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I didn't realize how exhausted I was
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until I stopped trying to keep up. For a
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long time, I felt like I was constantly
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behind on cleaning, laundry, behind on
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the kind of mom that I thought I should
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be and even more the kind of mom that I
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wanted to be. I would wake up already
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overwhelmed, looking around my home,
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thinking, "How did it get messy again?"
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And the truth is that it wasn't just
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that my home felt chaotic. It was that
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my mind and my rhythm and my
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expectations were overwhelming.
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I thought the answer was to try harder,
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to be more productive, to finally get it
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together. But what I actually needed was
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to slow down. If you have been feeling
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overwhelmed in your home, like no matter
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how much you clean, it's never enough. I
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want to share with you what changed for
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me. Definitely not overnight or
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perfectly. This is like a long call type
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of way that actually brought peace back
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into my home. And I hope that by the end
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of this video, it will help you to feel
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lighter as well. and maybe even be
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helpful for you, too. There was a moment
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that I remember so clearly just standing
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in the middle of my kitchen. There were
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like dishes piling up in the sink. There
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were so many loads of laundry that
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needed to be folded, toys everywhere
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that needed to be decluttered. And I
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just felt so done. Like, not angry, but
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just tired. Not with frustration or
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anything, just tired.
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Trying to keep up with a standard that
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didn't even fit my life is one of the
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things that made me the most tired. And
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I just was tired of feeling like I was
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always failing in my own home with
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expectations that weren't even mine. And
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I had this quiet thought.
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What if I stopped trying to keep up and
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started living differently? Different
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from how the world is expecting me to
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live. Different from every other person
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that I see that is always on the go,
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always on the move, setting these
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unrealistic expectations and struggling
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to keep up. I didn't realize how much I
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was being influenced by what I was
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seeing every single day. Perfect homes,
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perfect routines, perfect systems. And
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even if I wasn't consciously comparing,
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I was still trying to measure up. Even
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in my content creation, sometimes a slow
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day like the one that you guys are
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seeing in this video just didn't feel
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like enough when compared to all of the
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get it done with me videos that I often
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see on YouTube. But I'm realizing that
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even I didn't want to keep up with that
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narrative. So why would I want to
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encourage anyone else or you two?
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Instead, I am wanting to encourage you
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and show you what just real life and
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slowing down looks like and how calming
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and peaceful and healing it can be. Just
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opening up the windows, folding laundry,
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Bible study, these are all normal
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things. You don't have to have a whole
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house clean every single time. You want
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to give your home a refresh. Sometimes
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it looks like just resetting one space
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or resetting your mind and your heart
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instead of trying to keep up.
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So
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instead of comparison now, which made me
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rush everything and feel behind all the
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time and made my home feel like a
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checklist instead of a place to live, I
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learned that a peaceful home just does
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not come from doing more. It comes from
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doing things differently.
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So when I say I started living slower, I
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don't mean I stopped cleaning or taking
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care of my home, I just changed how I
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approached it. I stopped rushing through
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everything and started doing one thing
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at a time. Instead of thinking I have to
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clean the whole entire house, I started
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thinking I'm just going to reset this
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one space. And all of a sudden, my home
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didn't feel like a burden anymore. It
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just started to feel manageable,
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realistic, and actually quite peaceful.
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So, I'm going to share with you guys
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just a few things that has really helped
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me. The first is small resets instead of
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full cleans. I stopped waiting for the
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perfect time to clean everything because
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just that thought alone can be
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overwhelming. Even if you have four
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rooms in your home, thinking of cleaning
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the entire home versus resetting one
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space, like the laundry, can be quite
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overwhelming. So, I wanted to just reset
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what I could when I could, especially as
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a mom of little.
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The second thing that really helped me
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is to declutter. Less stuff is less
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stress. It's less to manage and less
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overwhelm. I talk so much about
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decluttering and how freeing it is, so
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I'll link a playlist down below. The
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third thing that really helped me is
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letting go of unrealistic expectations
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because my home doesn't need to look
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perfect. It just needs to work for my
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family. And as a content creator, that
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one really hit home for me because I'm
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always trying to come up with systems
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that works for not just my family, but
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for other families, too. The ones that I
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am trying to reach out to here on
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YouTube. And in doing so, I realized
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that not only am I forgetting to just
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check in on what is working here in my
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home and right now, which can often
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change. But also,
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I forget to just tell you guys sometimes
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that it's okay to just do what works for
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you. You don't have to do what you see
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me or anybody else doing. I think it's
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time for a change.
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The fourth thing that has helped me is
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to slow down on purpose. I chose slow
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living, something else I talk about on
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this channel. Even if everything isn't
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done, I don't rush through my day
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anymore. And honestly, that changed the
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atmosphere in my home more than
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anything.
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In this video, you may be wondering,
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where are my children? I have two
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littles, a seven-year-old and a
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two-year-old, and I have learned to kind
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of just do things when it's best
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suitable for me. So, I utilize nap time,
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waking up a little bit earlier than my
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kids, setting a quiet time. I've even
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found an evening routine where I just
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like to sip my tea. I listen to podcasts
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and light a candle in the shower.
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There's so many ways that you can pursue
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slow living even if you have children.
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And I know that there isn't a lot going
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on in this video. And you know, that's
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kind of the purpose of slow living.
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Sometimes it's just slow. But you guys,
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I feel like it's also very calming, you
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know, to just hear the sound of the
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things that's going on right outside
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your walls and to just be able to listen
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to the wind blowing through the trees,
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the kids laughter when they get out of
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school, that fresh air coming in. And
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when you're so overwhelmed and your day
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is so chaotic and cool, sometimes we
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just miss the little things like the
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sunset. It's just so many beauties in
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life that we miss out on when we are
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living a fastpaced
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life.
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So for me, it wasn't just about cleaning
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less, but about living different,
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letting go of pressure, letting go of
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comparison, letting go of the constant
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need to keep up, and choosing peace
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instead. Choosing to take care of my
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family, but also take care of me, too.
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and doing that through Bible study,
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fitness, working out, nice long hot
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showers. This is all attainable even if
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you have kids. So, if your home feels
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overwhelming right now, you don't need
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to fix everything today. You don't need
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a perfect routine. You don't need to
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catch up. You can just start small. One
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space, one reset, one slower moment at a
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time. If this video resonated with you,
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I'd love for you to comment. I'm
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choosing slow. And of course, don't
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forget to subscribe if you want more
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slow, simple, and peaceful homemaking
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content just like this. You don't have
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to keep up. You are allowed to live
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differently. Thank you guys for
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watching, and I will see you guys in the
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next one. Happy homemaking.