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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode get to know Kelly O'Horo up close and personal and learn the 'why' behind the Adaptable podcast.
I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment-based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!
I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
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hi everyone I'm Kell oh' horo and this
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is adaptable Behavior
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explained it's hard yeah so you can't
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fix it you're busy trying to figure out
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how to fix
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it so I went back to
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school nice yeah got your degree
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and well like I said and then um and
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then you know I did that kind of talk
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therapy for a couple of years and of
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course got into my own therapy yeah and
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uh I got so far doing talk therapy but
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then I kind of hit this plateau and okay
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great you know I'm not my mom he's not
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my dad why do I keep acting the way I'm
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acting you know I understood it and I
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was you
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know why so I I transitioned at that
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point over to an EMDR therapist and I
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mean a couple sessions I'm like holy
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oh I can't believe how different
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this is because I could feel the changes
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happening in my body as we were doing
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the work and and everything made so much
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more sense and then I went through this
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weird experience where I felt guilty
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about having been a talk therapist
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because I spent two years doing that and
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I was like all these people are still
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stuck and I didn't know and I can't seem
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to make anything better no matter how
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much I love Anam and how much I'm there
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and validating and and using all the
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skills that I learned and so I got hot
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soon as I soon as I um went to my own
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therapy I was like oh this is this is
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the stuff absolutely got to happen and
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so I went right into the uh basic EMDR
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training and started started my trauma
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therapy specialy career path and it was
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just a fit I mean being on that side of
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the couch as a client was revolutionary
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for me and how I could conceptualize
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cases and also just knowing what we're
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asking of our clients as therapists and
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what we're expecting of them and having
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it having the opportunity to um really
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help people to create lifelong
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meaningful change like I was
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experiencing really reinvigorated me it
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made me feel so um purposeful and
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relevant and excited and so I mean the
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rest is history when it comes to my
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passion for this topic for sure
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absolutely we'll get into that too yeah
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thank you for for sure yeah absolutely
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so you became a trauma therapist yeah
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okay so what next what happened after
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that um well I opened infinite healing
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in Wellness about a little over two
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years in soon as I got my license I was
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ready to open Infinite and we are an
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EMDR Center for excellence here in
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Arizona we've got a location in Gilbert
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and in Phoenix and over the years we've
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uh cultivated a culture where we have
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you know 18 therapists at this point
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that are EMDR Specialists yeah we've had
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the luxury of helping you know many
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thousands of people heal on their
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journeys of becoming their best selves
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and uh of course I've taken my passion
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from EMDR therapy and uh my teaching
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history and melded them together so now
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I do a lot of consultation and training
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and help other therapists become better
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therapists so that's kind of what I've
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been doing with my heart and passion for
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EMDR along with raising my family and
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along the way having now five
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grandchildren and my awesome son so very
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busy with my wonderful family and love
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love that the most of course first but
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um but career-wise I've been plugging
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plugging uh into teaching and
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essentially yeah yeah so you were you
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started your own business infinite so
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now you're wanting to start a podcast so
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tell me about that what's your vision
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behind that well let's see uh I'm always
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looking for a challenge but I think
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primarily what motivates it is I can't
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even count how many hundreds of clients
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that I've had that have said after their
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first or second
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session everything makes so much more
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sense or why didn't we learn this in
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school or how come no one ever told me
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this or even more heartbreaking you know
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you have a 65-year-old client and
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they've had a 30-year marriage and
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they're like had I known this stuff
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everything would have been so different
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in my whole life and so there's grief
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about that so honestly um I wanted to be
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able to provide a platform where I can
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teach about things that I teach my
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clients in a way that's accessible you
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know not everybody can afford therapy or
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maybe not everybody's ready or maybe
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even sometimes just having the education
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about how we work and how we show up
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absolutely that's enough to help
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cultivate change and meaningful uh uh
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awareness in our lives and in our
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relationships and so my hope is that
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people can tune in and not that this is
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a replacement for therapists by or
