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My son made me a pregnant grandma
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Wait, baby. I gave birth to my daughter and then became a grandma again three months later
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What's it like having a daughter and a sister who are almost 38
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Wow. It's wild. I got a lot of negativity for having a baby at 43
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When your kids start having kids, it's time for you to stop. How did your other children respond
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When you told her you were planning on having a little bit. There we go
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Her name is Naomi, and we call her Auntie Naomi. My name is Tanetta
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I'm 44. Fabulous 44. I have six children, and I have four grandchildren
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My firstborn child, her name is Naya. She's 27. She has a son
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His name is Chosen, and he's four. My second-born child, his name is Dyleek
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He is 25. He has three children. Montana, Nazir, Elora. And then I have Dominic
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He's 24, no children. Zion, she's 20, no children. Kalei, she's 17, no children
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And Naomi, she just turned seven months. How old were you when you got pregnant
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I was 43. What was that like? Oh my God, it was very different and very, I would say fun
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When I had all my other children, life was very hard. So I really didn't get to enjoy everything about pregnancy
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but I got to enjoy everything about pregnancy with her because my life is stable now
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There's a 27-year age gap between Naomi and my firstborn child. So how old were you when you had Naya
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I had just turned 16 a week when I had her. Because things were so dysfunctional for me at that time
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I wanted to get pregnant. I know that sounds crazy, but I actually wanted a baby
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because I wanted somebody to love. What was it having three children by the age of 19? Ooh
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I just was in survival mode at that time, and so it's like I really didn't, I guess
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process the reality of my situation It a challenge being a single mom I was a single mom for a majority of my four older children lives This is Frederick my husband the father of my child Naomi and this is my son Dalit
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He got three kids. That's a fun fact. He trying to be like his mama
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I have five baby daddies. I had my sixth child with my husband, but I wasn't married to any of my other children's
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fathers and so they called baby daddies. But I had number six with my husband so we not gonna call
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him a baby daddy. Just a regular daddy. Naomi is like the joy of my life. She brings nothing but
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happiness to everybody. She's a blessing. We've been together 11 years and we've been married 10
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years. After we got married and kind of got settled in and he wasn't always the best but
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with time he changed in ways. He showed me that he was a kid friendly type person and so I felt
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like we could finally have a kid and we did. I was 43, so I'm like okay, I'm getting a little older
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If we're gonna do this, I need to do this now. How do you feel when your mom told you
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she was planning to have another baby? Wow, yeah, um, at first I didn't know how to take it
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to be honest. My oldest son, Dalit, he didn't like it too much
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He was like, you kidding me. At the time, the young lady wasn't pregnant
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so he didn't know he would have a third child at the time. What's it like having a daughter and a sister who are almost the same age
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Wow. It's wild. Like in school, you would have like some aunties and nieces and nephews
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If you were in the same grade or whatever, in the case it may be. I used to laugh about it, joke about it, but I understand it now
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You know, now I'm going through it, but yeah. I wish I was able to say about that, though
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How did your other children respond when you told them you were planning on having another baby
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My baby boy, I don't think he thought I was serious. I thought she was playing
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She called me saying I'm gonna get pregnant again. Something like that
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I thought she was losing me. My oldest daughter, she was supportive
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She just was more concerned about making sure if I do this she didn want me to do natural birth I kind of was scared I just felt like since you older there more risks and things can happen And I thought it was kind of unfair because it like all of us older all of us need our moms
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I was 43 and I want to do this before I turn 44. So it made more sense to just do IVF
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and go straight to the point. And that's what I did. I felt like she was too old for all that
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It was like, for what? You already got five kids, but you added another one over. But now I like her, she cool though
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Everybody else was okay. Oh, oh, how I forget about Kalei. My baby girl, I don't even know how I forget about her
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She had a fit. She was mad. She was calling my baby not human, all kind of stuff
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She was having a fit. I've seen all types of stuff. Calling her the lab rat
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That is going to be ugly. She cute, though. She's just coming around, really. Yes
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Yes. I would say the past, what, two months? Yo. Hey, hey
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So this is Yasmin, my grandson Nazir's mother, and she ended up being my nurse
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She gave me all my injections. So my grandson's mother was giving me butt shock
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for me to have his auntie name. Oh, Lord. That's just, what, three years younger than me
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Isn't that extra extraordinary? What did you think when Tana told you
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she was having another baby. I thought she was crazy. People thinking about that
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because we kept, because we was having babies, plenty of babies. But then
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I know when she says she's going to do something, she usually do it
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It don't matter what the naysayers say. When did you start sharing your life
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on social media? Ooh, I would say the past four years. I share what it's like
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to be a mother of six kids and of adult children and being a grandmother
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How have you found the response to your social media posts? They really come from me
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I receive a lot of negative comments about having six baby daddies
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Six different baby daddies, so sad, not a flex at all. And I'm like, it's not a flex
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but it is a flex that I overcame all of that I survived and beat the odds And each of my children from different dads are different and they all serve a great purpose in my life and in life in general
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Some people don't understand it, but it's okay. Have you received negativity about having a baby at the age of 43
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Absolutely. I'm too old. I'm selfish. I'm trying to compete with my kids
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Yeah, all kind of crazy stuff. When your kids start having kids, it's time for you to stop
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This isn't anything to brag about. and who would want their children to see this on social media as they grow
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Sad world today. Ain't that something? That is something. I just don't like the, oh, she's like going to be 80 at the graduation
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And grandma's the baby. It just be stuff like that that just be irritating me
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Y'all need to stop talking trash about my mama in the comments about her age
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I feel like it's appropriate to have a child when you're good and seasoned and good and taken care of
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and, you know, got your stuff together. Man, as long as you can afford your child
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have as many as you want. My family, I would describe them as lit
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They all are very compassionate. All my kids love people. They'll do anything for anybody
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They're very funny. We have a good time. We always laughing. It's never a dull moment
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Yeah. She's an excellent mom. She is a leader. She tried to set a good example for her children
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She know they're going to make mistakes. But when they do, she come and run it
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So they know they got unwavering support from their mama. And everybody else that come for them
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must say something negative about her children. She coming after you. Don't play about my children
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No, she don't. And everybody should know that by now. What do you hope for your family in the future
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I hope for them, above all things, to be good to people, be kind, be successful
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for as long as they're stable and they can take care of their family and they're happy
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That's it. Would you like to have 24 children or grandchildren? I want plenty more grandchildren, no more children
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I'm going to have plenty of grandchildren. I have six kids
