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This is from Bedulin.
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Welcome to this space
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where we pause
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and
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gently reflect
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to get deeper understanding
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of how we are built
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and what we can do to make sure that the
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resilience that is within us should be
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visible.
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Thank you for joining me in this session
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again.
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We are on the
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uh journey
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back to self
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and today we are looking at uh the
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gentle power of self-compassion.
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Remember that we are looking at the self
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continuously
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because
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over the years while working with many
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clients
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in which I listen to their stories
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get to hear their perspective about life
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the patterns. It seems to appear to me
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again and again
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that there is something
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that is deeper than all of the things I
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get to hear from clients.
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People are not only
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actually struggling with the situations
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they narrate.
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Many are struggling with something
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happening inside of them and which is
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deeper
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than we can actually comprehend.
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Today we will take
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this work to understand better.
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In our last reflection, we we explore
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the beginning of self love, learning to
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stand beside ourselves with kindness
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rather than crit
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judgment, criticism.
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Learning
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to
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give love to ourselves.
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Believing
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that we are
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those who who can make something
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meaningful.
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Believing that no matter the situation
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today,
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you can be able to still make something
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meaningful out of this beautiful life.
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Today we take the journey a little
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deeper.
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We will talk about self-compassion.
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Self-compassion is one of the most
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powerful yet most misunderstood
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qualities in human life.
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Many people know how to show compassion
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to others.
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We comfort a friend who is struggling.
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We support some someone who have failed.
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We offer understanding to someone who is
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hurting.
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But when the person who is struggling is
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ourselves, something often changes.
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Instead of compassion, we respond with
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harsh judgment,
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harsh criticism.
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Instead of patient, we respond with
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frustration.
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Instead of us understanding,
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we say things like,
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"I should have known better.
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I am not good enough.
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I always get things wrong."
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Over time, this inner harshness becomes
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exhausting because
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when you criticize yourself, you condemn
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yourself,
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you actually
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allow the energy that is supposed to
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drive your creativity,
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drive your strength, your resilience,
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drive the ability for you to make
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executive decision.
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evaporate. You leak out this energy when
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you
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look at yourself to be small and
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actually see these words
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or when these words
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are at the level of your thoughts.
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Self-compassion invites us today to
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change this this relationship with
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ourselves.
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Self-compassion
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simply means learning to respond to your
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own suffering with the same kindness you
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offer to another human being. By
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self-compassion,
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we don't avoid responsibility,
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but we allow growth to happen in an
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atmosphere of understanding rather than
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shame. Take a slow deep breath in. Hold.
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Now release it.
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Breathe in longer now.
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Hold it.
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And then release it.
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Take another one. Hold.
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Release.
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If we look at some of the most
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compassionate people in human history,
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we notice something interesting.
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Figures like Dalai Lama and Mother
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Teresa of Kakuta
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spend their lives offering compassion to
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others.
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Yet the depth of compassion
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they shared with the world did not come
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from self-rejection.
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It came from a deep inner awareness of
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shared humanity.
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We understood that every human being
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struggles.
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Every human being makes mistake.
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Every human being is learning.
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And this understanding allowed them to
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extend compassion outwards.
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But it also reminds us of something
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important. If compassion is powerful
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when we give it to others,
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it is equally powerful when we give it
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to ourselves.
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Are you ready
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to give compassion to yourself?
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Are you ready
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to carry on with this concept of comp of
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self-compassion?
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Are you ready
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to be that person that can stand alone
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and still stand because you have chosen
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to give compassion to yourself.
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Remember that the more compassion you
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give to yourself, the more you are
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enhanced to be able to spread compassion
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to the world.
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Let us pause for a moment.
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Take a deep slow
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breath in and gently release it. Take
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another one. gently release it.
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Now, bring to mind a moment in your life
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when something did not go the way you
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hoped.
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Perhaps a mistake you made,
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perhaps a decision you regret.
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Notice what your inner voice says about
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that moment.
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Is it critical?
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Is it harsh?
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Now imagine speaking to yourself the way
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you will speak to a dear friend who made
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the same mistake. You might say
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something like it's okay you are
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learning.
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You did the best you could with what you
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knew at that time.
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Growth often comes through difficult
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experiences. and I'll seed with it.
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Second, self-compassion
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allows us to transform painful
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experiences into opportunities for
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wisdom. Instead of becoming trapped in
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guilt or shame, we become curious about
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what life is teaching us. Let us take
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another quiet moment together.
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If it feels comfortable,
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place your hand gently on your heart.
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Now breathe in slowly.
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Release it slowly. Take the next one.
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Release it.
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Now gently repeat these words
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after me.
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I allow myself to be human. I made my
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mistakes with understanding. I am
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learning and growing every day. Now
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the way you feel with this after
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repeating this affirmation
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tells you a lot about the shift
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happening within you.
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Self-compassion does not remove
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challenges from life
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but it changes the way we work through
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them.
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Instead of fighting ourselves, we begin
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supporting ourselves.
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Instead of carrying the weight of self
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judgment, we create space for healing.
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And from the place of inner kindness,
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something beautiful begin to emerge.
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strength,
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beauty,
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resilience,
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and a deeper capacity to love both
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ourselves and others. Remember that
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challenges
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are part of human existence
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and challenges
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are opportunities
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for us
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to move to the next level.
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Without challenges,
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life will not get the meaning that is
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supposed to have
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because each challenge
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is a space for us to learn and grow.
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And as we are challenged,
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our strengths are built.
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we become resilient
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and ready to face life. You bear with me
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that
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there is no human who have ever
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succeeded on this planet earth without
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facing challenges.
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Those who have become successful
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go to read the story of their lives.
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They fail several times and from those
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failures they use those failures as
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stepping stones for success.
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If you don't fail, you will not have the
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experience and you will not be pushed to
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move forward to make a difference. When
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you fail in life, instead of
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criticizing yourself, blaming yourself
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for not getting that thing at that time,
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place your hand on your heart area and
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tell yourself, I am glad I tried this. I
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am glad
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I have this experience. I am glad
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because next time I am going to do it
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differently.
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And this brings you to a place of
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safety. This brings you to a place of
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confidence.
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This brings you to a place of stability,
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of balance
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because this is what all of us we need.
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We need to come to that place of
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stability. We need to come to that place
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where we can rely on ourselves. We can
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lean on ourselves. As we continue this
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journey together to pause
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and reflect,
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we will explore how self-compassion
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opens the door to deeper healing,
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forgiveness, and emotional freedom.
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Until next time, remember this simple
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truth. You deserve the same compassion
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you offer to the world.
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Be gentle with yourself, my darling.
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And keep growing.
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I love you.
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I love the fact that
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you keep
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trying to
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learn something new
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and grow
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through self-growth.
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The world will become a better place
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because you are a better a better
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person, a better individual in the
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world.
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Thank you for being in this space with
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me.
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