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May 11, 2026
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There's always going to be someone who
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disagrees with either the way that
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you're doing life, the way that you're
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parenting, the way that you are living,
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the goals or career that you're
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pursuing. It could be a close friend, it
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could be a sibling, your mother, your
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partner, your mother-in-law,
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a family member, it could even be your
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boss, right? There's always going to be
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someone in your life that just doesn't
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get it.
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With that being said, I'm here today to
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encourage you to just live the life that
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you want to live and to choose today to
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stop living for man and let go of
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scrutiny and opinions from others. I
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feel that sometimes the things that I
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endure in life or the things that I
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experience in life, I try to use them as
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a way to be encouraging to others. And
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one thing that was on my heart today
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during my Bible study is that um
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scripture that tells us to live not for
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man but to live for God. I'm not always
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perfectly great at quoting my scriptures
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word for word. So, always I'll leave
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them at the bottom of the video for you
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guys. But nevertheless, I try to just
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stay deeply rooted in his word so that
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when I'm experiencing certain things in
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life, I can kind of generally know what
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the Bible says about that. And one thing
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that it strongly is against is living
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our lives for others, for man, right?
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because instead he's a jealous God and
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he wants us to live our lives for him.
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There are so many instances in the Bible
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where
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God is trying to protect us where
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sometimes we might not always notice it
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and sometimes we may even not realize
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that it actually applies to our current
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season of life and sometimes it won't. I
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read something that said God loves us so
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much and too much to answer our prayers
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at any time other than the right time.
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So there may be things in the Bible that
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we just don't notice until it's our time
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to notice it. We can often overlook
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something that might just seem trivial
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or small and we don't give it the depth
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that it really needs. In life itself,
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there are just way too many chances and
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options for people to try and persuade
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us and influence us. It's literally
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everywhere. We wake up in the morning,
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we get on our phone, unknowingly, we're
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on Facebook, and now we have a ton of
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ads on our screen because they're
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everywhere. They are in Instagram,
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they're in Facebook, they're on YouTube,
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they are Tik Tok. Everywhere you go, you
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go to the store, you drive down the
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highway, there are ads everywhere. And
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all the time, everyone is competing for
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our attention. And what that does is not
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only does it distract us from, you know,
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the things that are more important in
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life. In ways it can be a little bit
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detrimental to to ourselves
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in the fact or in the sense that it's so
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easy to get caught up in what everyone
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else is doing, what everyone else wants
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you to do that you can kind of just
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forget to be yourself and live the life
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that you want to live for yourself.
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There's always a new trend that's going
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on of everything we do in terms of how
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we dress, in terms of how we do our
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hair, how we do our makeup, and even
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when it comes to like minimalism and
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slow living, even that can have like
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certain aesthetic trends, right? And
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while it's really beautiful to pursue
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all of these things, you don't have to
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actually pin yourself to these things.
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You can live a slow life without taking
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walks on a sandy beach. And you can be a
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minimal mom or homemaker without having
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bare white walls. And the reason that
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I'm bringing up those specific examples
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is because these are the type of things
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that I talk about on my channel. I just
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want to be as encouraging and realistic
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as I can with you guys. While I
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typically love, you know, those
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beautiful soft organic cotton gauze
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dresses. In fact, they're like my
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favorite because of how comfortable they
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are. It's the reason why I love them,
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right? Not because it's a tread wipe
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trend, right? But sometimes I just like
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a blue jean denim jacket and a Lily
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Palooer jumper or romper. You know, it
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sometimes just depends on how I'm
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feeling that day and what I have to do.
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When you wake up in the morning and you
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dress yourself, ask yourself,
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what feels like me today? not
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who's going to judge me when I walk out
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the door in this outfit or with this
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hairstyle or don't even put on makeup in
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the morning when you wake up. Just go
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out barefaced, you know, just do things
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for you. Whatever makes you happy. When
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I started pursuing um slow living and
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minimalism, it was my way of being a
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rebel in society, right? because I
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pretty much got sick of living in the
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hustle culture and trying to keep up
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with everything and everybody all the
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time. I got sick of filling my home, you
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know, with everything that is on the
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shelves when I go inside of a store or
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all of the ads on my Facebook from all
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of my favorite stores because they know
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what your favorite store is. It's so
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easy for them to get you. And I knew
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that it was time for me to start being
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more minimal in my purchases and in the
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choices that I make, being more
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intentional with it because there are a
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lot of things that I don't want to pass
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down to my children. While it is truly
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freeing to have a decluttered home,
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minimal things to manage in my current
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season because I have little kids, I
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don't have a ton of time to be cleaning
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up all day. And it's so easy to get your
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home filled up with a ton of toys where
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it can really be overstimulating the
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environment for your children, but also
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for us as moms and homemakers. We
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already have, you know, things that we
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need to manage in that day, people that
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we need to manage and feed and things
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like that. And just having a bunch of
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stuff to manage as well, that can really
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be difficult. That reason alone was why
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I began pursuing minimalism, slow
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living, and things like that. And even
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though I encourage it a lot here on this
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channel, that's not the one and only way
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to go about living life. Therefore, if
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it's not for you, then don't do it. And
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that's my advice for pretty much
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anything in life. Make sure that we are
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just being careful. Long as what you're
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doing is pleasing to the Lord,
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everything else will fall in place. And
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I truly truly believe that. And so this
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is something that I myself have been
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getting caught up in, especially in
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terms of being a business owner, a
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content creator, a mother. I'm always
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worried about how others will perceive
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me. And as much as I try and tell myself
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like I don't care, the truth is that
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deep down I do. And I'm just really
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trying to ask the Lord to work through
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me in this and really help me to, you
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know, break free of this and inspire you
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all to as well. I'm often wondering like
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how can I put this business product out
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there and market it in a way that is
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appealing to others and creating content
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for the algorithm. Back when I used to
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like do hair in a salon, I felt like I
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was actually the brand, right? So when I
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would go out, I felt like my hair needed
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to be perfect. My nails needed to be
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perfect. Someone sees you and you're
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looking a little bit crazy, maybe
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they're probably not going to want to
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come sit in your chair. So for a long
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time, I've been just worried about how
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others perceive me in work. But also, as
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a mom, recently I took my kids to the
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pool and I almost didn't go. Both of my
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children, they're water babies. They
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love being in the pool, in the water,
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and things like that. But on a specific
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day, we couldn't get into the water.
