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type one is known as the perfectionist
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or the reformer uh this person is
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characterized by principled Nature a
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responsibility and kind of a Pursuit for
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Perfection now I want to make sure that
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all of you understand that one there is
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no such thing as Perfection and when
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Perfection is is driving it's actually a
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bit of a shame shield and so we want to
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make sure we understand that the
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reformer might be a better way to call
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this type so healthy aspect of a typee
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one or a reformer uh include Integrity
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they possess a strong sense of Integrity
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moral values they adhere to principles
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and honesty fairness and Justice in
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their actions and in their decisions it
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guides them in making ethical choices
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and helps them to uphold their beliefs
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so some traits that are common for
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someone with a one or a reformer is
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their commitment to Excellence they
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demonstrate a commitment to Excellence
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in all areas of their life they strive
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to achieve high standards of per
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performance and and quality in their
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work and in their relationships as well
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as in their personal Endeavors this can
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be reflected in their dedication to
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self-improvement and growth they have
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desire for positive change they
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genuinely want to make positive
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contributions to society and affect
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meaningful change in the world they're
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they're driven by a sense of Duty and
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responsibility towards others and they
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have a vision of creating a better
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future for themselves and for future
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Generations so someone who's a reformer
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when they're operating from an unhealthy
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mindset they might experience some
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rigidity they might be overly rigid for
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kind of dogmatic beliefs and behaviors
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and they're they perhaps can be really
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strict with their own standards or
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expectations and impose them on others
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which can lead to conflict or resistance
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from people who feel constrained or
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judged by their inflexibility uh they
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can be critically uh critical or
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judgmental so they might engage in harsh
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self-criticism and judgment uh
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judgmental attitudes towards both self
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and others they hold themselves to such
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a high um expectation and often
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unrealistic standards of that Perfection
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uh for others and then it leaves them
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feeling disappointed or resentful when
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their expectations aren't met and this
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can erode self-esteem and it can strain
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relationships living like this can
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create a lot of anxiety and stress and
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create undo disturbance in their nervous
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systems because of their own standards
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of excellence and need to fulfill
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obligations and responsibilities it can
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lead to overwhelm and burnout and and
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exhaustion so there's challenges with
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the rigidity um and the critical
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judgment because it can lead to that
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perfectionism which is like I said
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before a shame shield and when we're in
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perfectionism we aren't able to have um
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you know satisfaction or joy in our
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achievements because we're always
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thinking what's next what's next so
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there's a lot of underlying inadequacy
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or failure that can come up with that
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perfectionism someone in unhealthy Minds
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set can have control issues exhibiting
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behaviors of micromanagement or um
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wanting to have order and conformity in
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their environment and they can be
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resistant of change or deviation from
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plans and have some inflexibility this
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can lead to mistrust in collaborative
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experiences with others so um it can
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also create self-doubt uh when they
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grapple with self-doubt and insecurity
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about Worth or capabilities then they
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might be seeking validation or
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reassurance from external sources to
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validate their sense of okayness or wor
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or confidence and this can create a
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cycle of anxiety and and more internal
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self-criticism so in order to to
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cultivate a greater sense of compassion
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for this personality type uh they could
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benefit from self-reflection regular
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introspection examining beliefs and
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values and Discerning whether they're
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serving their well-being or contributing
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to feelings of rigidity or
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self-criticism allowing for more
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flexibility mindfulness practices are
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great for someone who's struggling with
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this because they can learn to have a
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sense of less um internal judgment and
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um letting go of expectations and
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recognizing a sense of inner calm
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healthy boundaries are really important
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to establish to create some balance for
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someone struggling with this because uh
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recognizing your own needs and
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limitations while also respecting
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autonomy and boundaries of others helps
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to improve relationships so some things
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to keep in mind for uh someone who's a
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reformer or perfectionist is have clear
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communication regarding expectations and
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standards to to relate with them a
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supportive environment where they feel
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valued for their efforts and maybe lots
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of words of affirmation to give them the
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feedback that what they're doing is is
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working for you and constructive
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feedback delivered in a respectful
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manner because they value honesty and
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integrity in all of their interactions
