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I was a pregnant dad with twins at 19
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What makes daddy special? Having a baby in your dad. I am 39 and 2
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I recently gave birth to another baby girl, and now I'm a trans dad to three kids
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People accuse me of lying about my pregnancies. They couldn't believe I was a man carrying a child
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I've had comments saying, it's so funny, I'm sorry, that my pregnant belly was AI
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and that my baby was a reborn doll. When I came out to my parents
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transgender at 16, they were shocked. I think they were hoping it was a phase. I was angry. It didn't make sense
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Surely you knew that something was going on. Can I have a plate, ma'am
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No. Okay, thanks. My name is Aiden. I was assigned female at birth
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I was pregnant at 19 with twins, and I just gave birth to another baby
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This is Quinn. This is Carter. We got Claire's mom and we have baby Cove
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She's having a good nap. I would describe my family as any typical family
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We're just like everyone else. Who is this? She's your baby what
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You're a great big sister, aren't you? Yeah. Quinn's kind of shy
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Carter is very outgoing. She's Miss Personality. and Cove is just the perfect balance between the two of them. She's a very easy baby
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Say good morning. Before my transition, I just felt very lost. Growing up, we didn't really talk about gender
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It wasn't something that we ever discussed in our family, but when I found out you could be
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transgender, I felt like I fit in that box. How old were you when you first came out to your
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So I was 16. The initial reaction was not good. Just wasn't having it
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I was 18 when I first started hormone treatment. They were not on board with that at all
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And I think that made it real for them. You know I think they were hoping it was a phase I realized I wanted to have children early on I knew that answer I got pregnant with the twins doing IUI which stands for interuterine insemination
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I didn't know I was having two babies. It was very scary and overwhelming at first because I was young and I could barely keep myself alive
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And then I was suddenly responsible for not one, but two babies. Do you like to go to Pride, girls
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Yes, go again. Yes, go again. Pride is super important in our family
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It's full of love and we want our kids to know that they're loved no matter what
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What makes daddy special? Having a baby in his belly. All the daddies can have babies but they can't because it's only special
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Yes, that's true. Were you in daddy's belly or were you in mommy's belly
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Da-da. Da-da. Yeah. Ready? We don't really believe in gender-specific toys. We kind of just let them gravitate towards whatever their interests are in
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Did it get burned in battle? Yeah, we lost his sword. He lost his sword
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Oh yeah. Even with clothes. Like Quinn. Quinn has boxers. Quinn literally has boxers
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Oh, he's going to have a big load. Uh oh. It's too heavy. Oh
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My turn. I met Claire. We were working at Starbucks together. We kind of just became friends at first, and our relationship just took off from there
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OK, come on. We're going to pick out Coven outfit. How did the twins react to her joining the family
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The twins reacted really well to Claire. I was very open and honest from the beginning about wanting to have another baby
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When we got closer to the two year mark, we decided to discuss what it would take
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and how adding another baby would fit into our family. The twins were about to turn four
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and we decided let's just go ahead and do it. You like that one? Okay, that's a good choice
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What do you like, Quinny? I think it's a little bit too cold for that one
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but it is very pretty. When you became pregnant with Code, How did you explain your pregnancy to the twins
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They just reacted completely normal. They just think that daddy is daddy and daddy can have babies
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Does it make you happy? Do you love baby Tizzy? Yeah. Yeah. They were super excited and they were like screaming you have a baby in your belly Like it was great It was awesome Can you tell me some of your favorite things about being a big sister I like to play with her and dress her up I like changing your diaper
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Seeing my body become more feminine during the pregnancy was really hard
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This time when I had the baby, I had already had my breasts removed
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So that in and of itself was easier, but I lost my whole beard
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It still is not grown back, Even though I opted into having a pregnancy, you know, I still feel how I feel as a person
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and watching that version of myself fade away was really hard. I originally started posting online about being trans and pregnant when I had the twins
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I just woke up. I am five days post-C-section. The postpartum, like, hormone drop. It hit me pretty hard
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The reactions, you know, there was a few good ones. We're going to the pool
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But 90, 95% of them were bad. I mean, people were saying horrible, awful things
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This is an adjustment period, okay? And I'm trying my best out here. At first, it was so upsetting
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Now it's like funny to me that people go out of their way to be unkind and nasty to me
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because I'm just a typical dad. Someone said, who's going to be your kid's dad
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Obviously, we're in a typical situation. So, you know, he is the dad and I'm the mom
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Someone said confused generation. When I met Aiden, he was 100% sure this is what he wanted to do
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He wanted to have a family. I'm anything but confused. The most commented thing on every single video was that poor baby or those poor kids
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And it is the farthest thing from the truth. Our family is just a little different
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But, you know, we still do all the normal things. Our kids are loved and great and they have great lives
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Positive feedback, people online commenting, this is all they needed to see
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to let them know that this was possible. I wish I had a dad like you
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That's what I'm talking about. I mean, that's the ultimate goal. That's the highest compliment you can get as a parent
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My mom's coming over to visit today, and we going to discuss how my transition made her feel and our relationship today Hi baby Hi It was I was very upset when you told me you wanted to transition
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I was angry. I didn't understand it. I thought it was made up. And in my mind, I had a vision for your life
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No way did you become a transgender. Did that ever fit into my vision
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It was challenging to me. Yeah. I was afraid for you. It all makes sense
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yeah especially now that i'm a parent i understand when it comes down to like this is my child
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and then i realized oh you're the same person you've always been you know and i could see
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should see that you were happy and i never want anything more than for my child to be happy
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i deeply regret the way i reacted how did you feel when i told you i was a pregnant dad at 19
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Honestly, I was pumped. I was so excited. Your life is beautiful
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It's turned out better than I ever could have imagined. I think you are a wonderful father
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And I also think that these girls have a really good life
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And that's because of you and Claire. But I'm so proud of you. I love you, Mama
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I love you, too, baby. I'm going to show her why
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Is there anything that you'd like to say to other trans dads out there
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To other trans dads, we are a team and I feel like it's important for us to stick together
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and be a united front and show people that we're going to continue to be ourselves no matter what
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A message I have for people who still choose to judge me is
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I feel sorry for you because our family is very happy and very content
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and we all love each other very much and anything you say or do couldn't take that away from us
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I'm very excited to see what the future holds for our family and we're always going to be proud of
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our kids no matter what. Yeah they have the freedom to be who they want to be and will always be there for them
