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I was pregnant at 15, now I'm a mom of two
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We got a lot of comments that we shouldn't have kids so young. Children shouldn't be having children
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People assume that I'm going to leave or like the kids aren't mine
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Single mom in the making. My dad and my stepmom were so angry
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They said I was too young to have a child. As soon as my dad started to accept it, I found out I was pregnant again
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Today we're going to have a conversation with my stepmom. I'm nervous to hear her actual thoughts
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She usually doesn't hold back. How do you and my dad feel about the second pregnancy
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Um. He's ready for your bottle. He's ready for your bottle. I'm Trina and I'm 19
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I'm Wilson and I'm 19. And we're teen parents of two kids. One is two years old
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His name is Amir. And then Jace, he's four months old. I would describe Amir as funny
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He's always like dancing and like making everyone laugh. And then Jace is very like calm and hungry
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Like he wants that bottle like right away. When Amir was born, I was 16
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When Jace was born, I was just turned 19. I always seen myself as being a mom
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just not at this age. I never envisioned myself being a dad
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at such an early age, never in a million years. It was a big turning point at that time
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My whole perspective changed my life. My morning before I had kids
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I would just wake up and go to school, and then after school, I'll come back home and go to sleep
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Now, I wake up early. We have to wake up before 8.50 in the morning to give Jaycee's medicine
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That's the huge responsibility I would say for now, is like the hearing aids for Amir and his medicine
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Amir, music. Where's your microphone? Amir has a syndrome called Warnenberg syndrome
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which causes eyes to be blue, comes with hearing loss. They gave him hearing aids
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Chase, when he was born, he was extremely yellow. He wasn't waking up, he wasn't crying, he wasn't eating
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Found out that he had seizures and brain bleeds Right now we just know he has epilepsy There a lot of responsibilities add on to our lives I feel like I was very immature and I like made like a lot of mistakes when I was younger
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Now I have kids like let me be mature, let me grow up. We were really young. Only thing we were doing was going to school and coming home
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Only thing that changed was like more so like us working, us having like more things to do like dropping the kids off daycare
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doctor's appointments, having more things to do like add to our list
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I mainly work since morning to the afternoon. So all credits to her
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She takes care of the kids from there. Then once I get home, you know, I help out
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I can make a bottle. I take care of the little one
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He eats a lot. Sometimes we feed him four ounces, and then he starts crying
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And then we give him like two more ounces and he just goes first to sleep. When and why did you guys start posting on TikTok
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about being parents? I mainly just started posting about Amiris Wartenberg. Just to get answers and clarity of, will my son be okay
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I just wanted to show that I'm a teen parent. I wanted to let that be known. I used to get comments like, your life must be so hard now
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People saying you guys can't take care of them right, or you guys know your life
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I feel like there's a lot of stigma about being teen parents because they probably don't think we can handle it
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or they probably think we aren't going to be as responsible as older people
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You should be worried about school and being young, not spreading your legs. Okay
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There's a lot of people our age that do the same thing, they just don't get the same results
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or they just choose a different result. We made that decision to keep our kids, so for us that's our own route
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Single mom in the making. I love this girl to death. That would never happen for my part
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Children shouldn't be having children. When you're 18, you're an adult. Just wait two years and finish high school
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One, we graduated on time. Two, I'm still taking college classes. I actually brought my son on stage to grab my diploma
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So that was a very big moment for me as well. And we went to her graduation as well and we just shouting from the back like hey there you go mama Having a baby doesn stop nothing I still doing the same thing that kids my age are doing They in school I still in school
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They're living their life and I'm living mine just with kids. How did your families react when you found out
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you were pregnant? When I first got pregnant, I was living with my parents
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and he was living with his mom. My family reacted very disappointed and upset
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My dad was like, didn't say nothing. He was more so crying and wouldn't like really look at me
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My dad was like, no, stay away from my daughter. I don't want, I don't want you near my daughter
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He just didn't want to see him or talk to him. It was just very negative at that point
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I had a lot of anger in me because I wasn't thinking about his perspective or anything
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I was just thinking about myself. I was thinking, oh, how can you not let me see her after this
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Or like, I was just really upset. Now that I look back at it, I understand his perspective
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you know, his daughter, 15, having a baby. It was just our families clashing against each other
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because we didn't, we never had like a talk. We never had a talk at that point
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Hey guys, how are you? Today we're gonna have a conversation with my stem mom
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We haven't had a conversation about it since I was pregnant for the second time. I'm nervous to hear her actual thoughts
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She usually doesn't hold back. How did you feel when I was pregnant for the first time
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Oh my God, I was in shock. I find out two days before you tell me
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and I was so upset. You dad was acting kind of weird those days
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When he called me that day at the room, I said, what is it? He told me once, Trina is pregnant
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And I was like, what? We are trying to do our best as a parent
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Even I'm not your mom, but I try to do the best for you guys
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And it hurt my feelings a lot. How did you and my dad feel about the second pregnancy
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We were 18, we found out we were pregnant again. My dad, I told him first
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He was like, why would you tell me this right now? My stepmom, she just didn't say nothing
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She was just quiet And I couldn see her reaction I say they were very shocked and disappointed We were so upset That means we were in shock especially the way that we found out
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We held it in for so long because we weren't sure if Jace was going to make it or not because during the procedures they did tell me there was a high chance that he wasn't going to make it
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So we didn't want everybody to deal with what we were going through
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But I would like to know it before, even if something happened. I was upset about the pregnancy, the both pregnancies
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the way that we find out. I understand that you guys, you and my dad
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were very disappointed and didn't agree with our decisions. But I do respect that you guys were very helpful
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and still treated my kids like they were yours. I'm very grateful for that, because most parents
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would have just kicked their kids out. So I'm very grateful for that. I see the responsibility that you guys have
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And you guys are doing so well. I'll be there for you always. All right, guys
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Thank you. Do you have any regrets about having kids so young
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Me, personally, I have no regrets in my life. I feel like this is probably the best thing that ever
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happened to me because it's changed my perspective and made me mature early on
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It makes me work harder every single day. Like, that's my why now
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Parenting, actually, like, it's like fun. Kids are always happy. They're like little angels
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They're looking at us and they're just like smiling and it's just like, why am I sad right now
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I have my person, like I have my babies. It was like a purpose in a way
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What message do you have for those who might judge you for being team parents? There's no need to judge people for making their decisions at a young age
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We're still doing what we have to do for our kids and also for ourselves. And if you do judge, it's not really our issue
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Keep on hating. We're still living. We're still going to take care of our kids
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We're still going to grow together and have fun. Just be positive, man