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How To Build Self Trust And Stop Doubting Yourself
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Hello
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beautiful souls.
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I am from Bodolin.
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You are once more welcome to this
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[music] space
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where we learned how to nurture
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ourselves and become better versions of
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ourselves.
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Today we'll be looking at [music]
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episode three which is
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going to be or which is how to build
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[music] selfrust
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and stop doubting yourself. If you
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[music] have followed the other series
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with me, the first one was reclaiming
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[music] your energy.
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The next was protecting and today
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[music] is how to build selfrust to be
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able to enhance the energy [music] you
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reclaimed and protected.
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Let me ask you something gently.
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How often do you [music] second guessess
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yourself? You make a decision, then you
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question it. [music] You set a boundary,
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then you feel unsure. You speak up then
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you replay it later.
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Self-doubt is exhausting. And here is
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the truth.
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You cannot [music] protect your energy
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if you do not trust yourself. You cannot
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live intentionally [music]
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if you do not [singing] believe your
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inner voice is [music] valid. Today we
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are building selfrust.
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You'll [music] be you listening you'll
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be wondering what is self trust.
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Self trust is the belief that you
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[music] can rely on your own judgment,
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feelings and [music] decisions.
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It is in internal stability, internal
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balance that you [music] build within
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yourself. When you lack self-love,
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you [music] seek constant validation.
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You overexlain.
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You overapologize.
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You fear making [music] mistakes.
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Psychologically, selfrust develops
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when [music] your brain sees evidence
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that you keep promises to yourself.
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Every time you say you [music] will do
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something and and follow through,
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trust increases.
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Every time you abandon yourself, [music]
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trust decreases.
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Self trust is built in behavior. Now,
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let me narrate a [music] story from
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my therapy room to encourage [music]
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you.
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I once worked with someone who
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constantly asked, "Do you think this
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[music] is a right decision?" Not once,
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every session. Eventually, I asked,
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"What [music] do you think?" She froze.
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No one [music] had ever invited her to
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trust her own voice. As we [music]
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worked together, she began making small
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decisions [music] without outsourcing
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them. Choosing what she wanted,
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choosing [music] what she did not want.
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Okay.
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Months later, she said something [music]
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powerful. I do not feel louder.
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[music] I just feel steadier.
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That is self trust.
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Not [music] loud but steady. Often many
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of us do not trust [music]
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ourselves. Often self trust
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can [music] be dis disrupted earlier.
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Self trust was disrupted earlier during
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maybe the formative age, formative
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stages of your [music] life.
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Maybe your feelings were dismissed.
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Maybe you were told you were too [music]
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sensitive.
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Maybe your decisions were constantly
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corrected.
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And [music] equally,
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maybe mistakes were punished [music]
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harshly.
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Over time, you learn.
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Do not trust yourself.
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Okay.
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ask [music] some someone else.
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But self trust can be rebuilded
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and it begins with small commitments.
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Now [music] let's look at it. Let's look
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at it in a practical way or [music]
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let's follow these practical ways to be
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able to build [music] selfrust. First
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keep tiny promises.
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If you say you will wake [music] up at a
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certain time, try to honor it. If you
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say you will rest, actually [music]
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rest. Trust grows through consistency,
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not intensity.
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Second, stop self [music] betrayer. When
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your body says you are tired and you
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ignore it, [music] you weaken trust.
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When your intuition says something,
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something feels wrong and you override
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[music] it repeatedly, you weaken trust.
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Pause and ask,
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"What is my inner [music] voice saying
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right now?" Third,
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normalize imperfection.
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Trust does not mean you will never make
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mistakes. [music]
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It means you believe you can handle
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them.
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Mistakes handled with reflection [music]
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strengthen trust.
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Mistakes handled with shame weakens
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trust.
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Learn to tell [music] yourself when you
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find yourself in this situation that it
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is [music] okay for me to make errors.
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You are human. Now [music] let us uh
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embody this.
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Place your feet flat on the floor.
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[music]
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Sit upright.
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Take a [music] slow deep breath in.
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Now give a long [music] exhale.
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Place your hand over your heart again.
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Feel your [music] heartbeat.
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Stay quietly [music]
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or loudly whichever one resonates
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[music] with you.
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I am learning to trust myself.
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Take [music] another breath in.
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I am allowed to [music] make decisions.
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Take another breath. [music] Long breath
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in.
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>> [music]
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>> Even if I make mistakes, I can recover.
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[music]
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Still in this moment.
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Notice what shifts in your [music] body.
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Self trust feels like steadiness in the
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chest,
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not urgency.
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Steadiness is [music] what we all need
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our nervous for our nervous system
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[music] to actually support us the way
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it is it was created to do or the way it
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is designed [music]
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to do. Here is where gratitude deepens
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the process.
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At the end of [music] each day, ask
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where did I honor myself today?
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>> [music]
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>> It could be something small.
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Maybe you said no.
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Maybe you spoke
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uh honestly.
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Maybe you rested. [music]
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Write it down.
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Gratitude for your own growth
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strengthens [music]
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identity.
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You begin [music] to see evidence that
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you are evolving
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and evidence builds [music] belief.
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Gratitude is a value that you need to
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inculcate. [music] You need to practice
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consistently for you to actually get the
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benefit.
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Close your eyes [music] briefly.
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Think of one recent moment where [music]
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you doubted yourself.
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Now ask, [music]
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if I trusted myself fully, what would
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[music] I have done? Notice the answer.
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That answer is still within you. Self
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trust
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[music] is not created
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but it is uncovered.
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Now [music]
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as we gradually come to the close of
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this session,
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put [music] your hand on your chest
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one more time.
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Slow [music] inhale.
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Long exhale.
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Take it a second time. Slow [music]
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inhale.
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Long exhale.
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And then take it again the third [music]
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time.
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Say softly
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or loudly.
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My voice [music] matters.
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My [music] feelings are valid.
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I can make decisions [music] calmly.
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I can learn from my mistakes.
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I am becoming steady.
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[music] Take one final breath in.
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Remember [music] this. You do not become
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strong by controlling everything.
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[music] You become strong by trusting
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yourself to handle what comes. [music]
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Reclaim your energy. Protect your
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energy. Trust yourself with your energy.
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That is emotional [music] maturity. And
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if this series, you were blessed by this
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series, I'm calling upon you to
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subscribe [music] to my channel, like,
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share, comment. Thank you for being in
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[music] this space with me and I
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appreciate you for taking the slow
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steps. This small bit of steps to grow
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[music] as an individual because your
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growth as an individual is what empowers
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[music] you to move forward in life.
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Thank you. Until we meet again, keep
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[music] uh reclaiming your energy,
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protecting your energy, and building
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[music] self trust because this is what
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uh your life depends on. Thank you and
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bye-bye.
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