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therapy by any means but that they can
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get some of the education components
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that really should be taught in school
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starting young because we learn from our
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caregivers and let's be honest most of
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our caregivers are doing the very best
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they can with what they know and most of
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them don't know about this topic they
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don't understand mental health they
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don't understand that it's not separate
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trauma yeah from physical health so
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ultimately I want to have a platform to
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help educate to help people uh grow to
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help people get excited and learn
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something new and um just kind of pay
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forward what I've been so fortunate to
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experience in my own personal therapy
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for a decade now and then what I've
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learned from the in the gifts of getting
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to to have my clients teach me so much
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over the last you know 13 years of doing
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this so you want to share it with the
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world yeah like it seems right seems
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like the thing you're supposed to do
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right yeah so you're starting a podcast
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um what can viewers expect from this and
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what themes and topics do you want to
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explore with them um you know although
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I'm an expert in trauma therapy I'm
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really hoping to bring an authentic
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compassionate amalgamation of both my
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personal life experience the lived
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experience of my clients that I'm so
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lucky to listen to every day um the
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education and the training that I've
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been um been through and kind of bridge
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a lot of that together and so I want to
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talk about marriage and relationships
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and dating and you know parenting and
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adoption and depression and anxiety and
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you know EMDR therapy and how that's so
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effective and helpful mindfulness I
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really I don't really think any topics
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necessarily off limit limits as long as
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it relates to the Human Condition how we
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show up why we show up the way we do and
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if there's things that we can talk about
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to help make that better for people so
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that they can have like a new way of
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thinking they can adopt a more uh
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wholehearted approach to their Liv
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framework yeah yeah and and really just
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be able to um improve and and ultimately
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getting back to the most original selves
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that we were meant to be before things
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happened that helped us to adapt in ways
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that may or may not be very helpful so
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hopefully they can learn about that and
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and even maybe start the process of un
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shaming ourselves when we do things or
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we act in ways that we're not proud of
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and have that be almost a relief that
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maybe they don't need to yeah that's
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exciting that's the hope all right so
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those are awesome topics I'm excited to
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hear about those can you give us an
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example maybe of something specific that
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our viewers can expect and that would
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really resonate with them and something
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that they'll like yeah um for sure you
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should see my podcast planner I'm like
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oh that could be an episode you know and
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I'm in there you know typing up
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something I'm so there's so many things
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to talk about there's I get so many
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ideas every day that I work with someone
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and they you know they have their aha
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moments and I'm like this is just a lack
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of data they just didn't know and
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they're smart adaptive well educated
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people and they just didn't get taught
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this stuff so um one one I mean I think
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that one of the most important episodes
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needs to be on emotions and how we're
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wired how it's chemical you know this is
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this should be taught in in biology in
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school and it's not it's like we skip
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the thing the mental health side yeah
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like we skipped the thing that runs at
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all the the computer is the brain and
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we're like side note right like inside
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out the movie feels like exactly like we
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really need access to that so I think
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we'll do an episode on emotions how
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we're work we'll talk about some
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researchers um that have really informed
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the topic um and mental health and and
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just the biology and the neurobiology of
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of humans um oh that's cool yeah that be
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yeah but so that's just one idea of
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something that I would want to bring
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awareness to and give us a new framework
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to to to interact and and move through
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the world with awes with other humans
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awesome well thank you Kelly for talking
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with us and having a conversation I'm
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excited to see what's coming forward I'm
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excited to do this and I really
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appreciate you taking some time to give
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me a hand with this and absolutely bring
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our viewers a little bit about what they
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can expect from absolutely from our new
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project so heck yeah thank you so much
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everybody for tuning in I really
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appreciate your time and don't forget to
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like And subscribe and please share to
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pay it forward if you think this is an
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area that people can learn from and heal
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from and don't forget to lead with love
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it'll never steer you wrong
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