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Are You Compatible With Your Partner?
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Sep 9, 2022
Are you compatible with your partner? Are you worried that you are incompatible with your partner instead? Too many people overlook the signs that are staring them in the face and end up in relationships that aren’t happy and that won’t last. Don’t make the same mistake. Discover the signs of relationship incompatibility and think carefully whether any apply to you and your boyfriend or girlfriend. If they do, think about whether there is any chance of those things changing in the short to medium term. If they aren’t going to change, you have to admit that you are not compatible for one another and that you’d be better off going your separate ways now. True compatibility is what makes a relationship stand the test of time. Without it, you’re walking a long and difficult road that probably won’t ever end up where you want it to go. If you are concerned about how compatible (or NOT) you and your partner are, speak to one of the experts from Relationship Hero now to figure things out and gain clarity on the situation. Click this link to get started: https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/RH-incompatible Website: https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/ Relationship forum: https://forum.aconsciousrethink.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AConsciousRethink Disclosure: This description contains affiliate links to select partners. We receive a commission should you choose to make a purchase after clicking on them. If you liked this video, I would truly appreciate it if you could hit the like button or comment (or both!) - it really helps us to get the word out and help people who need advice on their relationships. Thanks!
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Are you and your partner compatible? You've probably asked yourself this very question
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After it would be easy to just know whether you are right for each other without having to spend time finding out
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But what determines a couple's compatibility or incompatibility? How do you know the difference between healthy issues and unhealthy issues
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Hi, I'm Jessica from a conscious rethink and in this video we'll look at some of the signs that the two of you may be incompatible
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Your future looks different. If your partner wants the white picket fence with kids running around in the backyard, while you want to live in a busy city, there could be an issue
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issue. If you want marriage and your partner want something more casual, your relationship isn't going to
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last. There are certain aspects of your future that the two of you must agree on, marriage
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children, and a home base where you'll be settled, for example. Other things such as vacations
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hobbies and preferred pets can probably be worked out. When you close your eyes and picture what
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your future looks like, does it align with what your partner sees? Sometimes you can find a middle
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ground that you can both be happy with in the long run. Other times you can't. You're both
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Stubborn. Relationships can work if there is one stubborn person. However, when there are two stubborn
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people in a relationship, the outlook isn't great. It's a case of incompatibility relationships
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Stubborn people tend to hold their ground no matter what. They rarely apologise or admit that they are
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wrong. If you and your partner are both stubborn, you'll both hold your ground and may even end
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the relationship just because you each refuse to admit any wrongdoing. Or you'll live with bitterness
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and resentment, which is even worse. You're not even on the same intellectual level
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If you are a Harvard grad with a PhD and your partner is a high school dropout, it might not even work out as you'd hope
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In the beginning, you may be able to overlook the differences and still have fun. However, once the initial honeymoon phase is over, there will probably be some big differences between the two of you
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The way you think is bound to be different based on the amount of education you've each received
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Your professional lives will likely differ sustainly too. There are exceptions to this rule, so don't immediately give up on a healthy relationship just because you are more or less educated than your partner
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As long as you can engage in thoughtful and meaningful conversations and enjoy your doing similar things, you can make it work
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The love just isn't there anymore. Does your heart be a little faster when you see your partner
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It probably used to, but over time it's faded a bit or gone completely
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Some people stay with partners whom they no longer love because it is comfortable. Change is tough so they would rather just stick it around and endure the emotional incompatibility The problem comes years later when the unhappiness is too much to live with Those people end up resentful and miserable If you feel like the spark is gone in your relationship try reconnecting again
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Go on a date, hold hands, pretend that you just met. Do something different to mix it up
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Try to remember the reasons you first fell in love. If it still doesn't work, it might be time to re-evaluate your relationship and move on
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All you do is bicker. Arguing and bickering are things that all couples do
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There's nowhere around it. The two of you are going to disqualify. disagree from time to time and sometimes that is okay. Some amount of arguing is even
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considered healthy but if you find yourself arguing on a regular basis it's
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probably points to some underlining issue of compatibility. After all if you
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were compatible you'd have less to argue about. If the arguing is difficult to stop
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you can always try couples cancelling. It might simply be that your styles of
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conflict clash and that you could find a better way to have disagreements. A
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professional can offer a safe space to have more productive conversations that identify and solve any issues you may be having. You can find a link to our recommended counselling
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service in the description below. You don't share common interests. It's not necessary to have all the
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same interests as your partner. You can have a long happy relationship where you both enjoy different things
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but there should be at least a little bit of common ground where you can go out and spend time together
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doing something you both like. If you can't share quality time together, the bond between you will
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likely be weaker and less resilient to the ups and downs of life. Your shared interest don't need to be anything
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particularly special, enjoying a nice meal at a restaurant or visiting the sites of attractions
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in the nearby city is enough. Just as long you have something you can enjoy doing together
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as a couple. You have different values and beliefs. Having different values in relationship
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pose a variety of problems and whilst it's not impossible to work through these problems
