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PARENTS Lay and Isaiah "only make boys" - with five sons Zaylin, Zyheir, Zacari, Zyan and Zamir currently to their name "and one on the way." With such a busy household, Lay maintains control by being "a very strict parent" and also unapologetically owns the titles of "homemaker" and "trad wife." But all of this has landed the couple on the receiving end of judgement both in everyday life and online, after Lay began documenting her family's story on social media. She even kept her last pregnancy a secret for six months due to feeling "ashamed because of the things that people would say" about her choice to be pregnant with six boys for seven years. Lay and Isaiah's loved ones have also struggled with the pace the couple have been adding to their family. So with Isaiah's parents visiting today to air their concerns, will Lay and Isaiah finally be ready to stop at six? Or is Lay still secretly hoping to try for the daughter she's always wanted?
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I've been pregnant with six boys for seven years
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Ugh! Zion! People have judged us for having so many children so quickly
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Every year you breed, don't you rest your front. And for our parents and staff
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I am a very strict parent. You want to wipe the table? Sweep the floor, okay
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I'm not afraid to say that I'm a child wife. Today we're going to talk to my parents about how they feel about our family
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My concern is, are y'all ready for more children? Mm-hmm. Hey, mate
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Hey, babe. My name is Lay. My name is Isaiah. We have five boys
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And one on the way. I like to call myself a homemaker
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He does the providing, and I kinda take care of the home, take care of the babies. Hi
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I'm not afraid to say that I'm a child wife. Zion! Does your mom get cooked? Yeah
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What's your favorite stuff to eat? My favorite stuff to eat is pizza, biscuits, and bacon and eggs
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For the processed food, we actually cut out or to hide food to the corn syrup
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You don't let the boys do sugar? Yes, there's a lot of things we don't let them do as far as food
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You need more cheese? I put a lot of cheese in there. Once I started taking the stuff away, I realized that my boys got a lot healthier
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a lot more energetic, they sleep better at night. Table. I'm gonna go wash your hands
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Would you say you're strict parents? I am a very strict parent
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No, she's not. I am. Sit down, Kari. I have a lot of standards when it comes to parenting
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They can't watch certain things. They can't listen to certain music. Certain video games they can't play
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I am very strict about that. Thank you. I'm also trying to teach them to communicate
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They talk about their feelings rather than hold it in and let it come out in a very difficult
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chaotic way. You're going to wipe the table, sweep the floor, okay
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So we have a chore chart for the oldest two They have a list of things that they can do throughout the week I thrive off of organization my calendar weekly meal planning All of that just helps me stay sane because we have a big family
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When do you guys get a break and how do you make time for each other
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We don't really get much of a break. We have been looking maybe to getting a babysitter so that we can go out on dates
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But for the most part, we kind of just spend the time with each other in the house. in the house
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So I want to show you this new onesie I got for the baby. They were in the hospital
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This is nice. Thank you. This is real thick. It's going to be cold
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We met when we were 19 at a church service. It was actually at my home church
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He came in to fill it on the drums, I believe. Nice
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You must be good at the drums. Uh-huh. I didn't do what I could do
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I didn't do what I could do. When did you do this one? Or they did it? Yeah
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I like this one. When I got pregnant the first time I was 20
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it was like a mix of emotions. I was excited, because I was like, oh, I get to be a mom
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I was scared. I didn't know how Isaiah was going to react or take it
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I was kind of excited. It was like a breath of fresh air, because he didn't give me the reaction that I was afraid of
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And from there, we just kind of talked about what we were going to do moving forward
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How did your family react? The first time, my parents were not the happiest
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I'll be honest. My parents, they just told me, well, You know what you gotta do now is you wanna play
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grown man's game so you gotta, you don't have to go ahead and step up to the plate
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Over time, my mom, she for sure came around. Every single time I told them I was pregnant
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they was like, oh, we already knew. With my last son, I hit his pregnancy until six months
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because I was just so ashamed because of the things that people would say about me
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and the way people would look at me with all my children. Hopefully we won't be getting up for this day and day
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Since I've started doing social media, I've gotten quite a few negative comments
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about my choice to have children so close in age, and then to have so many of them
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Every year you breed, don't you rest your front. What? People make it seem like kids are the worst thing to happen to you Right And it not People think you have kids and life is just over Over No it not Your little post just pushed my button today
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and I hope that your kale gives you a stomach ache, and that you get two flat tires on your way to Starbucks
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and that it rains on your hair. Your internet power goes out while you're taking the poop
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God bless you. What? I'm sorry. A lot of times I would just delete the comments or I'd just get really sad and not post for a while
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And I'd let it affect me in a negative way. But now I just leave the comments there because they're funny to me
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And it really doesn't affect me in any way. You can have 15 kids
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As long as every last kid is loved and taken care of, the numbers shouldn't even matter
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Right. I still don't regret any of this. Because at the end of the day, they made me who I am right now. Hey
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Hey, how are you? How are you? How are you? Good night. You good
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Hey, what's going on? You ain't going to give me no water or nothing, man
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What's going on? Baby number six is on the way. How y'all feel about it
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You excited? Of course, I'm a little nervous. But you know, other than that, I'm fine. Yeah
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Well, son, it's like I always told you. You can't pull out of the parking space
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Y'all have children every four months. I don't know how you do it
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It's just, you and Malaysia have really, you know, done the parenting thing five times
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And this is number six. So my concern is, are y'all ready for more children
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Because, you know, it's a lot. You know, how many do you want to have? Is there going to be a time when you say, okay, that's enough
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I think we're equipped to take care of six kids. I'm not going to say it's going to be easy or anything like that, but I feel like we'll be okay
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I am nervous but I feel like just adding one more is not going to hurt us too bad You got all boys They going to take take care of mommy they gonna take care of grandma But we going to the home okay So if you have a girl one good time then we be okay
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I wanted a girl from the very first child. When we found out we were pregnant, I went and bought all girl stuff
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Told her not to. He did. When I first met him. I told her
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We had a conversation about kids. Like one time, and he looked at me and said, I only make boys
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Every time, boy, boy, boy. Boy, every time. I said, you shouldn't have said that
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You kind of like spoke that over us. But it's like once I get past that, it's nothing but love
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Like I love my son so much. I couldn't see myself trading them in just to have a girl
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And I love the person that they've, you know, helped me become. I really do feel like you guys have a down pack
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You do have your system. You have your routine. I mean, you guys got it and you know that we have you back
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Thank you. You guys have come such a long way and we're so proud of you
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Thank you. Appreciate that. That's real talk right there. Love you. Love you too, son. Bye. Bye. Bye
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What do you think the future holds for your family? Our goal is to have some land, run a homestead, you know, have our boys, you know, growing
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and thriving. They love the idea of gardening. They love the idea of having chickens and having a farm
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Don't let it go in the ditch. The best part about being a mom to five boys is the love that I get from them
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I like all the hugs, the kisses, the cuddles, and just watching them grow every single day
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It just, I don't know, it just makes my heart happy. They're already, like, ready to welcome their little brother in with open arms
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And I know, you know, eventually he'll be out here running and playing with them, too
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