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hi everyone I'm Kell ooro and this is
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adaptable Behavior explained hi there
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thanks for tuning in to adaptable today
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I love the movie Inside Out I can't say
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enough about it and when they came out
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with inside out too I was like I have to
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do a show talking about the important
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concepts related to the emotions that
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emerge in Inside Out 2 so if you haven't
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seen inside out one definitely watch it
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and then grab inside out to um I also
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have an episode on inside out one and
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the role of the different emotions um
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related to Riley and her journey and her
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move from Minnesota to San Francisco so
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just for those of you who haven't seen
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inside out too hopefully this encourages
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you to see it because it really does
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teach us a lot about the role of
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emotions and mental health and just how
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we navigate those emotional experiences
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and so inside out to um follows Riley
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who's the main character uh and she's
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teenager it should be nothing but smooth
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sailing from hello I'm anxiety where can
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I put my stuff a new emotion oh I'm
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sorry we wanted to make such a good
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first impression what do you mean we as
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she navigates new emotions like anxiety
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embarrassment Envy alongside with the
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familiar emotions from episode one which
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are Joy sadness anger fear and disgust
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and one of my favorite parts of the
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movie is when you see the control panel
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change and you see the puberty light go
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apocy what are you doing and I just
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laughed so hard I I watched it again
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last night to kind of prepare a a little
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bit more for for showing or for filming
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today and um I just remember thinking
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and and whether it's clients and their
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children or friends or even when my own
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kids were during puberty it's just such
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a roller coaster and they do just a
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brilliant job just depicting this change
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you know hormonally that that Riley goes
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through and so what we see in inside out
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too is the um is her transition into
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puberty and she starts to learn uh to
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become more autonomous family becomes
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less important which is developmentally
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appropriate she starts leaning more on
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friends and social Outlets as part of
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her normal developmental process and
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connection and so it just really does a
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beautiful job to depict her experience
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and her family's experience of her uh
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through this um developmental milestone
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of puberty and today I'm going to
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discuss the emotions that show up during
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Inside Out 2 in Riley's character and of
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course our president alliva
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uh as we get more comple complex and the
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more life that we experience and I'm
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going to use uh research from yak pinp
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and from bernee Brown they are my two
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favorite emotion researchers and the the
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people that I glean the most from when
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it comes to the purpose and function of
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of emotion and so what we see come into
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the movie um are are several new
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emotions and first we have anxiety
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orange who made the console orange do I
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look orange I didn't touch it orange is
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not my color not me hello
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everybody oh my gosh I am just such a
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huge fan of yours and now here I am
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meeting you face to face okay how can I
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help uh I can take notes get coffee
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manage your calendar walk your dog carry
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your things watch you sleep anxiety is
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part of the fear system it's crucial for
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anticipating and avoiding potential
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threats and so we want to have some
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anxiety it I've never met anybody who
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has um who has a master's degree or
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higher or or who is successful in their
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careers that doesn't have probably meet
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criteria for generalized anxiety
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disorder quite frankly because anxiety
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is a great motivator to avoid failure
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and to to do well it um often stems from
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uncertainty and vulnerability so anytime
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we're risking something new we're going
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to feel some anxiety and vulnerability
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is like the risk of emotional exposure
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without any guarantee and so these
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emotions go hand in hand and so
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recognizing and addressing anxiety can
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lead to Greater resilience and courage
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and again just like all the other
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emotions that we talked about we don't
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want to shove things away we want to
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lean into the emotional experience and
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we want to understand what is it trying
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to help us help us with how is it trying
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to protect us what is it trying to teach
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us and so in the movie we see anxiety
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take over when Riley learns that her
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friends are going to attend a different
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high school and it leads her to try and
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reinvent herself and so she first
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obviously feels sadness in that she
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tries to shove it away and then she's
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she's anxious because she's going to
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this new school and she's like what am I
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going to do if I'm alone we all have a
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job to do you make Riley happy sadness
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makes her sad fear protects her from the
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scary stuff she can see and my job is to
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protect her from the scary stuff she
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can't see I plan for the future and so
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anxiety shows up trying to fortify her
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to make sure she's likable and that she
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can find belonging with a new friend
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group because she's losing her friends
