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hi everyone I'm Kell ooro and this is
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adaptable Behavior explained so for
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example you know I'm not going to do
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EMDR and then suddenly not be able to
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slam on the brakes if I see a ball
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crossing the street that's not how it
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works but we can get the maladaptively
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encoded memories that are negatively
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informing behaviors today we can clear
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those up and that's where the freedom is
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and that's what's really exciting so
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this next picture is I I really love to
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help illustrate how the way I see it and
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the way it anecdotally appears to me
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with clients is that when we get
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overwhelmed with stimulus and we've just
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had a buildup a buildup a buildup of
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things that have happened in our lives
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we end up having kind of a capacity
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issue and so trauma's a capacity issue
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we are given these bodies they can hold
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only so much much like the glasses that
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you see in this picture and so
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we really don't start off as a blank
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slate like like I talked about with
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epigenetics we do come into this world
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with some material that's already in our
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body that is that is probably needing to
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be taken care of or reprocessed so when
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you look at that picture on the left of
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that glass you see there's already some
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material in that glass and people who
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have that much taken away from their
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capacity are usually functioning pretty
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well but then as you look to the glass
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on the right more things happen maybe I
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moved maybe I lost my pet maybe um I was
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bullied in school or maybe my parents
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got divorced and as you see things that
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happen in our lives start to take away
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our capacity so like that third glass on
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the left now maybe I was cut from the
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basketball team or maybe I failed a test
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that I studied really hard for or maybe
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my mom screams at me all the time or
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maybe she doesn't ever scream but she
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just criticizes me everything I do I
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can't I can't do anything without some
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kind of criticism I can't do anything
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without her saying oh why did you do it
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that way or you should do it this way or
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why didn't you try it this way or it
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would be better if we do it that way so
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maybe I'm constantly criticized and that
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starts to take away or chew away at my
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capacity or maybe something really big
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that's obvious happens like a bad car
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crash or a physical injury or or my
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parents get divorced or um you know I
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have a family member that struggles with
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mental illness and so the family focuses
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on that person all the time and I'm
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really left behind and that's chronic
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and it's overtime and it just we it
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whittles away at my capacity so often
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times people wait too long to get help
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they come in and their glasses look like
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the glass on the right they're just
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maxed that that's the person that walks
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in and they say I I just don't have any
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left I am out of capacity I'm maxed out
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and they come in to help and what I
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would love and what I hope that people
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gain from learning from from this show
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is that we shouldn't be waiting you know
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you don't go to the dentist once your
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mouth is full of cavities you don't you
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you shouldn't be waiting until your life
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is falling apart before you go get help
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we really need to be getting our checkup
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from the neck up we really need to be
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tuning into our brain that is the
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governor of all behavior and and it
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manages all of our body systems we we
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shouldn't be waiting you can you imagine
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what what the world would look like if
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we waited until our teeth were all
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rotten before we went and had our dental
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cleanings no we we go regularly we go
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every six months to get our teeth
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cleaned so that we avoid you know mouth
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full of Decay and disease and
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unfortunately because of the historical
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stigma with mental health we wait until
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so much is bad before we go get help
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with our life and our emotional needs
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and our life skills and so when you
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think about your capacity you want to
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understand where are you and this is
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just an illustration to help measure
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where are you in your own ability to
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tolerate distress in the world and as we
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talk about that capacity what we realize
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is it takes its toll when our body is
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riddled with stress hormones with the
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adrenal response it's not meant to be
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chronic it's not meant to be all the
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time it's meant to be in burst to give
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us the energy that we need it's meant to
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be uh to help us keep ourselves safe and
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to prevent ourselves from being in harm
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or in danger and then it's meant to come
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down well people who have lived and uh
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and had stories where there's so many
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bad things that have happened they run
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out of capacity or they they operate
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kind of in that middle glass where
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there's not a lot of capacity and then
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what ends up happening is their body
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takes a toll there's a great book by
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Bessel Vander that I highly recommend uh
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it's called the body keeps the score and
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it does a great job of illustrating how
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if we spend our energy avoiding our
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emotional life our body will win it
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always does and so oftentimes people
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will come in because they've seen um
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medical doctors and they have
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gastrointestinal issues or they have
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reproductive issues they have
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performance issues and they don't have
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any physical reasons for having you know
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um performance issues maybe they have
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libido issues so it affects our
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reproductive system maybe they have
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pulmonary issues cardiac issues uh
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gastro issues are really common because
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90% of our neurotransmitters are in our
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gut and so most gastro issues are tied
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to unresolved emotional distress or
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unprocessed emotional experiences where
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people just keep it in keep it in keep
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it in and then we end up with gastro
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issues you know and so I don't want
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people to wait until they have physical
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issues and they no longer can ignore it
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I'd love people to learn that it's okay
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to be more proactive to take the rein on
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their mental health because it it
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affects everything in their bodies
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because our bodies will win our bodies
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will take the brunt of the damage our
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bodies will tell us Uncle you know maybe
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there's chronic pain maybe there's
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migraines maybe there's um back pain
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because you've literally carried the
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world on your shoulders your whole life
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and your brain is firing data that says
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it's too much I can't I can't um hold it
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anymore and our body's acting as if and
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this goes with with traumatic incidents
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that are physical in nature as well so
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people people say you know my doctor I
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had surgery on my back I had an injury
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from a car accident and the doctor says
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everything physically is fine but for
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some reason I'm still suffering with
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pain or I'm still struggling with with u
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physical issues and it feels like it's
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not healed well when you think about uh
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how our brains work we actually are
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firing data that says protect and so if
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I was in a car accident and I don't have
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my my body is not updated with when to
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brace and when to be tight and I'm doing
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it unnecessarily all the time as if I'm
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still trying to protect myself from an
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issue or an incident my back doesn't
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know it's okay it's over it's time to
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settle it down and we learned really
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amazingly about the brain Body
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Connection and how our brain kind of
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needs an update on actually uh veterans
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who had Phantom limb pain basically they
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were saying my hand hurts my hand hurts
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well after the amputation and what they
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learned learned through EMDR therapy is
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if I reprocess the event where I I I had
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my arm uh was injured in an explosion
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and therefore I had to have it amputated
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and I reprocessed the emotional and the
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sensory input that was stored with that
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experience my brain can know it's over I
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don't need to hurt anymore and that pain
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goes away so now that hand doesn't hurt
