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it sounds so wonderful now at this point
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but what for you was some of the hardest
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parts or what came up for you during the
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beginning of your therapy process
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because uh EMDR therapy is much
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different than talk therapy and maybe
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you can share a little bit about what
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that was like for you starting in that
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process For me and thanks to you I felt
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really really comfortable I came in and
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our initial intake it felt very
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comfortable on top of the fact that I
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was just so ready to be so much
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different I was afraid because I was
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like this is going to open a lot of old
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wounds that I push down for such a long
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time but if I don't move forward I'm not
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going to get any better So it was very
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very scary for me at the time I would
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say in the beginning the hardest thing
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for me was of the relationship I was in
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the marriage I was in We were both doing
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therapy but we weren't able to meet each
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other where we were at And so we were
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still bumping heads So I felt like I
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could never use the tools I was learning
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Even though I tried it kept still
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feeling like a failure Sure Um and that
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happened for a lot of years until I was
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able to get out of that marriage Not
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blaming one that it takes two right but
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as you know I you have always said to me
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uh you attract familiar And that's
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really really stuck with me I actually
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talk to a lot of people about that
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because for people with a story like
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mine you always wonder what am I doing
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wrong why do I keep picking these people
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right And and for for what that just to
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describe that a little bit better we
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call that concept reenactment We reenact
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something that was familiar and
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unresolved from our childhood whether it
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be a lacking and nurturing parent or not
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having the kind of attention that we
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needed someone who's emotionally
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available or not in our partner because
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we're attempting to try to fix it And
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you know maybe if I work harder now I'll
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get the love that I needed so badly So
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if you feel comfortable would you share
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a little bit about your story i mean you
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have a beautifully complex story and
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you're incredibly adaptive You're you're
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quite a warrior but that's not my story
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to tell Do you mind sharing a little bit
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about what it you know how you grew up
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and and what made it so complicated for
