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I transitioned and now I'm helping my wife do the same
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He helped me get there and make that decision and actually gave me my first hormone shot
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A lot of people don't even assume that I'm trans. This is true
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What the is it? I'm human just like you. When you came in, it was just like full force
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I didn't have time to computer put two and two together. I didn't know you or ever hear about you
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and then you were always there. I didn't have that person of understanding when I went through my transition
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And to be able to be that person for her. Hi, my name is Malika and this is my husband Sam
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And people judge our relationship because we are both trans. I think I'm going to pull her out tonight
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Welcome to Cardi's Clam Room. This is where I become my alter ego, Cardi Red Diamond
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We met nine years ago. at a nightclub yeah i was performing that night i just got residency there i'm a lady of options
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i'm a lady of stones i'm a sequin shine you name it i was drawn to her confidence there wasn't much
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conversation until he asked me to come smoke with him after the bar closed and the rest is history
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i have been performing now for 10 years i started in the scene when i was 18 years old
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We started off in another relationship dynamic. She was in an open relationship
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I was the third person that came into that open relationship. This is not even a quarter of what I have
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This is one of my favorites. I love this outfit, obviously, because of the drama
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That first relationship ended, and we just continued to date after that
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Yeah. Way to go, babe. That was a great explanation. My favorite color is pink
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This is also one of my favorites. Catwoman is my team, and I have acrobatic skills
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so this is one of my favorite characters to cosplay. I kind of took on an assistant role, so to say
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He typically carries the bags I got the look under control Chauffeuring Helping her get to her gigs Helping her with the bookies
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We got married the same day that we got engaged. So I planned out a photo shoot for our day
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and made it seem like we were taking family photos. Turn around and look at Sam
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and I popped the question and then we went downtown and filed for the marriage license
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you made the ring box yourself in my favorite color she walked into a bouquet of flowers
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and an officiant standing in the living room next to me and the officiant looks at me and she goes
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you're getting married today and I couldn't even get words out I was so like, how I am now, speechless
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I bawled like a baby, I was sobbing, I was like so overwhelmed, she looked absolutely beautiful
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Probably one of the best days of my entire life. The effort that you put into that is like unmatched
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Okay, get ready, are you ready? I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing. Just stand there. Okay
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You get those comments online like, is that a man? Is that a man in a dress
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Is that a man in a dress? I'm confused. I'm confused. Our engagement video went viral
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And I think that was the first time that I personally experienced the negativity
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She's kind of had more exposure to that. I think there were maybe three that popped off
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before I told her to shut it off. What the is it
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I'm human just like you. Just stuff like that. Dumb ass stuff
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You're wasting your time judging other people. The biggest blessing in life is that we all have our own past
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We both had several people come to us and thank us for just being visible
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Why are you worried about how my life going? Go figure out yours
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I started my transition in 2015. I lived a very, I'd say, sheltered life
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Looking back at my childhood had I known the terminology I would have been able to determine who I was at a much younger age I have had my top surgery and I also had a hysterectomy
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I started my transition in February of 2023. I realized that I was a girl when I was like four or five years old
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Growing up was difficult for me. When Christmas time came around, it was depressing, and I had to pretend that it was a happy time
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because while I wanted a Barbie or a Bratz doll, I got an action figure and a WWE wrestler
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I ain't want that for Christmas. I hit 29 and I was like, enough is enough
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Like, I'm not living for nobody else anymore. I know what's going to make me happy
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And he helped me get there and make that decision and actually gave me my first hormone shot
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I've been doing mine for over 10 years, so it's like nothing
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But now we do each other's. So I do his and he does mine. I haven't had any surgeries yet, no
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No surgeries yet. A lot of people don't even assume that I'm trans
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This is true. So they're just mind-blowing. And they're like, well, how do you have a better beard than I do
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How do I grow a beard like yours? SJ is my drag daughter
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I'm a showgirl, and I'm a mentor to her. I have known Malika for seven years now
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I became her drag daughter and I met Sam through her. It's been a minute since I've seen her
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so she's gonna come over and visit. Daughter! Hello, mother! At first, I was pretty apprehensive about the whole thing
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I was like, I'm not sure how I feel about this man. When it comes to dating as a trans woman
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it's already hard because people look at it as, oh, you're dating a trans woman, you're gay, automatically
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no matter what. How did you feel walking in and seeing a wedding
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that you didn't know about? Honestly, it was a bit of a shock
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I was not prepared for that. I thought y'all were going to get engaged that day
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not get married. Well, I thought I was just gonna be engaged that day too
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So we were all a bit surprised except for you. I think a lot of people also think that it was quick
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Were there questions? Did you not agree Were you There was so much going on in that I know you were in an open thing I wasn expecting for you guys to get so serious Did you feel as though like I was someone that was coming in and like kind of stepping on toes of your parents relationship
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I mean yes when you came in it was just like full force
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I didn't have time to computer put two and two together Y'all were just together by time. I knew y'all were together if that makes sense
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I get that. It makes sense. I feel like in the beginning, it was a little hard for me
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I didn't really care to get to know you, if I'm being honest. Then I realized you truly cared about her deeply
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It would go to the ends of the earth for her. Honestly, the fact that a trans person can find another trans person to help them on the journey in itself is very special
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Having a partner that goes through the struggles and things that you go through and can understand them, it means the world
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I want to know, why her? Why do you care so much about her
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And how do you know that this is what you want for the rest of your life
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Nine years ago, I saw the girl that was hiding in drag
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I saw the girl that was driven to the bars to try to be seen
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And I get to help her do that. I didn't have that person of understanding when I went through my transition
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And to be able to be that person for her. it just solidified everything for me
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Like, for the first time in my entire life, I felt unconditional love with somebody
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I've become the person that I'm supposed to be because of him
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She has brought a new light to my drive, and she makes me want to achieve more
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The way that he looked at me when he first laid his eyes on me, he has not stopped looking at me that way
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And that to me is more impactful and powerful than anything else
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Go find your person. I got mine. He got his