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we might need to set a no yelling
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boundary so when someone is yelling or
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they lose their temper it's really hard
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to remain cool it's really hard to be in
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a situation where you can be measured
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and be rational and hear somebody else
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because it creates an automatic
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defensive response and so you might need
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to say during a a conflict like there's
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a no yelling boundary we need to keep
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our voices down or I'm having a hard
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time keeping measured in this
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conversation as you raise your voice and
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and um after the conflict we need to
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revisit it and say remember we have an
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agreement that we're not going to raise
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our voices so that we can get through
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conflict all relationships will have
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some constructive tension when done well
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and and also we grow through the
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discomfort we gain a better
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understanding of one another we tend to
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have U more connection and intimacy when
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we've come through repair and so it's
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important to recognize that boundaries
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are part of any good relationship
