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I was pregnant at 15. Now I'm a mom of two
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We got a lot of comments that we shouldn't have kids so young. You should be worried about school and being young, not spreading your legs
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Children shouldn't be having children. People assume that I'm going to leave or like the kids aren't mine
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Single mom in the making. My dad and my stepmom were so angry. They said I was too young to have a child
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My dad was like, no, stay away from my daughter. I don't want you near my daughter
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As soon as my dad started to accept it, I found out I was pregnant again
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Today we're gonna have a conversation with my STEM mom. I'm nervous to hear her actual thoughts
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She usually doesn't hold back. How do you and my dad feel about the second pregnancy? Um..
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He's ready for the bottom. I'm Trina and I'm 19. I'm Wilson and I'm 19
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And we're teen parents of two kids. One is two years old, his name is Amir
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And then Jace, he's four months old. I would describe Amir as funny
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He's always like dancing and like making everyone laugh. And then Jace is very like calm and hungry
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Like he wants that bottle like right away. When Amir was born, I was 16
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When Jace was born, I was just turned 19. I always see myself as being a mom, just not at this age
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I never envisioned myself being a dad at such an early age
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Never in a million years. It was a big turning point at that time. My whole perspective changed my life
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My morning before I had kids, I would just wake up and go to school
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and then after school, I'll come back home and go to sleep. Now, I wake up early. You have to wake up before 8.50 in the morning to give Jaycee's medicine
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That's the huge responsibility I would say for now is, like, the hearing aids for Amir and his medicine
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Amir! Music! Where's your microphone? Amir has a syndrome called Warnberg syndrome
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which causes eyes to be blue, comes with hearing loss. They gave him hearing aids
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Chase when he was born he was extremely yellow He wasn waking up He wasn crying He wasn eating Found out that he had seizures and brain bleeds Right now we just know he has epilepsy There a lot of responsibilities added on to our lives
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I feel like I was very immature and I made a lot of mistakes when I was younger
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Now I have kids like, let me be mature, let me grow up. We were really young
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The only thing we were doing was going to school and coming home. The only thing that changed was more so us working, us having more things to do
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like dropping the kids off daycare, doctor's appointments, having more things to do, like add to our list
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I mainly work since morning to afternoon. So all credits to her
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She takes care of the kids from there. Then once I get home, you know, I help out
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I can make a bottle. I take care of the little one. He eats a lot
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Sometimes we feed him four ounces, and then he starts crying, and then we give him like two more ounces, and he just goes for his food
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I mainly just started posting about Amira's Wordenberg. Just to get answers and clarity of, will my son be okay
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I just wanted to show that I'm a teen parent. I wanted to let that be known. I used to get comments like, your life must be so hard now
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People saying you guys can take care of them right, or you guys win your life
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I feel like there's a lot of stigma about being teen parents because they probably don't think we can handle it
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or they probably think we aren't going to be as responsible as older people
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You should be worried about school and being young, not spreading your legs. Okay
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There's a lot of people our age that do the same thing. They just don't get the same results or they just choose a different result
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We made that decision to keep our kids. So for us, that's our own route
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Single mom in the making. I love this girl to death. That would never happen to my part
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Children shouldn't be having children. When you're 18-year-old adult, just wait two years and finish high school
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So, one, we graduated on time. Two, I'm still taking college classes
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I actually brought my son on stage to grab my diploma so that was a very big moment for me as well We went to her graduation as well and we just shouted in from the back like hey there you go mama Having a baby doesn stop nothing I still doing the same thing that kids my age are doing
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They're in school. I'm still in school. They're living their life, and I'm living mine just with kids
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When I first got pregnant, I was living with my parents, and he was living with his mom
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My family reacted very disappointed and upset. When my dad was like, didn't say nothing, he was more so crying and wouldn't like really look at me
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My dad was like, no, stay away from my daughter. I don't want you near my daughter
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He just didn't want to see him or talk to him. It was just very negative at that point
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I had a lot of anger in me because I wasn't thinking about his perspective or anything
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I was just thinking about myself. I was thinking, oh, how can you not let me see her after this
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I was just really upset. Now that I look back at it, I understand his perspective
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You know, his daughter, 15, having a baby. It was just our families clashing against each other because we didn't, we never had like a talk
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We never had a talk at that point. Hey guys, how are you
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Today we're going to have a conversation with my stem mom. We haven't had a conversation about it since I was pregnant for the second time
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I'm nervous to hear her actual thoughts. She usually doesn't hold back
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How did you feel when I was pregnant for the first time? Oh my God, I was in shock
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I found out two days before you tell me, and I was so upset
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Your dad was acting kind of weird those days. When he called me that day at the room, I said, what is it
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He told me at once, Trina is pregnant. And I was like, what
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We are trying to do our best as a parent. Even I'm not your mom, but I try to do the best for you guys
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And it hurt my feelings a lot. How did you and my dad feel about the second pregnancy
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We were 18, we found out we were pregnant again. My dad, I told him first
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He was like why would you tell me this right now My stepmom she just didn say nothing she was just quiet and I couldn see her reaction I say they were very shocked and disappointed
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We were so upset. That means we were in shock, especially the way that we find out
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We held it in for so long because we weren't sure if Jace was going to make it or not
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because during the procedures, they did tell me there was a high chance that he wasn't going to make it
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So we didn't want everybody to like deal with what we were going through
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But I would like to know it before even if something happened. I was upset about the pregnancies, the both pregnancies, the way that we find out
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I understand that you guys, you know, my dad were very disappointed and didn't agree with our decisions
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But I do respect that you guys were very helpful and still treated my kids like they were yours
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I'm very grateful for that because most parents would have just kicked their kids out. So I'm very grateful for that
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I see the responsibility that you guys have, and you guys are doing so well
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I'll be there for you always. All right, guys. Thank you. Me, personally, I have no regrets in my life
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I feel like this is probably the best thing that ever happened to me because it's changed my perspective and made me mature early on
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It makes me work harder every single day. Like, that's my why now
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Parenting, actually, like, it's like fun. Kids are always happy. They're like little angels
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They're looking at us and they're just like smiling, and it's just like, why am I sad right now
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I have my person, like I have my babies. It gave us like a purpose, in a way
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There's no need to judge people for making their decisions at a young age
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We're still doing what we have to do for our kids and also for ourselves. And if you do judge, it's not really our issue
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Keep on hating. We're still living. We're still gonna take care of our kids
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We're still gonna grow together and have fun. Just be positive, man