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in
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marriage men
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are motivated when they feel
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useful women are inspired when they feel
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loved men are motivated when they feel
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useful women are
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inspired when they feel loved so we have
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to ask a question what makes a woman
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feel
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loved it is very easy to say I love
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you you are my
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whatever the sugar in my tea
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right the pen in my
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notebook and all the stuffs it's very
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easy to say but you have to learn how
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there's a way to love a
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woman and a man must understand that
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there's a way to love a woman so I want
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to teach on that is that okay now guys
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are you with me
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there's a way to what love it the issue
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is that you are loving her your way not
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the way she wants to be
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loved when you love a woman your way you
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think you have done all you should do
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when you provide and
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protect but things have
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changed an average woman that is getting
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married now already has her own Finance
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sorted you understand what I'm saying in
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fact
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some of them already have their houses
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paying their
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rent so you are not the one bringing a
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shelter she's
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covered you are not the one bringing her
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food she ears more than
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you it's not about the designers you
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want to buy for her she buys for
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herself so how can she be
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loved and don't ever forget this when
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she feels that love she
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blossoms she will be many things to you
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more than what you can imagine
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regardless of whether she's introverted
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or extroverted in fact you must learn
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how to be skillful in bringing the child
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in our
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out there is no Dimension you desire to
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see in your spouse as a woman that is
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not there you must be skillful in
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bringing it out create the atmosphere
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for her to
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Blossom are you with me here so one of
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the ways women feel
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loved is when they get
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attention this is one word will not
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leave attention attention
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attention now let me show you what
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attention is and what attention is not
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attention is not the same thing as being
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present
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because a woman can know that you are
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present but yet
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missing attention is not about being
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physically
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there in fact I predicted that in the
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next 10 years one of the leading cause
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of divorce will be mobile
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phones because that's the virtual world
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many people just Escape
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into so for the woman the man believes
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that I mean you said whenever I close
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from work I should be home on time I
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close by 4: I'm here 5:00 Lagos traffic
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or Abuja traffic whatever it is about on
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traffic I am here for her it is not
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about being here in the
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house and you are in your own world it
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is being here with me not in the house
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alone it is not being at home it is be
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with me
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because sometimes being at home and not
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being with her is worse than when you
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are not
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around you are around but she does not
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have your
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attention and she doesn't feel
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loved and men with men a lot of
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assumption one of the things you must
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know about women is that they don't like
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surprises in the sense that don't just
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pull anything on
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her I have to quickly get somewhere now
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9:30 she doesn't like it she has not
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planned that in her
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head she has imagined still seeing you
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till you go to
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bed so attention for a woman is not just
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the physical presence but the emotional
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Synergy the fact
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that there is a
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conversation that is hard to
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Heart some of them have their own love
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language from Act of service
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those people that have Act of service as
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they that one is work that one is not
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really nice they like men that will sit
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with them in the kitchen as they
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carrying this is's carrying
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that and you you are the kind of guy who
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never carried T stick you don't even
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know what they call it she is not being
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rude that is who she is she grew up
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seeing the dad and the mom they be G you
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you see that in the paror you are
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pressing your phone she's confused it
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doesn't love me
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see understand her okay women love
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attention it doesn't matter whether
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mommy go or Mommy they love attention
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they don't joke with you okay but you
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must make sure that your lack of
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attention does not give them a lifestyle
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where they move on from you it is
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dangerous when the woman is no longer
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asking for
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it it is very bad that home is already
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dying she has made up her mind this is
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why I marryed something is severed
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already from the marriage
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women can move on but they'll be
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around when they stop asking for the
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things they are asking they've concluded
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you don't have the capacity to give me
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inste of frustrating myself I'm
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okay okay so one of the ways you know
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your wife's love language is to check
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what she
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gives the one who loves gift will give
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gift except the stingy
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one CU there there are exceptions to
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these things number
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two a woman feels loved when she's
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covered
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protected
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security good sense of security
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Financial Security emotional security
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and let me warn at this
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point anytime you have misunderstanding
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listen to these
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men be careful of the things you say
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never say anything that threatens our
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security stay statement like it was my
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fault I married
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you I wish we never married in the first
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place one very serious thing that also
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threatens security is
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comparism you look at so and so so
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person when you compare your spouse with
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another woman she believes you are in
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love with that
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person and what you do is that you set
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her on the path of insecurity you bring
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out a monster out of her that should not
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be there
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there women wants
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security the fact that I've married a
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man that regardless of my Shenanigans
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they will tell you women know too that
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they have
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problem they see that's why check what
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they are saying when they are
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celebrating their men that I know I have
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problem but regardless of my problem he
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love me the same way he
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knows the father that give bir to her
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did not th out of the house for not
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cooking did not break her head are you
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not my father that's what she's
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thinking when she begins to talk with
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her biological father more than she
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talks to you is bad you are not doing
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your duty she feels safer with him you
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must understand security is a lot for a
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woman the fact that she knows he won't
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throw me
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away am I speaking your heart yes
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sir and a woman perceives a man who
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threatens the foundation of the home
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when he's angry as a
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wimp like he's a
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child and I perceive such a man as that
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too every conflict will end what we do
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to ourselves will
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remain every conflict will
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end when it comes to security emotional
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security financi iial
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security spiritual security which is
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your priest Duty the fact that she knows
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he has a man who will intercede for her
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the man who will pray for her the man
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who will guide her that's why it looks
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like some women respect their pastors
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more because a woman wants to feel
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secure she wants to be led by a trusted
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body she actually wants to be
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led women wants to be led more than you
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can imagine if you rise up to become the
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leader she will
