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How To Protect Your Energy Without Feeling Guilty
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[music] Welcome beautiful souls into
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this space again.
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I am from Bodolin
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and I am always excited to be sharing
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this space with you [music]
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where we can authentically
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go within and guide our growth process.
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We're continuing with um episode two
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which is on [music] how to protect your
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energy without feeling guilty.
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This is [music] um something we look at.
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It is going to deepen your [music]
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understanding
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around boundaries,
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uh people pleasing, emotional
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responsibility and self value.
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Let me ask [music] you something
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honestly.
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Have you ever finally decided to protect
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your energy [music]
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only to feel guilty about it?
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[music] You say no and then you feel
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bad.
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[music]
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You set a boundary and then you
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overexlain. [music]
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You choose [music] yourself
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and then you question whether you were
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too [music] harsh.
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If that sounds familiar, [music] this
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video is for you.
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Last time we talked about emotional
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exhaustion and reclaiming your energy.
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But reclaiming energy is not [music]
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enough if you do not protect it.
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And the biggest obstacle to protecting
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your energy [music] is guilt.
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[music] Today we are going to understand
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why that guilt shows up and how to move
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through it without abandoning yourself.
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Guilt is not a sign [music] that you are
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wrong.
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Sometimes it is a sign that you are
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changing.
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>> [music]
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>> If you have been the reliable one, the
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fixer, the strong one, the one who
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always adjust, then the moment you
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shift, people will notice
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[music] and your nervous system will
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notice too.
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Your brain is wired for belonging.
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[music]
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When you disrupt a familiar relational
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pattern, your brain interpret [music] it
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as risks.
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Risks of [music] rejection,
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risks of disapproval, risks of conflict.
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[music] So guilt shows up as a
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protective mechanism.
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It whispers, [music] "Go back. This
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feels unsafe."
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But discomfort is not danger.
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Let that sink in.
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[music] Discomfort is not danger.
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I once worked with a client who was
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constantly overwhelmed.
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She managed her work, her family, and
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even other people's emotions. [music]
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When we we we began working on
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boundaries,
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she practiced saying I am not available
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for that. [music]
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The first time she said that, she called
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me later and [clears throat] said I feel
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terrible.
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I feel selfish.
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So I asked [music] her gently, "Did
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anyone get harm?"
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She paused.
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No.
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Did you lie? [music]
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She replied, "No." [music]
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"Did you disrespect anyone?"
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She gave another no reply. [music]
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Then what are you feeling or
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uncomfortable about?
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[music]
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That changed everything for her.
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Sometime guilt is simply the [music]
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feeling of stepping into a new version
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of yourself.
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Now when you understand now the
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difference between [music]
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healthy guilt and conditioned guilt, you
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move into a [music] place of yourself
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that you have never been. [music]
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Healthy guilt happen when you truly
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violate your values.
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Conditioned [music]
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guilt happens when you violate others
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expectations. [music]
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There is a difference.
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If protecting your energy aligns with
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your value of self selfrespect [music]
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and emotional health, then the guilt you
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feel may [music] simply be the residue
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of old conditioning.
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[music]
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You are not responsible for regulating
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everyone's emotions.
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>> [music]
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>> You are responsible for managing your
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own.
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That shift alone protects
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enormous amount of energy.
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Let [music] us make this practical.
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First pause [music] before committing
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instead of automatic yes.
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Let me get back to you. [music]
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That single sentence protects [music]
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your energy.
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Second, shorten explanations.
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Do not owe a detailed justification for
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every boundary.
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I am not available.
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[music] That does not work for me. I
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need time. Simple. calm and care.
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[music]
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Third, notice emotional overfunctioning.
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[music]
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Are you solving problems no one asks you
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to solve?
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[music]
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Are you absorbing emotions that are not
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yours?
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[music]
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Compassion does not require self
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abandonment.
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>> [music]
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>> Now let us regulate the guilt response.
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If you feel that tightness when you set
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a boundary, try this. [music]
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Place your hand on your chest.
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Take a slow [music] breath in.
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Long exhale. [music]
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Take it a second time.
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A slow breath [music] in.
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Long exhale. [music]
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Say quietly, [music]
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I am safe to choose myself.
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I am safe to choose myself.
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I am [music] safe to choose myself.
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Now slow inhale,
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[music]
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long exhale.
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[music] Now say this
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quietly or softly. I am allowed to
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protect my energy.
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[music]
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I am allowed to protect my energy.
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I am allowed to protect my energy.
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Sit with this for a few [music] seconds.
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When you pair boundaries with breath,
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you restrain your nervous [music] system
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to associate self-p protection with
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safety, not danger.
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[music] Now, let us bring gratitude in
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not as denier, but as reinforcement.
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[music] After you set a boundary,
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instead of replaying guilt, ask, "What
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did protecting my energy allow me to
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preserve [music] today?"
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Was it peace? [music]
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Was it time?
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Was it emotional stability? [music]
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Gratitude helps you notice the benefit
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of selfrespect.
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When your brain sees the rewards, it
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becomes [music] easier to repeat the
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behavior.
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Remember that gratitude is likened to
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that stream that is disturbed.
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And [music]
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by dawn when the sun start shining that
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stream gradually
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[music] gets to a place of of stillness
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and become clearer and clean [music]
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again. This is what gratitude does to
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your system. As you continue being
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grateful, [music] as you continue with
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appreciation of the little changes you
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are seeing, of the [music] things you're
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observing that are actually with you and
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making you to move to progress [music]
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in life, you are going to experience
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this shift.
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Remember
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that when your brain sees the reward, it
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becomes easier to repeat [music] the
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behavior.
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Close your [music] eyes for a moment.
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[music]
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Think of one area where you feel
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emotionally stressed.
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[music]
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Is there a boundary that needs
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strengthening?
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Now [music]
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imagine yourself
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seeing it calmly.
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See, see yourself
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standing [music] steady.
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Notice the discomfort.
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[music] Now breathe through it
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and imagine the relief afterward.
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[music]
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That relief is your nervous system
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[music] reprogramming.
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Now place your [music] hand
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over your chest again.
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>> [music]
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>> Take one slow
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breath.
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[music]
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Say softly.
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[music] My energy is valuable.
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My energy is valuable. [music]
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My energy is valuable.
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I do not need [music] to earn rest.
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I do not need to overexlain [music]
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my limits.
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I can be kind and still have boundaries.
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[music]
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Protecting myself [singing] is not
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selfish.
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It is responsibility. [music]
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Take one final breath in.
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>> [music]
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>> release.
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Remember this. [music] You lose energy
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when you abandon yourself.
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You regain energy [music] when you honor
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yourself.
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This day, [music] this week, protect one
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small pocket of your peace.
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And notice how your strength begins to
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neilize. [music]
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If this if this episode spoke [music] to
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you,
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subscribe to this
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>> uh channel, like,
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share, comment.
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Until [music] next time, I can say I was
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it was a [music] good time sharing this
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with you and I'm glad you're taking
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these little steps of [music] self
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empowerment, selfdevelopment,
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which in reality is your number one
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priority because you are the sole
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beneficiary [music]
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of a good life. Thank you.