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I'm Onami. This is my wife Mia
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People think I paid for her, but this is real love. My mom literally said, check her birth certificate
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Is that legal there? As long as she can go to America. Very original
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People judge our relationship and they think I marry him for a green card
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I was like, is this his girlfriend's daughter or something? My son thinks that she only married me for the green card
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So you get papers and then you'll see. Is there anything I can do to convince you to come to our renewal
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It's the 10 year renewal, it's kind of a big deal. Um, no, I don't think I could do that
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Can you get that up there, please? I'm Onami, I'm six feet tall, 270 pounds
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I'm Mia, four feet seven, 95 pounds. There's a big height difference, about a foot and a half
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Put me down! You can reach here, come on, jump shorty. How long have you been married
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Ten years. Kids? What we got here. What do you think I'm going to wear
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That's a good question. We do this every time we go out. I have no taste
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So I'm always begging him to pick clothes for me. This is my view today in Thailand
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One of the presumptions people have about us is they assume that the age difference is a lot bigger than what it actually is
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and she looks youthful so people assume she's way younger than she is and when I don't dye my beard
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I have natural grades so the assumptions are always kind of off. There we go. What about this one
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You can put it in the trash. He's the one who likes to make me wear sexy. Oh yeah um if she
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was the one picking out her clothes she looked like a nun from the 18th century. There you can
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I was 28 when I first met her. I was 19 when I met him
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I traveled to her place, which is a remote part of the Philippines. It's in the province. The second I saw her, I was kind of attracted to her
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When they say I married her for her looks. Perfect. We talked for a little while for like a day or two
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Asked her parents if she can come back to Manila with me. And we've been together ever since
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My first impression, he looked okay for me. I don't know. I don't know what to say
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What was your first time? I don't know what to say. What was your first time
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I don't know, I don't know what to say. What was your first time? Because I never seen a black American before
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The blue top and this one. You're welcome. Okay thank you for making my life easier My son thinks that she only married me for the green card become a citizen of her papers
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Just because that's kind of the stereotype that Asians get in America
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There he is. Our buddy Michael, I want to ask him a few questions about our relationship and what he thought
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Hi. Psych. I met Mia and Manami in the building. Been friends ever since
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I want to get his first impression so that I can kind of understand my son better. And we're going to do a valve renewal over in the Philippines
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Oh, nice. Trying to get my son to come, but he's still kind of on the fence. He's on the fence
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Yeah. You guys' energy, everything's great and perfect. I don't see why your son would have an issue
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It's been kind of a challenge. I hope to have a conversation with him, like heart to heart, and just get his opinion
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But I can understand the questions and concerns that your son has
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I think a visit would help. That was the try yeah, I'm here. So what about you? What about me? What do you think about our relationship
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That was a little confused like what's going on all right Can I be like honest? So, you know, we first met I was like is this his girlfriend's daughter or something just seemed like such an odd type of
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Couple so I was like what's going on and I'm thinking is that his girlfriend or is that something
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know is this Thailand I don't know because it was such an opposite like and then you know I was looking at like you were trying to flirt on me huh
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I was looking and he kept kind of like lifting you up but it was like he was
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lifting up a kid I didn't realize how tall and how short you were the first
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time I sent the photo of my wife to my mom she literally said check her birth
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certificate is that legal there imagine we've been together for ten years ten
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10 years ago. I was 19 back then, and I was no baby yet, so I was so small and skinny
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Maybe I looked like 14 back then, I don't know. That's what my mom said
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My mom said she looked like she was 14. For Americans who've never traveled, like my mom, she looked too young to her
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My son was like 8 or 9 years old when we started our relationship. As he got older, especially once he turned like 14 or 15, he wasn't living with me anymore
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I could see that he was getting kind of upset. Sometimes it would go a month or two without even speaking
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So I think me relocating and not being with him, he feels like some kind of negative way about that
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I want to give him a call and just try. We'll see. Let's see. Hopefully he will. Hopefully
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We want to know what he thinking about us Because maybe he thinking that he chose me over him There he is Hey
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Hey, what's up? Hey, Eli. What's up, man? So we had something we wanted to ask you about. Okay
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I know you haven't been too fond of a relationship. Our 10-year anniversary is coming up
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and we're doing a vow renewal. And I would like you to be there this time
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Um, you know how I feel about the relationship, so it's kind of, why would I do that
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Because one, it gave me a chance to travel, and two, I've only been asking for like maybe
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nine, ten years? Just a little while. Yeah. Um, no, I don't think I could do that
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You're all the way across the world. It's been forever. Now it's got to be supporting a relationship I don't
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It's like, I don't know. So, yeah, what did you think when we first got together
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First red flag. It's just a different country, so how are you going to know
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whenever she gets all her papers, she's still going to be there
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I understand that in the beginning. That was kind of a long time ago, but yeah, I can understand from
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you know, people worry about the Philippines and, you know, green cards and all that stuff
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like besides the the initial red flag because we never had this conversation it's been a long time
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but we never actually talked about anything yeah it's like everything was good and then you meet
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her and now it's like you're half many miles away what if something happens and then like you got to
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be there um yeah it's called a plane ticket man it's only a kind of a short flight it only takes
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me, what, 24 hours to get there? So that was not too big of a deal
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So Eli, what did you think about what I wanted with your dad
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The citizenship. I get it's been a long time, but you hear these
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stories all the time, and so you get papers and then you'll see what happens
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And I don't mean to throw that stereotype on you, but it's
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a possibility. I totally understand your feelings. She did get your papers
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like a year ago. I did? I thought she was still waiting for..
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Oh no, we just never announced it. Yeah, I don't really care about it though
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As long as I'm with him. Did I ever change your mind a little bit
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Well this is the first time I hearing about it So I sure other people are asking the same thing aren they yeah yeah pretty much especially TikTok yeah TikTok people in TikTok be judging instead of getting upset or being negative about the things
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that people say here's 10 tips for dating a short Filipina we just embrace
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it and turn it into fun and comical content number one embrace the height
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difference all right well that video is process and let's check out the comments from our last video
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I found her in the middle of the forest and I put her in my bag and then we walked back home
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Someone says that's kidnapping. You can already tell that the future baby's
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gonna be bigger than her. Oh yes. She almost is, she's almost your height now, she's seven
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I love you. Don't look, you're taller than mommy. Oh wait, everyone's taller than mommy
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As long as she can go to America. Very original. Donate her to me, please. Donate
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Thank you. And how did it feel with my judgment as your son
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For me, that's the hardest one. Now that it's been like a whole decade and you've seen that she's literally been right by my side
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like at every moment of the day. Do you have a different opinion on our relationship
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Do you still have concerns? I mean, considering she got her papers like a year ago
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and is she still there? I guess now I can start trying to trust the relationship more
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So, yeah, I can come. Yeah, I'd appreciate it. One, I just want you to be there because you're my son
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And then two, I just want you to experience things outside of America. All right, cool. Peace
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Bye. The thing I love most about my wife, she's always there when I need her
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her unwavering support, and the way she motivates me is endless. He's very considerate, and he also makes me feel safe
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I'm fully happy in my life. I found my life partner. To the people that judge us, I say keep doing what you do
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It doesn't faze us, and we're going to keep on going. Thank you