How to Navigate Life Changes Like a Pro 💡 | SWAY’S UNIVERSE

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that's the voice of our
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resident mental health counselor
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licensed licensed professional mental
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health counselor singer
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producer star athlete at Central
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Michigan
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[Applause]
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University let's give it up for the one
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and only David we is back give
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up happy to be here
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man what's going on Tracy's in New York
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that's what you're looking at right now
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Dave you don't realize we got a whole
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new thing going we're by Coastal for
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real I see Tracy DB uh who else Tor you
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can see him waving in what's up what's
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up T is there is uh DJ Tyler there today
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what's up okay there go torch right
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there okay we're all over here so yeah
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so we we we're stationed down here yeah
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you know in La you know you know I'm a
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West Coast dude anyway planet Earth was
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my place of birth though I don't claim
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one region I claim them all but you know
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what it is you know what I mean yeah all
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right when I'm on the west coast that's
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like Clark Kent going in the phone booth
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you know what happens when Clark Kent go
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in the pH when he walks out who is he
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Superman you better act like you
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know go get him he breaks his glasses in
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there he you want to start with David
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yes I do and I'm so happy that you're
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here today and it's ironic that you're
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here today because um as sway mentioned
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we're here on the West Coast and I I I
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remember walking into my apartment for
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the first time this Friday this past
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Friday and was like wow like I live here
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now like legit live here and I moved
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here with just my clothes and just
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getting used to this new environment I
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think mentally I had to sit down for a
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second and just try to figure it all out
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like you know I had I literally starting
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from scratch like I had to buy toilet
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paper and and pots and and different
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things that I'm just not it's a whole
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new environment for me and but I don't
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want to forget about home you know like
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where I come from you know like I was my
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my clock is still set on East Coast to
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and I was like I got to get out of that
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there's little things that I have to
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break so how do you what what advice
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would you give to someone because it
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doesn't necessarily have to be a
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physical move like like I made but just
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going into a new environment you know
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like how do you adjust mentally you know
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starting fresh starting new yeah new
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environment new relationship anything
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that's new you're going to experience
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neighbors like just new neighbors you're
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going experience grief just so you know
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ahead of time okay yeah yeah yeah you
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experience grief anything that's new
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even if it's something great and good
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right like going from high school to
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college you experience the grief of
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losing friends or going different places
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going to different spaces right so the
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same thing going from New York to La La
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is wonderful was beautiful but you're
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still going to experience some grief
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from not being there right and then all
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new things new clothes new whatever make
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pots and pans and everything else so on
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one hand you're experiencing Joy on the
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other hand there's some grief that
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you're experiencing too so there's some
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of you out there who are listening and
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maybe you broke up in a relationship or
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maybe You' just moved or or or maybe
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someone in your family died or something
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like that right it so grief doesn't just
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come from Death it's also the death of a
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situation death of a relationship the
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death of Separation separation okay I
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felt that way um because my departure
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from New York was rather uneventful
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right on purpose right I didn't no party
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no nothing okay I I want to I didn't
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want to you know wait you mean this time
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cuz you actually had two so because
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initially you came from Los Angeles to
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New York that's true 25 years ago 25
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years ago and now 25 years later like
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after you built an entire life in New
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York yeah a world a world we actually
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rekindled our relationship when he moved
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to New York the first three months he
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was there he walked into my best
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friend's basement I'm like what are you
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doing here like
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sway you know what I mean so now he's
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back here so that's a different kind of
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grief or or or feelings yeah I mean so
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you didn't have a anything no party no I
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did you said it was on purpose yeah
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because I didn't do that when I left LA
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to come to New York I didn't want to put
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put it on that pedestal I just wanted to
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to be a part of the journey right okay
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but I will admit leaving New York for me
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has been a little sadder yeah than when
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I left LA to go to New York cuz you know
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you know I didn't live in LA as long I
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haven't lived anywhere as long as I
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lived in New York right and so I'm
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playing it nonevent I didn't I didn't
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live in Oakland As Long As I lived in
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New York right crazy so I'm keeping it
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non-eventful because we come out here
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all the time I got a home out here I got
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my my my network out here but we ain't
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been side by side for 25 years so when I
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was on the plane I was like oh