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because they're going to go to another
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school seriously and we Goof Off with
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Bri and Grace Riley looks really uncool
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in front of Val she fails to impress the
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coach does not become a fireh hawk and
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finally arrives at high school she has
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no one she eats alone and only the
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teachers know her name and so when you
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think about the purpose of anxiety it's
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it's um it's not a bad thing it's just
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bad when it takes over too much and
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we'll see in the movie as well where
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anxiety really spins out of control and
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creates a lot of damage and so uh to to
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RI 's detriment although trying to
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protect her it it's a bit of a
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sabotaging experience come on Riley get
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it together I'm not good enough you have
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to score r or this will all have been
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for nothing anxiety you're putting too
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and so for those of you who struggle
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with anxiety you might find that to be
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true where you worry so much about
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something that it ends up being
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counterintuitive to the outcome you're
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hoping to gain um next we're going to
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embarrassment okay who's this guy what's
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your name big fella that's embarrassment
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he's not really big on eye contact or uh
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like talking but he's a really sweet guy
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well welcome to headquarters
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embarrassments oh we're doing a fit no
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oh NOP going high oh you got a real
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sweaty Palm there buddy Yak pep talks
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about embarrassment uh in that it helps
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maintain our social norms avoid actions
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that could lead to social rejection
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because we all really do better in a
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group uh an embarrassment it's a natural
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response to social mistakes uh and if we
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embrace it it can foster authenticity
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and connection so if you think about if
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you walked out of a bathroom and you had
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a piece of toilet paper on your foot
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embarrassment is a emotion that will
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show up that other people could relate
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to you know we all have had something
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silly like a to piece of toilet paper on
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our foot when you walk out of the
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bathroom and so we can kind of laugh
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about it we can lean into it we can tell
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the stranger that we see hey let me let
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me let you know you've got this thing on
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your foot and it creates connection but
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I love in the movie that he appears
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because especially in our teen years
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embarrassment really runs rampant I mean
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we are so concerned with our uh peers
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and their our social experience and our
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social uh influence and so uh we see it
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during Riley's awkward moments at school
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um and it highlights the importance of
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that social acceptance and so you see
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her face flush you see the character of
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of um embarrassment show up and they did
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a great job you know putting him in this
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hoodie and then he can just bury himself
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so that basically only his nose is
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showing it's like I want to get small
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when I feel embarrassed I just want to
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hide and not be seen and so it's just a
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really important emotion to have more
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understanding about and embarrassment is
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different than humiliation it's
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different than guilt um and it's
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different than shame and so it's
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important to recognize that all of those
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other emotions also exist and they are
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separate from embarrassment next we have
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Envy I wish I was as talls you I'm Envy
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every emotion is good for Riley an
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going we need hair like that what are
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you doing so I love how they depict Envy
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because she's small she um she's excited
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but she kind of Works hand inand with
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anxiety because Envy can motivate people
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to improve themselves but can also lead
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to negative feelings if not managed
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properly so if I have so much Envy um
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when I compare myself to other people
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then I can always feel like I'm falling
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short um you know I once had a client
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who really beat himself up because you
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know he played uh he played a sport uh
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and there was another fellow on his team
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that was so much better and he just was
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so envious of that um of that kid's
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abilities and because he couldn't
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measure up to this kid and his uh his
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golf abilities he felt a lot of he felt
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bad about himself and so oftentimes Envy
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masks deeper feelings of inadequacy and
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worthlessness and so if we understand
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and address Envy it can lead to personal
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growth and ultimately self-compassion
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you know working with him we had to get
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to a place where I basically said you
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know there always going to be somebody
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better than you at everything you do I
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mean very very few of us are the best at
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something and even that is shortlived
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even down to like Olympians and things
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like that you know they might be the
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best right now but eventually someone
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will beat them and so and it's it's not
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something we want to perseverate on we
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want to recognize it can help motivate
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us to do better and pull uh and work
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harder but it's not necessarily
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something that we want to grab on so
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tightly to in the movie Envy drives
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Riley to compare herself to to others
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which impacts her self-esteem and makes
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her feel less than does anybody know
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what cool people laugh about I don't
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know we were too focused on the arms
