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Learn to focus on Yourself.
The life changing skill most people never master
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Hello, dear ones.
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Welcome to this space.
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Today, as we explore the life-changing
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skills [music]
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that can enhance our emotional capacity,
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build our personal growth, and
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cause our lives to evolve.
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Today,
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we will look on
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learning how to focus on yourself.
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[music]
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Yes, you. How to focus on yourself.
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Okay?
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Where is your energy
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going?
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This is the question
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we are beginning with.
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Okay? [music]
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Imagine waking up
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tomorrow and discovering that every
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thought, every emotion, every worry,
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every comparison, every attempt [music]
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to please others, every argument
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repeated in your mind, and every effort
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[music] spent trying to control things
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outside your control had been recorded.
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Now, imagine receiving
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a report showing exactly where your
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mental and emotional energy went over
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the past [music] month.
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How much would you have
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gone
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towards your own growth? [music]
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Your own
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peace.
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Your own dreams.
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>> [music]
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>> Your
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own feeling.
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And how much would you have spent
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[music]
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on what
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other people think,
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what other people are doing,
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what other people have, what other
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people said, what other people might do,
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or how other people perceive you.
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For many of us,
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the answer is uncomfortable.
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Because somewhere along the way,
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we became [music] experts of monitoring
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everyone else's life while becoming
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strangers
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to our own.
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Today's message
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is not
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at uh uh asking you to become
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selfish, [music]
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but that you become
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very intentional.
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Because one of the greatest [music]
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transformation in life begins when you
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stop managing everyone [music]
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else's journey and start investing
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deeply in your own.
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>> [music]
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>> Now, let me talk briefly about the the
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the the the destruction trap.
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Many of us
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are not
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exhausted because
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we we we have too much to do.
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But we have we are exhausted [music]
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because our attention was scattered.
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Think about how much energy people
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spend.
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Or think about how much energy you
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[music] spend comparing, explaining
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yourself, seeking approval, trying to
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fix people, trying to rescue people,
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trying to make everyone happy, trying to
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control outcome,
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trying to fit into spaces that do not
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appreciate
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you, trying to convince others of their
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values. The result
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you become emotionally overextended and
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personally under developed.
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The truth is this,
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every minute spent observing
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or obsessing over someone else's life is
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a minute not invested in your own.
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And slowly, without noticing it, years
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passed.
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Dreams remain untouched.
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Healing remain remains postponed. Growth
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remains delayed. Not because
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opportunities or not because opportunity
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was not there,
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but because attention was elsewhere.
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Now, let me bring you to this waking up
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question.
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I want you to consider a powerful
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question.
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What would happen if you would redirect
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even half of the energy you spend
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worrying about others towards [music]
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you?
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Imagine focusing
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>> [music]
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>> on your emotional health, your
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confidence, your purpose, your habits,
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your goals, your healing,
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your mindset, your relationship,
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your future.
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>> [music]
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>> What could change in 6 months,
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1 year, 5 years?
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Many people underestimate the power of
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focused attention. [music]
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Where attention goes, growth follows.
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Where energy goes, transformation
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follows. The life you want may not
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require more effort. It may require
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better [music] direction of effort. Did
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you hear that?
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Now,
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why
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do people
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avoid focusing on on themselves? Why do
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you avoid focusing on yourself?
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Now, let us talk honestly.
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Why is focusing on yourself so
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difficult?
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Because when you focus on yourself, you
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meet yourself.
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You see your fears,
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your unfinished healing,
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>> your insecurities,
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your responsibilities, [music] your
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potentials.
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And sometimes that feels uncomfortable.
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It is easier to analyze
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other people's lives than examine your
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own.
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Easier to criticize others than
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challenge yourself.
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Easier to focus [music] on
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external drama than internal growth.
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But every meaningful transformation
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begins with self-awareness.
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>> [music]
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>> Opposite of self-awareness is
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self-judgment.
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Self-awareness,
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the courage to ask,
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"Who am I becoming?
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What am I avoiding?
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What do I need?
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What deserves my attention?
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What kind of life am I creating through
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my daily choices?
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These questions are powerful because
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they bring your focus home,
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back to where your influence [music]
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actually exists.
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They
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act as your filters.
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Real life filters.
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Now, let's take this exercise, the
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circle of control.
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Let's do a simple mental exercise.
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>> [music]
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>> Imagine two circles.
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The first The first circle contains
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everything you cannot control.
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Other people's opinion,
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other people's
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uh decisions, other people's behavior,
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other people's expectation, [music]
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the past, the future, circumstances
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beyond your influence.
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Now,
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imagine a second [music] circle.
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This circle contain
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contains [music] everything
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you can influence.
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Your attitude, your choices, your
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mindset, your habits,
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your healing, your responses, your
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growth, your character, your boundaries,
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>> [music]
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>> your daily actions.
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Most people spend
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>> [music]
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>> their lives living in the first circle.
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And they wonder why they feel powerless.
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[music]
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But peace begin
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when you return your attention to the
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second circle.
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The circle where your power actually
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lives.
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What happened when you focus on
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yourself?
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Something remarkable happen when you
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genuinely begin focusing on yourself.
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You become calmer
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because you stop carrying
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responsibilities that are not yours.
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You become clearer
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because your mind is no longer crowded
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with unnecessary noise.
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You become stronger
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because [music] your energy is finally
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supporting your own growth.
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You become more confident
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because confidence
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grows through self-connection.
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You become more authentic
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because you stop shaping your life
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around constant external validation.
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Excuse me.
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And perhaps most importantly
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you begin creating a life that reflects
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who you are rather than
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who others expect [music] you to be.
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This is self-responsibility.
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>> [music]
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>> And understand that it is not
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selfishness.
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And there is a difference.
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>> [music]
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>> What you have you have to look at
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is a daily focus reset.
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Every morning
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ask yourself these five questions.
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[music]
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What deserves my energy today?
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What deserves my attention today?
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>> What can I improve today?
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What can I appreciate today?
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What do I want to become today?
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Notice that none of these questions
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require you to monitor anyone else.
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Because your greatest project is not
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another person.
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It is your own growth.
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Your own healing. Your own peace. Your
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own wellness. Your own becoming.
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As we close, remember this.
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The quality of your life is deeply
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influenced by
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where you place your attention.
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You cannot build your future
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while constantly living inside someone
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[music]
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else's story.
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You cannot discover your potential
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while continuously comparing yourself to
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others.
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You cannot fully hear your own voice
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while living for other people's
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approval.
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Now, [music] take a deep breath in.
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Inhale newness.
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>> Release the past.
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>> [music]
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>> Take a deep breath in.
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Inhale a fresh start.
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Release the past.
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So, today, gently bring your focus back
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home.
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Back to your healing.
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Back to your growth.
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Back to your purpose. Back to your life.
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Because the moment you begin investing
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in your energy
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is that time
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the power within you or it is when the
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power within you becomes activated and
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life begins to [music] happen.
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You stop merely watching life
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and you begin creating it. And that is
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where real transformation begins.
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I wish you
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the strength you need
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to move through in life.
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I wish you the very
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as you move on.
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Let your willingness
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to become better
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be built
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with that capacity to keep going.
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Your expansion
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knows no bound
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as you begin [music]
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to focus on yourself.
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Share this with someone.
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Comment your thoughts. Let us know what
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you think. [music]
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And have a blessed day.
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