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I had my first child at 13
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They all said that I would amount to nothing. Never in my life did I imagine that I would be a grandma at 31 years old
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How could you allow your daughter to do the exact same thing that you've done? The apple doesn't fall far from the tree
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If any of my other girls were to become super young teen moms, I would support them
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Doing my hair and makeup makes me feel like a person that's alive
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and put together. I feel like when I'm put together, I can take better care of people
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because I've been taken care of first. I have four daughters. Alicia is 24. Ariana is 18
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Addison is 16. And Aaliyah is 11. I was 13 years old when I gave birth to Alicia
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As a pregnant teenager, I was judged so much. They all said that I would amount to nothing
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I destroyed my life. They didn't help me do anything, but strive to be a better person
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and prove people wrong. I had to make sure that I got through and did everything that I needed to do
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because I had a baby that was relying on me to get an education and to better myself
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I stayed in school. I continued to get straight A's. I graduated on time with my class. When I
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had Ariana, which is my second daughter. I was 19 and then I had Addison two weeks before I turned
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21. So I had three daughters by the time I was 21. Having my girls so young, I truly feel like
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we grew up together. So I was learning how to life as I was teaching them how to be little
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independent humans. Never in my life did I imagine that I would be a grandma at 31 years old
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and crack the center. Whoa! There you go. How about we do half of the half
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Let me do some So this is part of my family Daniel is my husband Alicia is my oldest Aaliyah is my youngest
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Ivory Rose is my oldest grandbaby. And then we have the baby, Haseley Ray
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She's the boss of everybody. It's so good. If you couldn't tell. My grandgirls call me Mimi
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There is literally no way you're calling me Grandma. Being a granddad is awesome
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You get to go have fun with them. and then send them back to their mom
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So that's a pretty good deal. So, Alia, how old were you when you became an aunt
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Um, five or six? I don't remember. What does everybody think of her aunt of a grandma
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Old person. Just that, like, it's old. So do you think your mom fits that, or is she different from that
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She fits that. Oh, so she's old! Wow. Give me a little egg
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No, we're not wasting more food. Ew! I want a little egg
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It's a potion, I have to. So we just made some weird egg mixture
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It's cute! So how did you feel about becoming a grandpa? That we don't get to her anymore
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So when Alicia told me she was pregnant at 17, my whole heart was shattered
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I know what it's like to be a super young mom, and it is never anything that I wanted my girls to experience
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But as a super young teen mom, of course, the only thing that I'm going to do is be supportive
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Hey, we're going to make a TikTok. Come on, let's do your nails. Mimi loves painting your toes
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Don't you like when we match? So I decided to start sharing my life on social media
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I'm a millennial grandma. Of course, my daughter is a Gen Z
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Last year, I made my first TikTok. It went viral. And now my niche on TikTok is teen pregnancy
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It's not what I like talking about all the time, but it's what goes viral
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At 12 years old, I knew I was pregnant. But at 12 years old do you really know what being pregnant is It a mixed reaction because the internet has allowed bullies to hide behind their keyboard
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and say s*** they would never say to somebody's face. It's kind of comical, but here's some of the things people have said to me
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How could you allow your daughter to do the exact same thing that you've done? The apple doesn't fall far from the tree
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Wow, don't you know that birth control exists? It's a vicious cycle, babies having babies
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It is. but we are the cycle breakers and it stops with my other girls
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For those who think I'm glamorizing or promoting teen pregnancy, you truly don't know me
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Oh, you are so smart. I'm simply sharing my life and if it bothers you, that's a you problem
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How would you describe the role you should share? We're very close
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I mean, we always have our ins and outs, but I think that's just because we're so close in age
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I definitely think that her being a teen mom supported me more
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She really was there for me as much as I needed her to be. So what were some of the challenges that the two of you had when you learned that Alicia was pregnant
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I was really scared. I was so scared that you were going to be so mad at me
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When you told me that you were pregnant, I felt like I was getting my daughter back because you were on this not so good path
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So I truly feel like Ivory is such a blessing and truly changed your life for the better
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Made me grow up a little bit. A lot, actually. Yeah. That's a huge obstacle
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It kind of brought us closer together, too. Because then you knew why I feel the way that I feel because you're a mom now
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What kinds of comments do you see, Michelle, about Alicia's situation? What a repeated cycle
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That your girls are going to make me a great grandma by the time that I'm 45
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I don't think so. What mama or Mimi? It definitely hurts me to see her get that type of comments on her stuff because she was a great mom
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I mean she took care of me so young did it basically by herself If my sister Ariana got pregnant around the same age as I did I probably be very disappointed in her honestly
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because she's seen me and my mom go through it. I feel like she should wait and live her life first
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If any of my other girls were to become super young team moms, I would support them
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I would support them. As a young mom, I know what it's like to be looked down on, to feel like you're by yourself, and to not know what's coming next
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So, Ariana, I call her my teen pregnancy cycle breaker because she graduated high school
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She has no babies. She has zero desire to have any babies. I feel like what I've learned from you is that you've just always shown up for me
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I mean, never left my side, always been there for me whenever I need you
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You being raised by me has taught you that you can overcome anything in life
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And I'm so proud of the way that you raised these girls. They are definitely a handful
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They are so loved, so well taken care of, so smart. And it's all a reflection of you
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I feel like what makes a good parent is being there, being present, showing up
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I mean, you can buy your kid anything, but being there is physically what they really want
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I hope anybody that is watching our story unfold sees and knows that they can get through anything in life
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It's definitely hard, but we can definitely get through it. For my family as a whole in the future, I hope that we continue to grow and our bond becomes stronger
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and the cycle of teen pregnancy continues to be broken because there's a lot more girls in this family that still need to grow up