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This is Tori. She fell in love with seven
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My husband gave birth to our children. I always wanted to have kids
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I didn't think it was possible to conceive naturally. This is the seven-month belly update ceremonies
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Because I took testosterone for so long, and it took so long to conceive
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I thought, you know what, it ain't gonna happen. Num-nums, num-nums. My pregnancy experiences were perfect
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I just didn't like being judged. People would stare, they would smirk and giggle
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Eat that one then, huh? Eat that one. I was assigned female at birth
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I started my transition at a very young age. I would say I knew what I was off back when I was very young
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I would say about five, six. Where you going? All right. I was assigned male at birth
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And I started my transition, I would say, when I was like 18-ish, 19
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My transition journey was easy because I knew, I knew. Hard because the stuff that you have to deal with
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when you're going through your transition. So as me being born female
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then I'm putting this testosterone within my body. But then you also have to deal with the realities of
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you have people that judge you because you take them, friends that leave you because you take them
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family that shun you because you take them. So you got to deal with all that. All that comes with the transition
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My transition journey, it was good, I loved it, but it was also rocky, you know
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When I was transitioning, I was still kinda in school. When I was in home, you know, I was comfortable and stuff
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and in school, it was overwhelming, but for the most part, it's good
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Come on. Okay I like that one too with his Feeney pack You see your little teddy bear on there Look at that You want to wear this one What I love most about being a dad is I can dress him like me
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and just teach him things, you know, protect him, teach him. He's like, okay, I'm ready
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All right, and a blue crop. Okay, let's get dressed. What I love most about being a mom is, honey
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well, we all know I do hair, nails, and makeup, so my daughter will stay laid and slayed, honey
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Prophet's favorite toy is that steering wheel, honey. He be acting like he love to drive
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He love his stuffed animals, but for the most part, honey, he love putting stuff in his mouth
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Yes, as always, these. How did you feel when you found out that you were pregnant both times
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I was happy, emotionally, but happy. The first thing I did was called all of my family
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I called everybody. I was ecstatic. Misconceptions they have is that because you're trans
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you can't have kids. The positive responses was like, congratulations, good job, you're going to be a great parent
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The negatives was basically, why are you having a kid? If you're supposed to be the man, men don't have babies and stuff like that
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Going to the OBG and sitting around a whole bunch of females, they're looking at you like, no, it can't be
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Or, why? Or, is it possible? You're faking. so it's like, it gets bad and very uncomfortable
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because it's like, you don't want to hide your pregnancy. Like, well, I'm not going to hide my kids
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Definitely stare. People would stare. They would smirk and giggle and point and things like that
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but they never said anything. Pregnancy would profit. Towards the end, I had severe preeclampsia
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When I had him it was dramatic I hemorrhaged like bad with Prophet Here come the storm I had him 36 weeks It really scared me
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Yeah. When Prophet turned six months, winter came. We conceived the same time
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See, I'm almost done. See, I'm almost done. I was sick with winter
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I was hurting with winter. I did have still the pre of the severe pre-canampsia
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But it wasn't as bad as profit. When you have kids, it completely changes you
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It matures you, you know, faster. Like, you don't want nothing but your relationship and your family to be healthy and at its best
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Come on, Tintin. I honestly think that my transition made my relationship with my parents closer
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That moment when we found out that we're going to have a baby over here soon
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Oh, I got goosebumps just talking about it. It was beautiful. I was there for Prophet's birth. That was one of the best experiences
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in my life, in our lives. I enjoy being my uncle. They're like my siblings, to be honest
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You're going to be faced with a lot of different opinions and judgment and stuff like that in this
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walk of life. It makes me feel sad for them, you know, but in the same breath. I'm like their big
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cheerleader. So we find always going to find a positive as a family together. Nothing's going to
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take away the joy that we have as a family. Would I say we're a close family? Yes
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We have family time. We bond. We go through things. Cry together
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Laugh together. Argue with each other. Very close. How our mama supported us
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You know she a whole lot of motivation We do a whole lot of family and bonding time you know so she one of our biggest supporters
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Things that people have said to me, why are you pregnant? I feel sorry for the baby
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The baby needs a new family. I have comments of people saying that Prophet's going to be trans or he's going to be gay
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and stuff like that. And I also get, you know, you will never be the mom or your kid is going to grow up to
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be crazy. who made negative comments to us about being parents and being pregnant or and or trans I
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think that they should keep their opinion to their self and mind their business because our
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kids is going to be successful because we are it's all about how you raise your kids what you show
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them how you teach them and it all starts from home what I would like to say to other trans
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people that consider having kids go for it it's a beautiful thing it's a blessing you're always
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going to have negative comments or hate or people judging you. Don't let that
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face you. Don't take it to heart. Keep doing you. What changes would you like to see to support
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pregnant trans people and their families? Hospital-wise, using the correct pronouns. People to be more open-minded, to be more careful of the choice of words that they say
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Understanding and acceptance, and to educate yourself. What I hope for my family for the
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future is what we have now. Just, you know, be successful. Definitely good health. Be motivated
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strong. Grow up to be something and to keep going. Don't never stop
