief
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that got stuck in our trauma time and we
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are installing something that's more
19:18
adaptive so if my negative belief was
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you know I'm not good enough then my
19:23
positive belief is I am enough I'm good
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enough as I am and so it's really
19:29
beautiful because now we're working our
19:30
way still reprocessing but on a more
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adaptive side of our memory networks and
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it's so powerful and exciting to get to
19:38
see people really start to believe the
19:40
truth about what's now which is I am
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enough even if other people don't like
19:44
what I did or what I said or I don't
19:46
have to be perfect I'm enough as I am
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and then of course the next phase is our
19:52
body scan when we are dealing with
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trauma our body is the first to adapt
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and it's the last to let go so we're
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checking our work we're we're fully
20:03
installing a positive belief after we've
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reprocessed the memories associated with
20:07
current day issues and we are checking
20:11
the body for any residual tension or
20:13
tightness or perhaps information or data
20:16
that says we've got more work to do and
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so we check the body for for the rest of
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the work related to this memory
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and then we do closure so this is where
20:26
we do some grounding and stabilization
20:28
and make sure that the client is in a
20:30
good space so that they can go back into
20:32
the world because they can feel a little
20:33
jumbled and messy through this
20:35
reprocessing experience and we want to
20:38
ground them and make sure they're
20:39
they're good to go off to the races yeah
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and if we don't get through the entire
20:44
sequence of the arousal and dearousal of
20:47
reprocessing a memory we at the next
20:50
session or or afterward we'll need to
20:52
reevaluate and see what we still need to
20:54
do where does the memory sit and what do
20:58
we need to address still that's not
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fully resolved yeah absolutely I think
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just speaking to also like phase five
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that installation phase right
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that's like I feel like we're we're so
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much of the magic is too because that's
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that investment part right that's the
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piece that clients can take with them
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after because now they have this
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newfound this new meaning they're making
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from their trauma which is so awesome
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right so yeah and that's what is That's
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Where It's At yes we can totally be in
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love with the fact that I don't just
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have a reduction in symptoms and I don't
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have a reduction in distress right but I
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feel like an entirely different person
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right I'm not just oh I'm not good
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enough and like I got rid of that no I
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put something else there now that I can
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move forward with how incredible I love
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it so good well thank you so much for
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for joining me today and for us to talk
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about EMDR therapy a little bit and just
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give our viewers a bit of a taste of
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what they can expect with EMDR therapy
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and how it works and of course why we
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love it so thank you so much of course
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thank you thank you so much for tuning
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in like we talked about we talked about
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the history of EMDR therapy a little bit
22:05
about how it works we also talked about
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the phases in EMDR therapy and I will be
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talking more about this topic what it
22:14
can treat and how we think it works in
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our next episode don't forget to lead
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with love it'll never steer you wrong
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foreign
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