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[ __ ] I was like oh this is really I'm
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feeling something right now David you
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know and so I landed I just worked this
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whole weekend doing our beats and bars
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competition show so I didn't get a
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chance to deal with it so last night I
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walk in a new apartment which is amazing
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space m and I felt a little sadness it
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hit you then yeah until I laid on that
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brand new mattress with the new sheets
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and then I forgot about it but I'm just
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saying you know it so that's what that
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is I couldn't explain that and so
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talking to my friends they're like we
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got to do this we got to do that we got
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to do this I'm like hold up man yeah let
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me deal with this transition yeah before
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anything that's smart to do it yeah for
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sure did you do you celebrate birthdays
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do you are you a person who celebrates
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things or no no no okay I celebrate your
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things but not your own I celebrate I
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feel so great I'm so gracious about the
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gift that God has given me yeah you know
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I'm like I'm just thankful for him I
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don't do do you do you mind if I
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challenge you this week both of you
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actually myself included um my brother's
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like this he he won't celebrate he won't
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celebrate anything his birthday was the
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other day I called him left a voicemail
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and said hey man it's your birthday I
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know you're not going to celebrate I'm
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telling you right now go out and do
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something because we're so used to
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working we're so used to doing we're so
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used to being productive and and head
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you know keep marching right and just
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going forward that we don't often don't
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take time to be like you know what I did
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my thing in New York like it would have
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been dope if you would celebrated like
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you know what I did my thing here we had
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an amazing time I met amazing people and
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let people come and celebrate you you
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just said something very positive mean
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very very important you celebrate other
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people the question becomes will you let
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people celebrate you will you put
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yourself in position so we can come
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together and celebrate you and your life
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and everything you've done for everyone
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else you two Heather be and um so that's
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important taking those moments and
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celebrating yourself if you at home
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right now celebrate yourself today today
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celebrate yourself today party of one
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celebrate yourself today I like that so
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does this mean David that you're going
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to if I let you celebrate me you're
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going to get the venue you're going
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to don't know how work got I I'm only on
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the other side side okay I got you you
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see I got you okay all right Taco I got
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you okay Tracy G what are your thoughts
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about
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this uh I have interesting thoughts I
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think that that I would have to share
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the majority of them off air I don't
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know if they'll be best shared on air
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when I think about a lot um as it
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pertains to me but everything that you
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guys are sharing right now makes a lot
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of sense I don't think people
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have looked at it through the lens of
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grief you know and letting go of when
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change happens in your world is a little
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bit upside down whether it's your choice
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or or not your choice so I'm always a
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fan of self-reflection to be like okay
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how can I bless something and then let
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it go how can I bless something and and
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welcome it so I think it's a beautiful
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practice okay all right that's Tracy man
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uh we got some people on the phone lines
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and Mike News is here too I see him just
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just really thinking about his own life
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and all the changes that's happened in
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the travel that he's done right but the
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thing that you guys were talking about
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um I think David is so right about
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celebrating yourself I always make sure
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I do that that because I think everyone
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in this room can attest how hard life is
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and really how hard media and
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entertainment is I actually I don't mind
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admitting I actually cried yesterday um
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at the Oscars right at the moment when
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Cynthia Revo started singing home there
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was just something so beautiful about it
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and then I just couldn't believe I was
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there right I couldn't believe I was
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still there I couldn't believe I was
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still getting the invite and what most
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people don't know sway H the be knows is
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but I was going to the Oscars prior to
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ABC so I wasn't at the Oscars because of
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ABC I was there because of myself and so
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to do that as your own brand as your own
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entity is almost impossible to do and so
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I celebrated the moment I allowed those
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tears to fall right and to say I'm still
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here I'm still standing and I was so
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thankful for that moment and then you
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snap back and you get into the presence
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of everything but I made sure I took in
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that moment and I didn't take that
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moment for granted good for you Mike all
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right we got Travis on the line thank
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you for sharing and he's from New Jersey
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and he moved you moov from Jersey to
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Atlanta
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Travis hey tra or you want to how y'all
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doing great how about you
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man good man good just trying to
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navigate my new life I um been in Jersey
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my whole life I'll be 50 at the end of
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this month my uh my father passed away