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thing just pretend we get the joke man
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they think is cool not what we actually
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like quick recall everything we know
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about music and so we want to make sure
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we keep that in check and recognize that
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too much is too much and it's not going
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to be useful and then of course we have
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joy I talked about joy in our in our
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last episode but joy promotes
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exploration creativity and social
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bonding people want to be around joyful
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people and joy arises from moments of
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authenticity and gratitude which
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enriches our lives and helps our
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relationships improve and so most of us
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really want joy at the steering wheel of
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ourselves we we all want to feel happy
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and joyful and connected but the truth
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of the matter is is all of our emot
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emotions are equally important and in
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the movie you see joy that uh she's
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trying to maintain Riley's happiness at
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all costs by focusing on positive
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and in inside out too you see you know
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her and anxiety go to go head-to-head a
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little bit about you know who needs to
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be sort of in charge I am truly sorry I
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was so looking forward to working with
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you guys what do you think you're doing
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Riley's life is more complex now it
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requires more sophisticated emotions
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than all of you you just aren't what she
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Joy how dare you madam you can't just
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bottle us up oh that's a great idea and
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anxiety is is an emotion that occurs
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during her her experience of Riley's
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experience of puberty because Joy kind
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of just wants to paint a broad brush of
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everything's always great and um and
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anxiety is like we have to be more
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conscientious of our social experiences
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now we we're leaving our family system
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where there's unconditional positive
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regard and they are safe and I'm
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securely attached and now I'm moving
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into this social experience where I
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don't have great predictability about
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how people are going to perceive me and
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I really need to be watching and paying
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attention to you know how people receive
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me and then I start to curtail my
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behavior a little bit and that's just
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part of the developmental process and
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it's normal the next emotion we're going
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to talk about is sadness and uh I
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believe sadness is is the hero in inside
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out one and ultimately in almost all of
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our counseling work sadness is ult is
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the goal we want to get to the grief of
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the things that happened to us that
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shouldn't have happened to us often
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times underneath our anger underneath
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our resentment is feelings of sadness
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for what we don't have and sadness
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signals a need for comfort for support
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it Fosters social bonds it Fosters
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connections sadness allows us to process
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our grief and Find meaning in our
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experiences and ultimately it leads to
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Greater resilience and empathy we can
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only love if we've allowed ourselves to
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feel the sadness and the loss when we've
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lost things uh because we we will
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otherwise armor up our hearts and we
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won't allow space in for for the moments
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that we need to experience sadness for
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and in the movie we see sadness helping
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Riley process her feelings about her
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changing relationships and fortunately
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at this point Joy has a better
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understanding about RI about Riley's
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needs to experience sadness and we see
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that evolution in Joy's character where
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um sadness is is incredibly important um
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for her to understand the feelings of
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loss and the changes that she's going
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through so that she can find more
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resilience and find more um capacity
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through those connections that are
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cultivated through allowing the sadness
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to just be experienced next we are going
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to talk about anger many of my clients
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favorite emotion in the movie um I think
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it's so funny I think anger does such a
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great job especially in the second um in
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in the second movie you see the
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motivation for Action to overcome
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obstacles and assert boundaries um anger
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often masks deeper emotions like fear or
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hurt so understanding and expressing
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anger in a constructive way it can lead
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to healthier relationships and
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ultimately personal growth and allows
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you to get underneath that feeling which
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is often times seen as a secondary
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emotion to the more vulnerable um
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emotions that are fear and hurt and
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sadness and so in the movie we see um
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anger pushing Riley to stand up for
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herself when she feels treated unfairly
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to assert herself in proactive ways and
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I think I think it's really important to
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see that uh and we saw it a little bit
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an inside out one but we saw the mom and
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dad uh take that anger in kind of a
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shocking way whereas I thought it was
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pretty appropriate that she was anger
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angry in inside out one and in inside
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out two we see moments where um she's
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trying to navigate this the the slurry
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of emotions all at the same time and um
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and I love that with this movie we can
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see how many emotions can be present at
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the very same time time and it allows us
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to realize we don't necessarily have to
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be able to name and label uh one only
