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I'm Techie. I'm Peter and we've been together for 4 Newsmail
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And 6 months ago we started dating another couple. This is Joel and Dan. The 4 of us are in a relationship together
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We got a lot of comments like This isn't right, relationships should be only between 2 people
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Honestly, it looks disgusting. Unfollow, so gross. They call us greedy people
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I think I understand why Jesus isn't back. Even our close friends, everyone thinks
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Oh, you're just having sex all the time. People thought we were just doing a full contact. It's a fake relationship to get attention
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I did think Peter and Techie might have used it. for social media, opening relationships
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I see it way too often. What are you doing? How did this relationship start
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Joelle and Peter met at a party where all four of us were
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And then Dan and I, we slowly introduced ourselves to each other
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and then we all got along really well. Then we decided to spend another trip together
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for one week and then over that trip, I think I saw how we all took care of each other
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and I think it was really nice. So now it's not only one person taking care of you
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there's like three people taking care of you, which is an upgrade
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And then, yeah, I think we decided to make it official and start dating
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We all were kind of open, but not looking to open up our relationships
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We were open to the idea of doing it. I think for me and Dan, it's about the same
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It's just that whatever comes, we'll take it and then we see how it goes
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So what do you guys want to do today? I think Dan had a TikTok he wanted to film
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When we first started, and we're putting gay couple content out online
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we got a lot of comments like, this isn't right, relationship is between a guy and a girl
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And then now, we put our four-person relationship online, it's just shifted
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No, it's no longer this isn't right, relationship is between a guy and a girl. It's like, this isn't right
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relationship should be only between two people. They call us greedy people
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I think I understand why Jesus isn't back. I think if Jesus hasn been back in the last 2000 years I don think he be back for the next 2000 Oh my god my favorite one is this AI Why the f does everyone want to f everyone they connect to Why is this automatically romantic That disgusting You should all stop glorifying poly affairs
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I used to be a fan, but this video made me unfollow. So gross This must be a hater
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I don't want you there anyway I don't want a fan like that
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I don't want your attitude Fake fans Honestly, it looks disgusting I mean one couple with two people is fine but I'm not into this
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I can't share my partner with anyone. Then don't share. I'm not asking you to share your partner with anyone
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For me the worst reaction was the Facebook group. There were Vietnamese gays saying you guys are ruining gay rights in Vietnam for like the rest of us
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That for me was the worst thing and I just ignored it. What we try to do by putting our content online is to encourage progressiveness
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people are never exposed to something their mind never changes. All the people who hate on it think it's not normal
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because it's not what they're used to. Love is being shown in a way that they haven't experienced before
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Do we have good comments? Yeah. It looks so wholesome. You guys are so brave and I love that you are willing to share
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what your love looks like with the world. Your relationship is very unique, amazing spreading love
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I was thinking of another spreading but yeah. Okay. Amazing spreading love. Okay
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What are the examples of doubts others have raised? It's not gonna last
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I give it three months. Suckers, it's been six months. Oh yeah, that's true
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Everyone, even our close friends, everyone thinks, Oh, you're just having s**t all the time
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Which is completely not true. Or no one initially believes it's real
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Oh yeah, I think people thought we were just doing it for content. Or for content or for fun or it's a fake relationship to get attention
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Peter's coming, right? He's coming soon. So when Peter and I just moved to Vietnam, we hadn't been here for that long, maybe three months
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And then one of our other friends introduced us to Peter. From my memory, I never told him that we started dating another couple
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He found out through watching our social media reels. Then he sends me a message What happening Oh my goodness He agreed to chat with us about what he first thought when I first told him about our two new boyfriends I think it just took me a step back As in how they present themselves so proudly online
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In the beginning, I did think Peter and Tecky might have used it for social media
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This is boyfriend number two, Joelle. Hi, Peter, nice to meet you
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Boyfriend number three, Dan. Dan, Peter, nice to meet you. Hi. How did you first find out about a relationship
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So, after a long day of work, you know you go home and then you just scroll through
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Social media? Yes Which platform? X And then As gays do before bed And
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And then I was scrolling, I come across a post And then when I saw both of your faces, I'm like, I stopped, I pressed on it
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And I was like, what is going on when I click it? onto it and I was like, huh? Since when is day 4
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I was so confused and I, the first thing that I did, I really screamed at you in text and I was like
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what are you doing? How do I not know about this? What was going to your head
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I would say I kind of expected it, but not publicly shown
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Open relationship and like many people, it's quite common now. I see it way too often. But then people do not proudly post about it. So for me, I was like, wow, you're very out there
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I just thought like it's a collab between because both of you are a couple and both of you are a couple
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I never expected to be a four person thing. Where do you see you guys in the future
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As a four, the objective is more trying to spend more time with each other rather than planning like a
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elaborate master plan for our future together. People have like all sorts of comments out there. Yeah
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So, regarding all of your posts and whatnot, have you received any crazy nasty stuff
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Crazy nasty comments, but because we been posting on social media so long especially Peter and I we become more and more desensitized to it For me when I saw you guys today I do generally see something that a
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connection. So I trust you and your instinct. I know that you know what you're doing
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How we came together was really unexpected so it's very hard for us to be like we're not looking for
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more but you never know what will happen along the way. We're not looking but we wouldn't say no
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If it comes. The energy needs to be right. The benefits of being in a quad
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Lots of s**t. Sure. No, that's a joke. The benefits is really..
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Especially in relationship conflicts, there's two other perspectives to come and talk
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You just help each other, support each other's relationship. Being in this quad, I have a wider perspective on life now
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When you stop having new experiences, your life isn't fulfilling anymore. So, adding you two is definitely a new experience
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What do you want to say to people who judge our relationship? Can we say the F word
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They can judge all they want, but I do hope that they keep an open mind because they never
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know when it happened to them. Three months down the road, they could be in a six-person relationship
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Yeah, you never know. Or maybe they can be the fifth and sixth of ours in a relationship
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For me, it's just we're all just doing things in life that make us happy and as long as
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it doesn't negatively hurt or impact anyone else, what is it on you to judge
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I hope our stories will continue inspiring more people to live their best life
