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GERALD and Arizona met six years ago on a dating app. Gerald had just come out of a 10-year relationship and was looking for someone to hook up with. After receiving a like from Arizona, he decided to check out her profile. Her profile stated that she was married and looking for a boyfriend, for her and her husband. Gerald was not openly bi sexual at this point, but he had always been attracted to men as well as women. When he joined Arizona’s marriage, things started off great, but then began to get rocky. Gerald decided to excuse himself from their situation so that they could work things out. Not long after his exit, Arizona reached back out to Gerald to let him know she has left her marriage and would love to pursue an open relationship with him. During this time Arizona was making spicy content, but only on a small scale. Gerald suggested that Arizona should put her all into spicy content and he will do all the admin side of things, he would even sometimes speak to the men on her behalf. After some deliberation he decided to make an OF page. They don’t have many rules when it comes to their relationship, but due to Arizona’s past relationship with her ex, she doesn’t really like Gerald seeing other women unless she is involved... But she is working on being more secure when it comes to Gerald dating other women - adding that she is fine for him to date other men.
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I fell in love with my husband's boyfriend
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We are in an ethically non-monogamous relationship. People don't take me seriously as a bisexual man
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How do you guys feel about the ethical non-monogamy kind of side of our relationship
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It's wild. My name's Gerald. I make spicy content for a living
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And I am Arizona. I also make spicy content for a living
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We are in an ethically non-monogamous relationship. My partner is also into men
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So I was leaving a 10-year marriage and was ready to get out on the dating scene
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I had one match, and it was from Arizona. She was married at the time, and she was looking for a bisexual boyfriend to date on her own
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and occasionally share with her husband. I was married to my high school sweetheart
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I had been with that guy. At that time, it was like nine years
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I was hot wifing around. I want something more regular, maybe a little bit more emotionally connected
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You were the first person that I intentionally dated. It was definitely a surreal moment when I first laid eyes on her
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She got out of her car in her sundress and was standing in the parking lot waiting for me
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And I knew right then and there, I was like, I'm in trouble. And you showed up with a book and a rose
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And it was a book that you had been reading that I was interested in
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You wanted to share that with me. Yeah. We were living as a thruple. It started to become more and more obvious to me how poorly I had been treated when I
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now had somebody that was treating me so incredibly. We had kind of a bad trip altogether
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I moved out like two days later. He moved out. A few months go by
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I'm simultaneously getting messages from him being like, hey, I really hate to break this
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to you, but I found your man online again. Cheating on you at that point
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It was like it. That was it for me. We never lost contact with each other. We were still very much best friends in a lot of ways
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As soon as that relationship was signed, sealed, and delivered, and done, we just embraced being together
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Okay, I got a handful of things for today. We are going to shoot some funny promo content for social media
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Just kind of seeing what works for us today. If any of these are..
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Too many straps for me. too many straps. I don have capacity for all those straps Something stroppy something lacy something you know more harnessy harnessy cosplayy I started shooting spicy content like as soon as I turned 18
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but I didn't take it seriously and have like all of my dedicated pages until 2022
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I volunteered to get the pages started and get everything off the ground and be sort of that
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administrative assistant. And then by April of 2023, she had enough requests in her inbox
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for the tattooed gentleman that appears. Yeah, but your husband, what about him
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He had his own page and is he making his own spicy content? The day I started my account
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I was doxed and fired from my career of 15 years. Yeah, so we've been doing it full-time for over
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two years now. I think the harness could be nice. Harnesses are usually a good choice, yeah. I encourage independence so I refuse to dress him
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I want to see what his own ideas are. But I definitely love to help him get dressed
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We bounce ideas off of each other. I think I've got the perfect thing
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They're matching. We've got some good ideas for content to do with these
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Of course. I love hot dads. I have not always been openly bisexual
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My entire life I was closeted until we started making spicy content two years ago
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And that's when I fully came out of the closet and kind of owned who I am and what I believe in
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I was married for 10 years before I met Arizona. And it was a very closeted marriage
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It was very sexually frustrating and vanilla, as it's called, definitely wasn't not what I believed in at all to who I am
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Some of the judgment that I have received from being a bisexual man
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It's been a lot I get told often that from straight people and from gay people that I'm not one or the other that I'm not
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Actually into men or that I'm not actually into women or that my wife is just my beard. I'm gonna cover up
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I'm just actually gay and that's why I allow her to date outside It's almost like I'm lesser of a man because I'm into
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both genders. Or like you're not considered gay enough because you're married to a woman. Yes. I'll have