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but but that we can be complex and
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multifaceted when it comes to the way
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our emotions are showing up and so next
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we're going to talk about fear and fear
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triggers the fight ORF flight response
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um It prepares our body to respond for
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danger uh and and like I said in episode
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uh the last episode it can be paralyzing
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but it's also powerful and it's a
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powerful motivator um and so if we
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manage our fear it leads us to to
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courage um vulnerability ultimately
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greater connections because we can
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express our our our experiences and be
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in connection with others we see in the
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movie that fear helps Riley prepare for
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potential dangers in a new situation and
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my favorite scene of fear in Inside Out
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2 was when um they were all on the
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balloon flying away and uh the balloon
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ends up popping and they have no option
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and fears like thought ahead for the
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potential danger and fears like grab on
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no help me seriously help
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me Fe you have a parachute uh yes the
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real question is why don't any of
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you we did it we made it come on to the
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back of the mine you think about and his
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ability to just foresee potential danger
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and be prepared and um I think that
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being prepared is part of what fear does
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for us um in conjunction with anxiety so
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long as it's not in in great uh out of
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balance in great proportion and so we
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then see disgust who is one of my
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favorite uh characters of all time no
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that's that folks is the infamous
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disgust let the professional handle
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this who are you I don't like this what
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you're paranoid I never miss a
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look there hiding something but what uh
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disgust helps avoid harmful substances
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um keeps us away from things that are
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dangerous spoiled sour uh helps us to
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maintain social norms and it can also
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help us to see uh moral and ethical
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boundaries you know most of us feel the
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same way about certain behaviors um you
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know for example sexual abuse to
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Children most of of us find repulsive
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and disgusting and it and this is a
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moral and ethical boundary that that in
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a social Norm we can all really agree
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upon and so navigating social
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interactions uh in order to maintain
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personal Integrity is really part of
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keeping us in group or in tribe you know
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if we do things that are perceived as
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disgusting by social normative uh
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standards then we end up on the outside
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of a group and we're considered more of
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an outlier so this emotion helps us to
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kind of determine what is what is
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healthy safe or good or not good and so
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in the movie discussed does many
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wonderful things but uh in inside out
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too ensures that Riley behaves
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appropriately in these social settings
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because ultimately her goal is to make
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new friends and have connection in her
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new experience and discust serves as a
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really important role to keep her in
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line um and then ultimately the control
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center uh for headquarters is is really
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the brain and how the brain controls all
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of our life functioning and so we have
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the sub the cerebrum that handles
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thinking movement feeling we've got the
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hypothalamus that keeps our body in
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balance by controlling hunger thirst
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temperature and those physical
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attributes of safety the brain stem uh
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controls our autonomic functions like
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breathing and heart rate blinking and
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our lyic system is where the movie
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really hones in which is the emotional
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Center and ultimately our threat
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Response Center or our alarm alarm
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center for the body which is the amydala
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and the uh hippocampus which is
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responsible for memory and where memory
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lives and so as you know the the movie
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is fraught with all of the memory
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experiences and what I really love about
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this movie is it Dives deeper into how
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memories help to create core beliefs
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about self and so you hear her talking
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about you know I'm good enough or I'm
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not good enough and these memories
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ultimately help to fortify those beliefs
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enough I'm a good person I need to fit
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in but I want to be myself I'm brave but
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I get scared success is make mistakes
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I'm nice I'm mean I'm a good friend I'm
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a terrible I'm strong I need help
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sometime and that's the way it really
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works and so when you think about your
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overarching thought system or beliefs
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about yourself they are informed by
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memories that you've had and so when you
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think about what we can do to deal with
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memory there's a lot we can do um uh to
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help heal from memory that was encoded
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maladaptively and ultimately not serving
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Us in the way that we have uh beliefs
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about ourselves that may be problematic
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like the not good enough noise or the if
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we're no longer in danger we've had too
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many memories of danger and so the noise
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of I'm not safe I'm not safe I'm not
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safe those core memories really do play
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an important role in how we believe
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about ourselves and I think the movie
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does such a beautiful job talking about
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memories and how they shape um Riley's
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personality and and emotions and
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ultimately you know beliefs about