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it points to a lack of compatibility with each other. If some of your values are polar opposites
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it is bound to cause conflict. Different approaches to money and how you spend or save
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can be difficult to get around, especially if you would like to pull resources
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share bank accounts. Different religious beliefs can also be a real challenge to overcome
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Whether you follow two different religions or one of you as a believer and the other is atheists
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these things affect the decisions you might make in life. The same can be said of political views
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or allegiances. When it comes to the way the government acts or what candidate campaigns on
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during election time, you might find the two of you opposed to one another on key issues
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You have different outlooks on life Some people are typically positive about things and others are often quite negative If one of you is an optimistic person and the other is largely pessimistic it can be draining for both parties The optimists will feel like they are being dragged down by the misery of the pessimist
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while the pessimists will see the optimist as living with their head in the clouds
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not facing the grim realities of life. This can impact on the way you conduct your life too
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Primely through the decisions you make and the risks you are willing to take, the result can be disagreements and resentment
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You can't be yourself around each other. When two people are well suited to one another, they will feel able to let their guards down completely and show their true self to their partner
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When this is not the case, however, one of both parties may feel like they have to hide parts of who they are and wear a mask to be the person that the other wants them to be
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You might not be able to voice how you really feel about something because you don't want to cause a scene or have a disagreement
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A sign that this may be the case is when, after spending a lot of time together, you feel exhausted and almost relieved to get away from them
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You want them to change. A loving relationship is a love relationship. one in which one partner seeks to change the other
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If you cannot accept them for who they are, they are not the right person for you. That's not to say you can't support each other's growth
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and become better people together. But if you believe that that relationship can only work
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if they change in a certain way, your love for them is conditional. And whilst love for a partner
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might never be entirely unconditional, it should be as close as possible
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If something about them irritates or accepts you that much, chances are they will never be able to change enough
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for you to not feel those feelings. You have mismatched sex drives
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If one of you has much, higher sex drive than the other, it can lead to frustration on both sides. One partner might feel
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that their needs aren't being met, whilst the other might feel pressured to have sex more than
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they are comfortable with. This tension over the amount of sex you have can spill into other
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areas of the relationship. You never laugh together. Science has had its say on this and the
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conclusion is that couples who laugh together stay together. If the two of you have very different sense
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of humours and never seem to laugh at the same things, you might not be able to reach the same
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levels of fun as more compatible couples. This doesn't just relate to what kind of comedy or jokes
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you find funny. It's about how silly you can be together, doing things that give you both big
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wide-eyed smiles of enjoyment. If one of you is highly strung, whilst the other doesn't take
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anything too seriously, you have to ask whether you are right for each other. You speak different
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love languages. There are five love languages. These relate to how you prefer to express your love
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and have others express their love for you. These love languages are words of affirmation acts of service receiving gifts quality time and physical touch Two people with different love languages might struggle to feel loved by each other because of those opposing languages And whilst you can work to better understanding each other love language and find ways to communicate using them
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couples who share primary love languages will naturally feel more loved and in love
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You have different levels of empathy, compassion and emotional expression. If one of you is unable to see the suffering of others without feeling sad or shedding a tear, whilst the other isn't affected by it
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any way. It can make you question your compatibility. How much we care for others and how we
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express our emotion is a big part of who we are. If you can't understand why your partner does
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or does not feel the way you are feeling about something, it can lead to some awkward exchanges
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between you. Different levels of empathy and emotion can also make it difficult to communicate
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with one other. If you are upset and your partner can't understand why, you will feel unsupported
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or annoyed. On the other hand, if you are the one who can't understand why your partner gets so
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emotional so often you might feel drained by their emotional response to everything
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You have different needs for alone time. Some people need to spend a good amount of time alone in
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order to be able to function properly. These people tend to be introverts by nature. But if one
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partner needs this alone time and the other prefers to spend as much time together as possible
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there will be a clash sooner or later. The one who needs their space will pull away and potentially
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feel guilty about it. The other will feel rejected. It's not a good situation to find yourself in
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though it is possible to work for it enough to understand and compromise. You have different schedules
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If one of you has lots of free time, whilst the other is often very busy with work or studies
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the one with the free time might end up feeling neglected. Or if you work at different times of the day or on different days entirely
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it might mean that the time you can spend together is extremely limited. Whilst this can be overcome by ensuring that you dedicate a good proportion of your overlapping free time doing couples activities
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it will inevitably put some stress and strain on the bond you share. And that's all from me today. I hope you found this video helpful in determining how compatible you and your partner are
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