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gay people subscribe to my page and be like I love your gay content but I can't see you
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with a woman that's absolutely disgusting and like I have to go. Like my page literally says
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pansexual dilf living in the desert. You get all of the things. Happy Father Day I guess You have to change Absolutely not It looks better on me Can we bring them home together
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Yeah. Let's do it. I love hot dads. You get really questioned
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Your character and your being and your like... My existence in general
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Existence in life. How can I let my wife be active with other people
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I heard oversharing but this is ridiculous. These people are real, this is sad as
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You've lost your man card. They're just being mean to be mean, for what? I like to poke a little bit at comments
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Yeah, we poke a little. And I like to try to make them feel dumb
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for the things that they're saying. So why? Really, think about it. But why
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Today we're gonna go see your parents and find out what they really think about me
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They're gonna have some strong opinions, especially about first meeting you. When Arizona first told me about Gerald, I was worried
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I was a little concerned about the dynamic of the situation. It was a different way to meet, you know, a boyfriend or something like that
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We kind of don't really want to meet him. I asked a lot of questions. What if you catch feelings one for the other
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What if it gets confusing? What did you guys think whenever I first told you that me and my now ex-husband had a boyfriend
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I thought y'all were crazy. I was worried. I couldn't see a world where somebody wasn't going to get hurt
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I thought it would be you. For me it was, you know, I had questions because that's a little unconventional
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We talked about it and we looked at, not looked at, you've got to be careful what you search up
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And I appreciated that you handled it with such grace. You could tell that there was more thought going into like, how do I want to handle it
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You didn't walk away grounded. That's what I'm saying. And like, you know, it was obviously a different position to be in being like, yeah, ground me
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I dare you. I live on my own. Like, you know, like, what are you going to do? Be mad
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Yeah. But like also like I don't want you to be mad at me. I think that you talking to me about it and the way that you did and being so upfront and honest and saying I know you're not gonna get this. Yeah
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But here's what's going on. I took away that like, babe, this is our responsibility to get right with this
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Right. Yeah. You know, this is what's making you happy and whatever
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And this is like our responsibility type thing. Yeah. We're like, do we understand it
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Yeah, because what else are you going to do? You know, you find yourself wanting to go, why? And you want a definitive explanation
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of why you're choosing to do this. But again, we never ask the why
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because I don believe it something for us to understand Yeah you don need to understand It doesn require a you know a why or yes or no we kept saying you know what why what are we afraid of and and it was like your happiness
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and your well be like your emotional happiness your emotional mental happiness and healthiness
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and all of that too how do you guys feel like about the the ethical non-monogamy kind of side
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of our relationship and that like dynamic it's wild because it's kind of the same it's something
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that I don't understand could I go do it no like yeah you know it's not something that I can picture
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in my life where it would just be okay or there's I have a lot of questions but you guys are you're
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you're doing your thing yeah I think that your heart's taken care of and I think that you're in
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a pretty good place for me personally it's it's an avenue I wouldn't take but again you're trying
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to picture yourself in those shoes yeah I think that's the natural way I do that would I do that
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in what scenario would I do it yeah like when you go through those wiring that we all have
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just inherently just through social. He's always like I can't imagine just you're leaving for the
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weekend you're going to yeah you're going where for who with what? It took some time for me to
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understand the whole dynamic of you know what you guys do. To grasp the concept. But I understand that
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it's more common than we know and it's a way that you guys are making a great living for yourself
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I think the conversation with your parents went really well. Not surprised by some of the things that they said. It was good to be a little bit more candid with them. That was the first time
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that we've ever actually sat down and talked to them about. Yeah, so what was your perception
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Do you like me? The rules for dating outside of our relationship
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it's just more communication. It's talking through needs and wants and expectations
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We do like to know what's going on. Respectful check-ins. Respectful check-ins and stuff
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It's really hard to pick one thing that I like about you. It's literally everything
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I've been obsessed with your whole person since the day I met you. You know, you're just so raw and authentically yourself that it's hard to not fall in love with you and be obsessed with you
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It's really hard to pick one thing that you love most about someone who is like your bestest friend in the whole world
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I think it's the way that you show up for Me and for the people that you love and I love you for showing up for us all the time Always
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Anyone who judges our relationship, haters gonna hate Your hate can't touch me
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