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herself and then you see that the the
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core memories create these islands of
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Personality like her family Island
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hockey Island friendship Island anyway
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these are Riley's memories and they're
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mostly happy you'll notice not to
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brag but the really important ones are
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over here I don't want to get too
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technical but these are called core
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memories each one came from a super
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important time in Riley's life and each
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core memory Powers a different aspect of
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Riley's personality like hockey Island
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goofball island is my personal favorite
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and these represent key parts of her
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identity and who she is as a person and
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as she matures in Inside Out 2 you see
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her go from family Island being so big
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in in inside out one and then as social
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importance becomes more relevant to her
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in her developmental time of puberty you
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see family Island shrinking and and and
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it's just the detail is is second to
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none when it comes to how they
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illustrate this this span of her life
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and so we we love to see how in this
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movie memories influence how Riley
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reacts to new situations and then how
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anxiety tries to go change her beliefs
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and bring down all of these anxious
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and see as long as we like what they
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like we have all the friends we
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need control her potential Thoughts with
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the um with the screen of um all the
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potential slides of what could go wrong
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and ultimately it starts to create so
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much anxiety that she's not sleeping and
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she's does she doesn't have any
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confidence in herself and you see it go
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way out of balance which I think is the
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point of the movie and seeing any
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emotion when way out of balance we're
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we're not going to be um our best selves
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and so when we think about practical
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tips from managing emotions we want to
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acknowledge all of the emotions and this
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movie really I think the the main point
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is to recognize that every emotion has a
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purpose it has a job for the mammal
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species that we are we really want to
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lean in and acknowledge those feelings
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we want to recognize that we have them
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the species that we are we're hardwired
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for those affective circuits and we want
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to talk about our emotions with someone
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that we've trust when you're going
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through a hard time again you don't want
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to shut down or isolate this is when you
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want to reach out to people and not be
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alone um when you think about the the
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span of your life if you have positive
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memories and things that were good
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sometimes recalling those happy memories
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helps boost your mood we want to
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recognize that the only thing that's
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certain in life is change and
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understanding that while we go through
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change especially if they're hard
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feeling a mixture of emotions is okay
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and it's normal and judging yourself if
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you're feeling a lot of emotions is not
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um not helpful because when shame
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overrides then we don't heal and we
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don't get through them and so the best
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way to move through painful times is to
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allow the experience of the emotional
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experience to unfold as it needs too and
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um ultimately that helps us to maintain
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more balance and to get through rough
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times uh more expeditiously and so some
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things you can do to maintain emotional
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balance are practicing mindfulness
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meditation uh staying active with
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exercise maintaining social connections
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um trying to find times to be creative
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and ultimately exercising those parts of
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your life that um often times are
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underutilized when it comes to uh the
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more creative side of things and play
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and being silly and laughter and being
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free from constraints that are not about
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being spontaneous we need to cultivate
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opportunities for all of those things we
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need to make sure we set boundaries we
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say no when we mean no and yes when we
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mean yes prioritize our self-care our
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sleep our diets uh all those kinds of
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things and and and downtime to just rest
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are really important and then like I
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said we we really need to allow for a
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balance of all of these things to be our
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best self and to have a foundation of
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emotional resilience and stability uh
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when we're going to be dealing with hard
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things which quite frankly that's pretty
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much inevitable life is sure to meet us
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with difficult challenging experiences
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and so I hope that you're able to
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reflect on your own emotions and your
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own mental health and that if you want
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some encouragement really do watch the
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the movie Inside inside out two if you
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especially if you saw inside out one
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prioritize seeing Inside Out 2 maybe
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even watch inside out one again so that
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you can remember all the the great
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details from it and then um and then
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watch inside out too there's so many
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beautiful lessons about the human
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condition and our emotional experience
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and ultimately how to have more balanced
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mental health so thank you so much for
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tuning in I hope that you love the
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movies as much as I do and um make sure
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that until we meet again you lead with
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love because it'll never steer you