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They were treating it. There were like
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ducks swimming inside of the pool, so
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they just wanted to make sure that it
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was clean and everything. So, we could
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go around the pool, but we couldn't get
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in it. Basically, almost didn't go
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because they didn't want to have my
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children frustrated with not being able
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to get in the water because my daughter
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very difficult to tell her why we can't
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get in the water. There's no like fence
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for rolling and stopping her from
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walking into the water. Just me and I
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just didn't want to chase her around the
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pool area. Instead, I just wanted us to
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be able to relax poolside. So, I was
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asking myself like, what can I do in
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order to keep the kids busy? And for my
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2-year-old right now, sometimes the
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tablet just works. She likes to watch
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Moana singalongs and Frozen sing alongs.
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It kind of just works sometimes.
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Sometimes I will just bring popsicles
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and allow them to eat some popsicles.
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That'll keep them busy for a while at
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the pool before they have something to
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color with. It takes a lot of practice.
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But on this specific day, I decided to
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go with the tablets because it was
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quick. It was easy. We had been
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homeschooling all day. And we were just,
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I don't know, 30 minutes away from nap
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time. So, I knew her temperament was
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going to be not the best. You know, we
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know these things. And I almost didn't
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go to the pool because I didn't want
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anyone from way across the pool looking
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at me saying like, "Oh, she's a tablet
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mom." Like, she gave her 2-year-old a
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tablet instead of them just sitting and
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enjoying this beautiful weather. And
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while I would rather
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my 2-year-old be able to just sit
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poolside and not get distracted by the
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pool itself and wanting to go and run
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around and play because obviously that's
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what she's going to want to do. That's
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that's what it's there for. While I
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would have rather that she would be able
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to just kind of just sit there and calm,
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she's two 2-year-olds, that's not their
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temperament all the time. Sure, there
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are some times where she might escal,
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but you guys, it's rare. My 2-year-old,
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she wants to do things, okay? She is at
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that age. She's curious and she's busy.
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I realize like I'm really in my own
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head. Nobody cares. Nobody cares about
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you. They're probably not paying you no
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attention, but here you are trying to
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cancel out going to the pool with your
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children and enjoying the beautiful
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weather because you're so worried that
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someone is going to judge you for
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pulling out a tablet. And that is just
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one example. Sometimes we can really get
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in our own heads. I know I'm not the
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only one, you know, feeling this way. I
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know, you know, especially if you're a
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mom, maybe you can relate to that story.
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And so I have given a handful of
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examples of how I myself have fallen
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into this trap of trying to please other
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people and forgetting that the Bible
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literally tells us and instructs us to
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live not for men but for God. And so I
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just wanted to share that with you all
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today just in case maybe because of
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everything that's going on with the
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world, the world is so loud. Maybe you
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might forget it too sometimes. And here
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on my channel, as much as I encourage
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you and try to just live out whatever my
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current season of life is and share that
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with you guys in case maybe it can be
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helpful and beneficial for you, I think
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it's still also very important that we
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just be very careful not to fall into
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the trap of comparison, the trap of
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people pleasing, and just remember, live
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the life that makes us happy. live in
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the city that you love. Wear the clothes
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that make you feel comfortable, make you
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feel good, even if it's not the most
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trending thing in the store. Pull out
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the tablet if you have to pull out the
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tablet if that is kind of what's going
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to work for you in that moment.
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Obviously, having the kids in front of a
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screen indefinitely and no limits, we
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know it's not good. But listen here,
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you know your lifestyle. how you know
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the season of life that you are in. And
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as long as you are living alive that is
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pleasing to the Lord,
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everything is going to fall in place.
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And if there's anything that you're not
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sure if it's people pleasing or if it's
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not a good choice to make in life, all I
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say is pray about it. If I was so
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worried about that tablet, the best
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thing for me to have done in that
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situation is to ask God to give me more
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ways to be able to keep my children
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occupied and entertained without the
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tablet, without screen times, and trust
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that in time the Lord is going to guide
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my life. Topic of this video is just to
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stop people pleasing and live the life
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that you want to live. So, I hope that
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you guys enjoyed this kind of sit down
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encouragement. If you did, give it a
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thumbs up and I'll see you guys in the
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next video.
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