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The doctors didn't believe my baby was mine
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Are you sure I shouldn't ask for maternity tests? I had to carry ID cards for my kids just to prove that they are mine
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I just want to be a mom. It's Mila, baby. What happened at the bus
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Oh. Let's do some job with Jack, Jack. We got to do job with Jack
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Let's do some job with Jack, Jack. Hi, my name is Tina
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Hi, my name is Anton. This is Mila and she is 10 months old
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And this is Michelle. How old are you? Two years old. How long have we been together, guys, and how did you meet
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Well, we've been together for, what is it, four years now? Yeah, four years
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Four years. We met through a very famous dating app. For my first date, it was like magic
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Okay, that's what I have to say. Are you ready to bake? Yes, say yay
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Hold it, put it there. Cut it, cut it. Done! Well done
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Can you please tell me about how it was giving birth? She came when she was seven months old
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I would never, in my widest imagination, thought my daughter was going to be redhead
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even if my husband was. My daughter wasn't looking half-Nangirian. I keep getting that thing in my head
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She really might, because she doesn't look like me. But a lot of family and friends keep saying
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don't worry, she's going to get darker. Her color's going to change. It's going to be OK
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But here we are. She's the cutest ginger ever. Is it nice? Yeah. Mm
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really nice. I had to put her in a special care. And I was changing her diaper
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There was a doctor who came to check on her. And I saw her waiting for like 10 minutes
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So I asked her are you waiting for someone Or she said no I waiting for the mom to come because I have to talk to her about something And I like I the mom The doctor said oh sorry I thought you were the nanny
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She was apologizing, and I told her it was fine because anybody would have asked
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And that was my first experience I had with her. And after then, it actually dawned on me that
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girl, I have to be ready when I go out of the hospital
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because anything at this point is possible. It's raw. You shouldn't eat it
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Okay, you have to just put it in here, yeah? You want to try it like mama, like this
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When Mila was also born, she was also red-haired. I had a big experience at the supermarket as well
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So Mila started crying. She was really crying so hard, and this lady just woke up to me
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I don't think the mother is going to like her crying. Do you need help? I just straight up just told her no
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Thank you. She's my daughter. How does this make you feel? I feel overwhelmed
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I feel blessed. I feel exhausted from explaining myself. I just want to be a mom
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I just want to be looked as a mom. I don't want to be always attacked with that question
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So I just want to show you guys this. So this is Michelle's ID card
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I always have to take it with me, even though I don't want to take it, but just so I don't get asked questions that I'm not prepared for
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Yeah, it's very uncommon for Dutch children to have an ID. Yeah
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I have a surprise for you guys. I'm going to be giving away this pair of shoes
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because it's 2025 and it's going to be giveaway season. When do you start posting social media
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So I've been posting for so long. I used to do hair tutorials, makeup and stuff. That was black in the days
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So when I got married and I had my baby, I still really didn't post my childbirth and everything because it was a little bit too much for me
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But after all the comments I've been getting for physical contact with people and stuff
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I thought maybe it time for me to just share it Let me just post it on social media just for the fun of it I really wanted to see like what is going in people head when they see this After nine months of pregnancy this is what I got and it went crazy Like it was all
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over the internet. Let me read some of the comments that I've been getting. The first one is
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you are not the baby, the baby mother. My reaction to this comment is I'm the mother
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deal with it. The second comment is maternity test for mom. Please
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I don't blame you for this comment because sometimes when I look at her, I'm like
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are you sure I shouldn't ask for maternity test? This comment says
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were you even there, sis? I was there. You're going to see the proof
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when they grow up. They're going to have my nose. They're going to have some of my chin
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So it's going to be okay. Are you a house sitter or a baby sitter
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Because they don't look like yours. I am all of the above
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I'm everything. So it's a whole list of jobs that is added to motherhood
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And I'm taking it all in. I am the mom. I love my kids
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I love the way they look. They look amazing. I'm grateful. And I'm just blessed to have them
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My husband is not someone who is not a social media person. is more like a chill guy
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more like, don't want to do my thing. What does that mean
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That has to do with anything. You're chill, though. When I said I got a bad comment
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and you were telling me on the stairs, you have to choose. If you want to keep doing social media
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you need to know about the comment, you have to... You're going to get bad comments. Yeah. There's bad people
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so people are going to say bad stuff. Okay, are you ready
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And if that's going to affect you, then you shouldn't be in social media
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And since then, she's not been focusing on the negative comments, just on positive comments
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As my manager? As your manager of your mental health. I also got a lot of comments from Nigerians from my country as well They were saying oh she doesn look like us but it fine
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Keep the look. You got our gin because it's in there. She's eating African food, spicy food, everything
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She's eating it. She loves it. What happened at the bus? Oh, I was asked for an ID
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So I don't know if it's because it was international boss or whatever, but I was literally asked for an ID
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And I had to call my husband to send me a screenshot of the passport from Mila because I didn't have an ID card for her
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I didn't really take it personal, but we were the only one that was asked
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So you don't see this as discrimination? I'm not calling it as discrimination
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I just feel, think, like, it's just strange for people to think you have a child that doesn't look like you
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So it's always a stare when you go out there with your kids and everybody's like, oh, they're so cute
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They got redhead. Anton, when he's with me, we don't get the question a lot
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We only get that stare. But when I'm alone, I get a lot of stare, a lot of question, a lot of doubting
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You see it on people's faces. It's such a thing that now, if I am going anywhere, I'm just double prepared
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I just have to be ready. I'm just overthinking things. What if? What if
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Yeah, no, no. Yeah. my gene is gonna fight back in the next round okay so i need you guys to pray for me at this point
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i hope we can continue this journey and show people how amazing our children are and we are
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happy with our children and in the future and we want to see them be that person that they want to
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be i want to see them grow with the positive comments and the excitement of everything around them
