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How to rewrite your internal dialogue (Step-by-Step).
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Welcome to
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this space with me. A space where we
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pause
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and look within
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to nurture ourselves
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through gentle reflection.
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This is from Modelin.
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We are on
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this question or we are answering this
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question
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which has become the longing to most
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humans considering considering the fact
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that I have been able to work with some
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of these individuals.
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I've been opportunity to meet people
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over the years.
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I have been able to listen to stories.
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I have been able to listen to the
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different struggles.
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The hopes that people are trying to
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build, how different people from
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different cultures and different
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background make meaning
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to or read meaning to their life.
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And I noticed something very
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profound, something very wonderful
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that beneath all of these things, all of
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the challenges of human life,
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beneath all of the inner illnesses,
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the relationship difficulties,
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often
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lies a deeper are
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an
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unfulfilling struggle
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which is a struggle with the self.
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So today we are driving this
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uh aspect of the self
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which is
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self love.
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You can be listening to me and you're
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thinking
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what is that peculiar thing about self
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love. In this series, we are going to
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be exploring a very deep human journey.
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The journey back to self. People
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not only struggle with circumstances
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around them.
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Many people also struggle with something
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happening inside them.
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A harsh voice,
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a harsh inner voice,
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a sense of not being enough,
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a habit of judging themselves more
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severely than they would ever judge
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anyone else.
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In many ways, the deepest wound many
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people carry is not rejection from the
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world but rejection of the self.
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This is why the journey of healing must
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begin with something that sounds simple
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yet is often very difficult for many
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people. Self love. Now you can gently
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close your eyes
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and steady yourself.
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Look inward. Actually visualize this at
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the center of your heart.
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A white light, a divine light glowing
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from the center of your heart.
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Imagine
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this divine light
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glowing
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upwards
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to your neck, your shoulder, your head.
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It glows
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equally downward
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to the stomach,
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the waist,
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the hip, the knees, the ankles, to the
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soles of your feet.
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This divine light actually infuses
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your cells,
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your organs,
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your tissues,
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your skeletal system, your circulatory
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system.
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Bringing vitality,
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bringing healing,
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restoration,
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cleansing the entire system of toxin.
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Self love
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is where we are going to right now. Now
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when people hear the word self love,
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some imagine
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um different things.
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Some people will imagine that you have
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to be able to maybe worship yourself
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continuously
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and this worship is not even coming in
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the light of true worship.
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True self love
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is um
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the quiet ability to stand beside
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yourself with kindness.
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the quiet ability
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to see yourself,
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accept yourself just the way you are
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with kindness. Self love is the ability
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to look at your strengths,
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your limitations
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and still say I I accept that I am a
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human being who is learning and growing.
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Self love does not mean
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that we are trying to showcase a
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falsehood that we are perfect.
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It just simply means recognizing that we
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are worthy of compassion even while we
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are imperfect.
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Think about the way you will respond to
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a child who is learning to walk.
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When the child falls,
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you do not criticize them. You encourage
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them.
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You gently say, "Try again."
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But when we fall as adults, we often
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treat ourselves
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very differently.
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We become impatient.
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We become critical.
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Sometimes we speak to ourselves in ways
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we would never speak to another human
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being because this is what we learn
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before learning self love. The adults
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around us when we were growing up as
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choose children we depended we we had a
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lot of attachment or connection
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to receive strength from their nervous
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system.
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And we understand that these adults too
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were shaped
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by their own environment
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to have limitations.
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They were shaped especially in our
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African context
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filled with walls filled with
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colonialism,
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displaced.
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These adults they had their own issues
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and as children we relied solely on
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their nervous system to function because
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during this time our nervous system has
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not really become mature enough to be
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able to carry us on. Let us pause for a
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moment.
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Take a slow
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deep breath in and gently release it.
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Take another one. Gently release it.
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Now ask yourself a simple question.
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How do I usually speak to myself when I
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make a mistake?
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Do I respond with understanding
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or do I respond with judgment?
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This question is not meant to create
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guilt.
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It is meant to awaken awareness
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because awareness is the beginning of
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change.
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Self love grows slowly through daily
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practice.
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It grows when we learn to forgive
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ourselves for the times we fall short.
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It equally grows when we allow ourselves
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to learn from mistakes rather than
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punish ourselves for them. When we make
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mistakes, the best we can do is to tell
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ourselves. You place your hand on your
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heart area and tell yourself it is okay
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for me to make errors.
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I am human. I am safe. It is okay for me
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to make errors.
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Self love equally grows when we remember
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that every human being is a work in
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progress.
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Definitely you agree with me that self
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love requires honesty.
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Sometimes
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loving ourselves mean
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acknowledging areas where we need to
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grow.
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But we do this with compassion rather
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than condemnation, criticism.
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Instead of saying
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I am a failure, we begin to say there is
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something here for me to learn.
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This small shift changes the entire
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emotional atmosphere inside us.
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Instead of living in constant inner
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conflict, we begin to live in
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cooperation with ourselves.
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Let us take another quiet moment
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together.
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If it feels comfortable, place your hand
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gently over your chest, your heart area.
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Take a slow, deep breath in and release
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it.
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Now gently repeat within yourself.
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I am learning to meet myself with
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compassion. I allow myself to grow. I
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give myself permission to learn from
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life. Remember that self love is not
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built in a single day.
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It is built through many small moments
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of kindness towards ourselves.
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Moments when we choose patience instead
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of criticism. Moments when we forgive
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ourselves and continue moving forward.
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Moments when we remember that our value
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is not determined by a single mistake or
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a difficult season. You learn to be able
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to
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say words of love
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to you.
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Most of us it it is because of the way
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we look, our physical bodies that we
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don't actually love ourselves.
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And this all stems from the fact that
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the adult around us when we were tender
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made us believe that something was wrong
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with our physical bodies.
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So you learn to to to affirm
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I love and and accept myself just as I
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am.
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I love and accept myself just as I am.
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Look yourself in the mirror in the
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morning.
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Look at the image you see and tell that
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image you see, I love you. I accept you
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just the way you are. And notice how you
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feel. And if you can practice this,
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your life is going to be transformed
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into something else.
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Your narratives will change
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as we continue
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this series together. We will explore
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many dimensions of this journey.
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self-compassion, self forgiveness,
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understanding the stories we carry,
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and learning to relate to ourselves with
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greater honesty and acceptance.
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But every journey has a starting point.
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And this journey begins with a simple
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but powerful intention
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to treat yourself with the same
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compassion you offer someone you deeply
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care about. Thank you for taking this
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moment to pause and reflect with me.
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You can end the session by placing your
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right hand on your chest area
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and repeat this after me.
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It is okay for me to love myself.
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It is okay for me to love myself.
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I allow myself to be loved by me. I
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allow myself to enjoy the beauty of
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love.
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Whatever I give to others,
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I give to myself.
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The encouragement I give to others, I
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choose to give to myself.
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The nurturing I give to others, I choose
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to give to myself first.
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Because whatever you give
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must be coming from a cup that is full.
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Until next time, be patient with
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yourself, be gentle with your growth and
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remember that learning to love yourself
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is not really coming to a place of uh
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where you say I have achieved.
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It is a process. It is a liflong
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practice you have to follow.
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I appreciate you for taking these small
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steps, my darlings.
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I say I love you. Continue taking the
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little steps and gradually you're going
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to move to that place of embracing
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yourself just the way you are.
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Thank you and have a nice
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