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about two years ago my mother-in-law
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passed away six months
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later and me and my fin lived in Georgia
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so me and the wife decided to uh do a
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reset come out here and start all
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over and um she came out a couple months
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before I did she decided to go back to
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nursing school she got a new job the
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first one the first one or two didn't
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hit this one did she she found a home
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she's she likes it and uh me I'm just
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still trying to find my way I'm trying
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to do uh I'm not even sure what I'm
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trying to do I had a landscape business
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in Jersey I'm trying to transition and
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do something completely different out
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here and uh really don't know where to
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start just trying to figure it
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out all right David you want to talk to
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yeah yeah so um what let me ask you this
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question what do you enjoy
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doing
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um I love hip-hop music like I mean I I
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love the culture but I you know I don't
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rhyme I don't produce I don't do
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anything like that uh pretty good with
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talking to people very person able
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person uh what
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else that's it man I'm pretty I'm pretty
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easy going I just the thing I've been
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doing I've been going for years so it's
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like I don't even know where to start
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you know what I mean so so one of the
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things I do with my clients all the time
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is I start from a a blank sheet of paper
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and just talk about what do I enjoy
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doing most people forget what they enjoy
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you work at a job you don't necessarily
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like anymore you maybe you live in a
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city you don't necessarily like to live
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in whatever it may be so we forget what
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we actually like and so I would start
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with a blank piece of paper I don't care
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if it's cartoons I don't care if it's
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cereal I don't care what it is write
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down what you like don't get ahead of
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yourself and try to figure out what that
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means okay I'mma start eating more
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cereal not necessarily um what it means
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is just write down everything so I may
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write down I love basketball well I
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can't play basketball anymore right but
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how many jobs are in the basketball
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realm there's a GM there's a scout
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there's all of things don't requ you to
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play basketball so from a from a basic
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standpoint what things bring me joy what
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things bring me happiness write those
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things down and start from there because
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sometimes we just
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forget you got that Travis you got that
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yeah yeah yeah no that's a nice way to
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start that's I said I love I love
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hip-hop I love music I'm a I'm love the
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culture but I don't I can't do anything
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don't write no raps dog that ain't where
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you at yeah I think I think to Mike's
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Point what Mike said about even David
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brought up a good thing though it's like
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don't say you can't do anything he said
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there's other things in it or around it
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maybe you can start your own you know
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website or or or podcast about what you
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loved about hip hop you know who was
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your favorite artist like we're W we're
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losing so many people at this point you
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know um we we saluted Angie Stone this
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morning but look where her root started
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you know she started in Hip Hop you
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there's a lot to do in like you said in
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the field that you love it doesn't
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always have to be a producer or a rapper
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there's other things to do um in in this
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in this well that we have a hip hop so
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maybe there's something there for you
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Travis but don't just say I can't do
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anything because David just said
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otherwise absolutely I I love that
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you're right we our negative selft talk
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sometimes is is really bad mind included
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um so start with this blank sheet of
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paper write down everything you enjoy I
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would also say get out man this is for
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everyone out there listening get out and
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walk Walking is incredible for for
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emotions and how you feel like when
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you're walking and you're moving you're
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less likely to feel depressed you're
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less likely to feel down um you're more
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likely to feel optimistic about your
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life and everything you have going on
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man give it up for David Weber I want
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you to give out your information man
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citizens you can hit him directly he
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promised me for sure you can hit him and
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he'll get back with you and he won't
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invoice you on that first
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call that's just the first one though I
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can't you know can't get past that the
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easiest way and quickest way to get in
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contact with me is David Weber
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LPC um on Instagram that's David Weber
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LPC on Instagram I'll respond today hit
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me up if you have any questions if
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you're looking for resources in your
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area whatever it may be I got you Travis
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thank you for your honesty you're you're
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a super citizen man way morning and good
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luck in ACL um you're welcome um David I
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want to thank you for flying out here of
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course this is where it's at how long
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you out here uh tomorrow maybe or maybe
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the next day I'm not sure you come back
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on the show tomorrow we can give you
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some more time oh word okay just just
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wrapped up fairly quickly okay for sure
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it's our first day in our permanence
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here in LA

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