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We're a polyquad with three children
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The negative feedback we get is people have like a expiration date on our relationship
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Oh, that's cute. It's not gonna last. It will screw the kids up. My sister took a little bit of an issue
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Now how you feel about Kylie joining the relationship? Hey, hey, hey! What's up, everybody
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So check this out. A lot has changed in our lives since the last time we saw you. We are a polyamorous triad
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We met Ali, and we've been together now for two years. Okay, okay. So as you guys know from the last episode, this is my wife, Allie
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This is my wife, Emily. Of course, she remembers Rain. And this is baby Chicago
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She's two months old. So, you know, everybody say hello. And also, we have a new addition to the family
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Hey, guys. This is Kylie. Show some love now. Here, baby. How does life feel different since Kylie joined your family
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Life has been easier, I'd say. She's definitely another helping hand. She's Brain's favorite by far
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She forgot all about us since Kylie's been here. He wasn't looking for another person to join our relationship
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It just naturally happened that way. When we met her, she just had a different energy
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We were stuck like glue. You were saying this is the first time you've been in a multi-partner relationship
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I've always been an open person, so this isn't far out of my scope
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It's something I definitely was open to. It just happens to be my first time being in a multi-person relationship
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Kind of through mutual friends, we were around each other and then we just ended up going
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to be a new space. We stole you. We stole you from the world
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It was like an organic thing. It wasn't like, will you be my girlfriend or will you be our girlfriend
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Yeah, it was more so like you came and then you just never left
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So Trel and I are married. We not yet married to Ali and Kylie yet It just about the proper timing you know Every woman deserves the proper proposal I would say We do not sleep separately
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That's not our dynamic. We're literally just like piled onto the bed
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Exciting. Were you worried about how the kids would react when Kylie joined the family
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I think our oldest daughter had a little time adjusting to it because all she's known is Emily and Allie
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Now they're like this. Do you like having a three mom thing? No
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No? Well, she always says two moms. Kylie's newer to this situation
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She definitely looks at Kylie like a parent figure. She loves and adores Kylie, but she's still new to that situation
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So she still says two moms. You got the seat up? Yeah
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Society tends to think of poly relationships as inappropriate for children, but that's not the case
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They are not in our love life. They are in our life as far as we take care of them, we provide for them, and we love them
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So that's all they know. All they know is they got more love in our house
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Allie is Chicago's biological mom. Emily is like, you know, her mom as well, so she does the mom duties
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I help with Chicago as well. We all take care of Chicago
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Everybody's here to make sure the children are being well taken care of. I don't know how single moms do it because even when it was just like me and Allie, we're still tired
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If I just get like a little bit of a power nap for a few hours, I'll get back up and she'll go back to sleep
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So we kind of just like alternate and Kylie kind of just like comes in when we need her outside of like what we're doing
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How many more children would we like to have together? We don't have a number, but that's just more of a natural thing
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If something progresses and it happens, it happens. I would say one of the challenges of being a polyquad
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sometimes dating just like any other group of people we have to align our schedules with each other to be able to spend that quality time And then we have to get the kids in order and stuff like that And then of course sometimes you know if we go if we all go out as a group
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I'm out with three beautiful women, right? Who in the hell is going to assume they're all mine
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That's true. Like, it's not like that's a normal thing you come across. It just is
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We always get the, yo, yo, who is shorty? Which one? Which one is shorty
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Which one can I? And then they think I'm hating. They think I'm hating
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They be like, nah, you trying to claim them all. They not like, bro, these really my ladies
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I'm in a real relationship. So sometimes they don't realize until they know us
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They're like, oh, this is real. They really together. Or we'll bring up the Instagram. Look
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I would say the negative feedback that we get is people have like an expiration date on our relationship
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So I feel like a lot of people go, oh, that's cute. It's not going to last
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No, none of them should procreate. Okay, if we love each other and we have a family
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and we're building a family, what does that have to do with you? Like why do you have to pay in on other people's families
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You know what I mean? So I think that's just people just projecting their, yeah
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It's ignorant, pretty much. He's a . One of his girls needs to give him an offspring
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New age nonsense. So let me make this clear. The person that commented there has no sense
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Because this is the thing, if I was a , why would I be trying to have a children
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Yeah, that makes no sense. Why would I want to create children for myself
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No, it will screw the kids up. They said that six years ago
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Just living proof. They probably will say it again. They need to focus on raising their own children
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It's a blessing to have multiple people in the home that's caring for you
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Have any of you lost any friends or family along the way? I personally have lost a couple friends
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due to the relationship, just because of their own personal opinion on it
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And for me then good riddance Like if you can accept how I choose to live my life and love the people that I love then you don need to be in love If you love one person and that what you want to do with your life we completely support that
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We love that for you. It's just not for us. It's not what we want to do
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We don't shame monogamous people. We love love, period. So if you love one person, if you love 10, that's your business
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You're going to be a multiple kid. You're not going to love one child. There we go
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My sister essence took a little bit of an issue only because she's spoiled
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So she likes her brother to be focused on her for the most part
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I've been meaning to ask you, you know, how do you feel about me being in a poly relationship
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I don't think I ever actually asked you that question. It'd be like my only little dynamic through it is the sharing part
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But that's been since I was little. But I feel like it takes a village. So it doesn't really like affects me in no way
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Or do I feel like it affects my nieces? So it's like, it's a good thing for me. It's just heavy on the sharing part
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No, that's real. And then, you know, you a mother. How do you feel about being poly
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Do you think it impacts children negatively? No, I think being poly is like, it is what you make it
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A parent is a parent. It don't matter how many parents it is. Rain gets to go to school
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She can teach the other kids. Like this don't affect me at all. I just know I'm getting loved by multiple people
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That's it. I appreciate that, sis. We just want to keep building, keep doing content
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I know that's our goal. Everybody, you know, used to say, they'd say
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oh, you guys are in collapse, and this is just temporary. And look at us now, six years later
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Now in a new relationship, a great relationship with Kylie. We know the future for us will be everything we dream of and imagine