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KEI and G have been together for 16 years, but their relationship has a rather unique set-up. Opening up to Love Don't Judge, Kei explained: "People judge my relationship because I feel like a dog and G feels more like a cat." G added: "I feel like I've always been like a cat from a young age, certain things about me are just very cat-like." After getting together, the pair discussed their pet identities and decided to embrace this part of them. Kei explained: "I'll bark or growl or whimper, and G can understand what I mean in those moments." Going one step further, the pair even don pet collars to complete their look. In this episode of Love Don't Judge, Kei will be trying a dog bowl for the first time and the couple will hear what Kei's sister, Mia, feels about their relationship. Kei admitted, "I'm nervous. I'm not really sure what she feels about the cat dog personas. It's not something that we've talked about." Reflecting, G said, "Just be yourself, because that's really it."
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Hi, my name's Kay
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Hi, I'm G. My partner feels more like a dog, and I feel more like a cat. Meow
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Today, I'm going to try drinking from a dog bowl for the first time
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Kay, come get your water. You look so cute. I feel like we've really been judged
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throughout our relationship on a lot of different things, the way we live our life
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We have had death wishes against us. You know, people think we live a wild life
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but it's just normal to me. My sister Mia has sent us a letter
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to tell us how she feels about our relationship. When I learned of it, my eyes grew big
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and I fell silent, shocked, and alarmed. I'm Kay, and this is my partner, G
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People judge my relationship because I feel more like a dog and G feels more like a cat
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We basically, we met online. Yeah, and that was in 2008 during our senior year of high school
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These ones are these ones. I think ones. What do you think
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Furry or leather floppy? Well, I love the furry ones, you know
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Well, you made them both. I made them both. G sent me a friend request and I liked some pictures and was like, I like your hat
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So I guess I said something first. I started socially transitioning when I was 21, like changing my name and asking people
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to call me by different pronouns. but physically I started transitioning in 2018
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You thirsty K? You ready for some water? Today I'm gonna try drinking from a dog bowl
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for the first time. K, come get your water. That was really fun
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I definitely felt very doggy. I saw my reflection in the bowl, like I was unexpected
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Definitely made me feel more in touch with my dog identity. Definitely gonna be using the bowl again
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You look so cute. Hey pup. The first year we were together
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we bought a collar and leash. I guess that was kind of the first time
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that I started to feel sort of like a dog. I love taking photos of each other and together It really just helps me like be grounded in my element I feel like I always kind of been a cat From a young age I had a little cat who basically grew up with me
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Certain things about me are just very cat-like. We had dogs growing up and also cats, and I definitely felt more of an affinity with the dogs
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Once we got together, it came out of me more because certain qualities, like the way I feel devoted
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or want to be in service or just want to be near each other in this sort of companionship way
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Specifically, I identify as a black cat because a black cat is very misunderstood in society
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I'll bark or sort of growl or whimper, and she can sort of understand what I'm meaning in those moments
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I do wear a collar often. This collar in particular is an actual dog collar
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Mine says, K, my puppy love forever. And in the back says, if lost, return to G
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And mine just says, G, forever by your side, my love. My sister Mia has sent us a letter to tell us how she feels about our relationship
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And I'm nervous to read it. When we first got together, she was pretty hesitant
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Yeah, it wasn't like full on board support. I'm not really sure how she feels about the cat and dog personas
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It's not something I talk to her about. K and G, at the beginning of your relationship
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I remember you two being young and oh so in love. K, our mother said it was just a phase
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And even though I saw you happy, I think I believed that maybe you're dating G
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and moving out of state to be with G as soon as you both graduated high school was just a symptom of your rebel ways
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With you, I often process things in terms of trying to protect you, doing whatever I can to help you be safe and well
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Gee, it took a while for us to meet, but when we finally did, it didn't take long for me to discover
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that Kay had found someone special. I don't know if you know this, but I was suspicious of your introversion at first
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Over time, I've learned that it's part of your beauty and part of your reflective, observant, and sensitive ways
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Although I have an unwavering lens of love and support for y'all, I'd be lying if I didn't say
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that some of your changes have thrown me for a loop We started making adult films 12 years ago Sometimes being like in these personas is included in our adult content but not always When you started producing adult content I had
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mixed feelings. Nevertheless it has been interesting to see how that side of your
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life has evolved through your films which I have not seen but I'm proud of y'all for producing
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When I learned of it my eyes grew big and I fell silent, shocked, and alarmed. While it doesn't
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ever arise in my daily conversation, I'd likely feel a bit awkward if it did. I tend to click away
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if I see any risque imagery or footage on your socials, and that is pretty much my philosophy
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I feel like we've really been judged throughout our relationship on a lot of different things
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the way we live our life. You know, people think we live a wild life, but it's just normal to me
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People have judged us for just wanting to show something that people think should be private
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in the public. I feel like a lot of people have said things like
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why do you want to put that out there? Aren't you ashamed to show yourself in this way
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We do have people who will report our posts and who will be constantly hating on us
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but most of our network is very supportive of us. We have had death wishes against us
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That doesn't necessarily feel as much about the judgment, but there was a level of just like an intense hatred toward us like that was unwarranted
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Being judged by others has definitely motivated me to just be more of myself and put myself out
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there and like for every hater we have like more than one person showing us support. When people
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say hateful things about something they don't understand it is an expression of their own
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ignorance and fear. We're gonna go to the local dog park today to run around. When we've gone for
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walks, and that's like without the ears, without the mask, just the leash, we've definitely gotten
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people staring at us. I remember one time a family with a baby in a stroller like shielded their
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child's eyes from looking at us. People will ask like, can I get on the leash too? People will honk
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their horns. We usually just laugh Regarding the cat dog persona that is probably the least processed thing for me I don think I really understand it I don know much about it and tend not to want to see anything that would suggest sexy time with y
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As two creatives, I see your expression of yourselves and your love as part of the long unfolding of your relationship
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It is unique, like you both are, and as long as you are happy and feeling whole in who you are, I am happy for you
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Your resilience, forgiving natures, and commitment to caring for one another while honoring yourselves
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leads me to believe you both will stay together as long as you both desire
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which I'm under the impression is for the long haul. With love, Mia
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Yay. Good job. Thanks. It definitely made me feel emotional. It's really touching to, like, receive these words
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It's beautiful to reflect on, like, not just how, like, much we've grown, but, like, how much also she's grown
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I feel like really like touched, you know, she's so sweet and like it just felt good to be like seen and just like held
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I think our relationship works because we really complement each other. What I love most about G is how G is just creative and passionate
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There's a certain level of like confidence and just like determination that I just really respect
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what I love about Kay is I can be myself with you that you also just make other people feel
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comfortable to be themselves I think that that's a superpower for sure and you're a healer you help
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to heal me you help to heal the world that's so needed what I would say to people who judge our
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relationship is focus on your own self. If you're going to focus on me, then that's fine. You can be
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a hater. Like I welcome it, you know, but all I'm doing is spreading love. And I would just hope that
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you would do the same, like just try to spread love instead of being hateful
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and just be yourself because that's really it
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