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KEYON is a proud seahorse dad, but not everyone agrees with the way he became a parent. He admitted to Truly, "When people look at me, they don't believe I gave birth to my son." Ten years ago, Keyon started transitioning to a man, but decided to take a break to have his child, Siah, six. His unique parenting situation has confused many, "As a transgender dad, I get misgendered. The fact that I carried my son, they'll be like, 'Ok, that's his mom'. My family dynamic is different,' he explained. The doting dad shares his journey online, where he's often subjected to criticism. Keyon revealed, "I get the negative comments, 'This is so confusing, Men don't birth children, women do'. I've had people sending me threatening comments." In this episode of My Extraordinary Family, Keyon will be having a candid conversation with his own mom to find out what she thinks about his transition and parenting journey.
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When people look at me, they don't believe I gave birth to my son
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I had people sending me, like, threatening comments. Men don't birth children
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So that shows that you are a woman, you twit a biological woman playing dress up
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When he actually came out, the family had a very hard time
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Did you ever disapprove of or feel upset by Kion's decision to transition
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Alright. Ready to make this breakfast, son? Of course. I'm Keon, 28 years old
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I've been transitioning for about 10 years now. I did take a year off when I conceived my son
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Oh, that was a big one. Can I crack it on your head
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Can you crack it on my head? Yeah. So being a parent is difficult
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I feel like just knowing that it's not just about you anymore
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and you have someone that looks up to you and someone that you have to be a role model for
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Would you like to talk to me about the stress of being transparent, like what people don't get about it
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Some stresses of being a transparent, I feel like that society is used to a certain dynamic
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when it comes to, like, parenting. I feel like a lot of times, like, as a transgender dad
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I will kind of get, like, misgendered and things like that. So the fact that I carry my son, it'd be like, okay, that's his mom
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You know what I mean? My dynamic in my family is different. I feel like the misgendering and things like that and just society not being, I guess
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accepting of it just due to the fact that it's not something that you see every day
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Food is really good. Eat the food. I feel like I always felt different
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Even since I was a kid, I felt like I didn't fit in
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I felt like I wasn't the person that everybody wanted me to be at that moment
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I didn know the real meaning I mean the name for it but I would say I had a lot of dysphoria It was things that my family or society wanted me to do or they wanted me to act like gender rules
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You know what I mean? Like girls are supposed to be sweet and not aggressive and things like that
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So I just felt like, yeah, I didn't fit in. I started my journey of transitioning at the age of 18
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My friends and family were more so supportive. Any decision that I made within myself
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regardless if they understood it or not, if that was what made me happy
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they were willing to support me with it. I was scared, not for myself, but for them
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because it was definitely gonna be a difference. Seven years into my transition
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I found out that I was pregnant with my son. Yes, I did stop taking hormones
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because the pregnancy was planned. But when I conceived my son, me and his father were together
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like in a relationship. Now we co-parent. Honestly, my friends and family
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like they didn't really grasp it at first because like it was kinda all new to them
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I was probably off of testosterone for probably about a year and like six months
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because like even after you have your child, they want you to wait before you go
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and get back on hormones. Once I was cleared, I got back on testosterone
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and continue my transition. Do I believe that my transition will affect
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my child's upbringing? For me personally, no. I'm very upfront with my son about everything
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I educate him on things. Other kids, they're not taught about these things and they don't know
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It might look different to them, so they might have something to say about it
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But other than that, I just feel like if you are open with your kids
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if you are honest and you educate them on things, there's no way that they can go into something
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be affected by it if they already know everything that surrounds it
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Hey grandson. Hey mom. Hey son. What's up? Good. They say a mother knows and I kind of knew ever since my son was younger that he was different But I supported him from the beginning I had years to deal with it When he actually came out he was 14 everybody else had to catch up
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The family had a very hard time. But Jan is to himself
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And it's like if you can't accept him, accept the lifestyle, just stay away from him
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Get an outlook on how you're feeling about, you know, the negative comments and things that's being said
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I want to know how you and my grandson is doing. Well, pretty much
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A lot of times I just ignore it. You know, having tough skin and stuff like that
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It has always helped me navigate through life. Tell us about the decision to tell your story
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I started my transition and my journey. I wanted to be that voice for people that might not have had the voice for themselves
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And then when I became pregnant, that was another way for me to be that voice
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So more so when I'm like posting like me being pregnant and stuff like that
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I get a lot of good comments, but then I also get like, you know, the negative comments. These kids are done. This is so confusing
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Men don't birth children. Women do. Men can't have babies. Congratulations, young lady
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Who carry her child? Don't be confused. I had people sending me like threatening comments, poor kid
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So that shows that you are a woman, you twit. That's what I say
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That's total confusion and not God's plan. Sick world we live in, poor child
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Incorrect, a woman had a baby, a woman who had birth. That's what I say
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This world is turning into a zoo. Is your baby going to get a sex change in a couple weeks till Jesus
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It's a lot of comments. I can keep going on and on. Well, son, you know, I always told you, you have to be happy in your own skin
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And obviously, you're happy with the way you have grown up. I love you
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And you have an excellent support system. Your family is here. Okay
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Yes. So, don't listen to those negative comments. I always told you Phil Fortoff let go for your grandson Go get some air Negative comments they don really bother me much but can become overwhelming when it like so much of it
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People that don't have strong skin or don't have a support system, it might affect them differently
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I would say the hate that I received, was I ever afraid that it would affect my son
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Yes and no, because I just feel like me, That's my son and I'm his parent
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My son's not going to feel nothing that I feel in that type of way. But also, I am his parent
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How am I going to explain to my son that I was biologically his mom
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now I'm biologically his dad, like something like that. Basically said, like, it's not a biology test on who a parent is and all of that stuff
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I don't really teach him about labels. I'm trying to raise him off of love. We talk about it a lot, he tells me things
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But, you know, it don't seem like, you know, he's bothered by it. But you might not know
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He might not want to tell me. So that's why I said therapy would be something that I feel like would be good so that he'll be able to just let it all out
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Well, son, you know you always got my support. No matter what, you have a strong support system behind you
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I'm great. I love you guys. I love you too, mom. I love you too. My message to any trans parent out there would be that the way that you identify, it doesn't determine how you parent
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So just do what you have to do for you and your child, regardless of what anyone has to say or what anyone thinks, because they're not you and your child
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If I respond to the haters, if it don't apply, you let it fly
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And if people are happy doing it, just let them do that. Do you like to have more children in the future
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I'm not sure if I'm going to go through the process again, if that makes perfect sense
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But I always did one, two kids, and you never know what the future holds, so, you know
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