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submit she wants to be led she does not
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want to be led astray she wants to be
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led the right
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path that's her
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design that's our
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wiring that's the way she grew
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up she loves
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leadership and the way to get her to
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submit
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is not true
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threat It Is by becoming
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one true patience serious
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patience in the days that theys will
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tell you I don't understand myself but
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please just bear with
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me understand me okay I I'm going
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through something I don't understand
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myself but just understand
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me a real man must have depth of
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emotional mat
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maturity you can't be threatened by
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every wind you must be able to carry her
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and carry the
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home because sometimes it just doesn't
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make
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sense what either of them
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do and you must understand the male man
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is is the foundation is the
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foundation and what is very what is much
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what is most important about Foundation
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is the strength
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Foundation does not have to be fine it
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has to be
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strong what makes a building solid is
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the fact that the foundation is strong
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so she wants a strong man women are
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attracted to strong
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leaders that's the
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fact women are attracted to
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leadership it is not a demonic thing
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it's a
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wiring and that's why you must
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understand when you are a man who has a
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vision
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that she can trust even when you don't
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have money she will follow you you
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threaten her when there's no money and
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there's no
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vision and you can't blame her for
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leing and you must understand having a
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strong Vision that you are passionate
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about is a form of security for her the
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fact that she knows I can stake my life
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around what he's doing I want to help
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him now there is something to help him
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do and when she feels as paac as the one
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who is helping she feels
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loved you have some things doing she's
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the
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one who is doing everything you are
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holding her by the hands as you are
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doing the things you are doing as your
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trophy she feels
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loved when you begin to make her take
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back
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seat you are communicating the fact that
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you have a
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placement and that's not
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good that's not good she wants to
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support your vision but make it
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clear and because she wants you to
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communicate communicate the vision in a
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way that she understand she will carry
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it more than
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you the same woman you think has
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abandoned your vision is because you are
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not talking and they are not angels to
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know what is in your mind
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if you are routing
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communicate don't say at least you can
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see me she's not she wants to hear
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it so when you are a man of vision one
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who is pursuing what you are
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pursuing it is clear with your energy it
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is clear with your Pursuit it is clear
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with your dedication that this is it a
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woman will sake her life around
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you and many men don't understand this
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so we try to paint women as
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materialistic because but if you ask the
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woman she will tell you I'm honestly I
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can't see any Vision here and when
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there's no vision a woman submit to a
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man who doesn't have Vision there's no
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purpose there she will be
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abused she will be abused so one of the
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things you want to check for in a man is
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what Vision am I building with you then
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you ask yourself am I wired for
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this am I wired for this
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when you allow your woman to help you
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she feels
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loved the fact that she knows everything
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that's going on she's communicating you
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guys are talking we go about it this way
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we oh yes that's it but if you keep
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communicating the fact that she's not
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important you will do it alone and you
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will
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fail now many men don't trust their
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women
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you trust somebody else forgetting the
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fact that the fellow is functioning
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because you are giving the person the
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privilege to function and you are not
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extending the same privilege to her and
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you wonder why she's under
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performing how do you give somebody else
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more opportunity to help you more than
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your
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wife don't you know that whoever helps
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you get a space in your heart you are
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not necessarily promiscuous you just
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found for yourself another
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Helper and when you do that the image of
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your
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wife begins to reduce and that person
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becomes
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enhanced attention breaths affection be
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careful who you give it
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to so you must understand this when you
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are
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hardworking when you are pursuing what
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you are when you are stable that you see
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that was stable older word when you are
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stable you are not saying this today
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tomorrow that tomorrow when you are
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stable a woman feels
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secure even when she's praising you and
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you are not stable she's praising you
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for your
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ego a woman can praise you for your ego
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but she wish you a better man
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it is not everything she's saying on
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your birthday that is true and she knows
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she's
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lying but she knows your ego needs it as
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a matter of fact if your wife is
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obligated to post you every time to
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describe the kind of man you are it's
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because she has noticed you have low
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sestem she will not feel the need to if
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she doesn't know you feed on it that's
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the reason
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that's the reason she's doing what
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because she knows you are down let's
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pump the ego I think I touched something
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there quot me anywhere and women you
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know I'm telling you the
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truth have you had to say things about
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someone because he desires it not
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because he has end
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it many women are obligated to First
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praise him before they talk because it
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is the right thing to do we have to the
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Gallery but is he really who you say he
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is if you
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want honor to come naturally from her
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give her security and lead her well if
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you're a man with varying decisions
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verying verying varing decisions her
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security is threatened and she's
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confused and many women are quiet about
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the things they should say because they
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are protecting the of the
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men they are protecting the guy they
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don't want to bruise his ego and she has
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to endure many
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things many women will tell you they are
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more quiet about the things they should
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say than they are
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talking just try to save the home let me
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give you one just one secret how do you
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lead a woman who is a Bor leader one who
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is
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choleric director of Affairs she knows
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what what she's
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doing she's so independent she almost
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doesn't need your leadership number one
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thing you must get right around her be
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secure once her growth is not
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threatening you she will submit and real
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men allow their wives
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fly real men allow their wives fly you
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want to equip
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her right you want to help her get
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better you want to help her to have
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money help her make
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money you are not threatened by what
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she's
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making you want to encourage her to do
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more you want to give her wings to
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fly it is to your own gain when you have
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a woman who is flying by your
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side it's your own game I heard Mrs iuk
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sharing that the name aosa is not her
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name it's the husband's name so whatever
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it is God is doing with her is doing
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around organizations who gets this name
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is enhanced