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And one of the most healing things that
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we can do in these relationships is name
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it. Talk about it. Have compassion. Have
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some self-understanding, some insight,
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and be able to to express yourself. So,
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sometimes you're going to need to look
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at yourself and think, I realize that I
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need more emotional openness in my
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friendships. I might need to say if I'm
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the one that's being shut out, I care
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about you, but I also notice that I feel
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shut out. I know that I had a friend who
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I deeply thought we were very connected
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and after a moment like this where she
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actually had a pet that died and her pet
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was everything to her. And she didn't
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even tell me. And it was like weeks
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before I knew that. I was so shocked and
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I was hurt and I was betrayed because I
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was like, what kind of friendship is
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this that, you know, I see you many,
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many times a day and you didn't even
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think that you could share that with me.
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It just felt so strange to me. So, you
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know, I want to be able to say like I
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want connection that includes the hard
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parts, not just the good ones. And I
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want to be one of your people like you
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are one of my people. And that way it
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doesn't come across as an accusation,
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but it's clarity about what you need,
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what you feel, and what you hope to gain
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by being in the relationship. And this
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clarity allows us to adapt rather than
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like silently resent or just slowly pull
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So, this episode isn't about labeling
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anyone as good or bad or healthy or
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unhealthy. It's about just helping us
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better understand patterns that exist in
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relationships and sometimes those big
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moments that happen that we don't fully
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understand. It's about understanding
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those invisible dynamics that shape our
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connection and our trust and our
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vulnerability. And sometimes
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relationships end not because anyone did
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something wrong, but because that
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intimacy was being defined differently
