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If you've ever read Proverbs 31 in the
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Bible and felt discouraged wondering how
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are you supposed to live up to this
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woman, you are not alone because just
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like many other Christian women, moms,
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and homemakers, we often hear about the
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Proverbs 31 woman and picture a woman
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who wakes up before everyone else, has a
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perfectly clean home, makes everything
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from scratch, never gets tired, never
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loses her patience, and still somehow
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has it all together. But, I think that
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we can sometimes miss the big picture. I
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don't think the Proverbs 31 passage or
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chapter was written to make us feel like
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we have to become perfect women, and
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some of us can often leave feeling that
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way. I think instead it gives us a
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picture of
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a woman who fears the Lord and allows
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that to shape the way that she lives.
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And the thing that I love so much about
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that chapter is what she does is
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actually pretty ordinary, and it can be
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seen as mundane. She's caring for her
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household, she's working, planning
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ahead, providing, and being wise with
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what she has. She's speaking with
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kindness, and her life is full of the
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same kinds of things that many of us are
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doing every single day. So, today while
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I clean and take care of my home, I'm
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going to be talking a little bit about
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Proverbs 31 and sharing six habits of a
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Proverbs 31 woman. These are going to be
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habits that I feel can really change the
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way that we approach our homes, our
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families, our responsibilities, and our
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relationships with God. So, if you're
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cleaning today, doing laundry, picking
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up toys, washing dishes, or just trying
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to reset your home after a long day or
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before the school year, let's spend a
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little bit of time together. Let's talk
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about the Proverbs 31 woman in a real
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and practical way.
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Proverbs chapter 31:30
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says, "Charm is deceitful and beauty is
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passing, but a woman who fears the Lord,
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she shall be praised."
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The first habit that I'm talking about
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today
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of a Proverbs 31 woman is that she fears
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the Lord above everything else.
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And this is really the foundation of
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everything. Before the Proverbs 31 woman
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is productive or hard-working,
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organized, or successful, she is a woman
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who fears the Lord. And fearing the Lord
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means honoring him, trusting him, and
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wanting to live in a way that is
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pleasing to him. And I think that
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sometimes we become so focused on trying
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to be a good wife, a good mom, a good
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homemaker, or a good Christian woman
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that we forget where our strength is
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actually supposed to come from, and that
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it is in serving the Lord, honoring him,
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trusting him that actually puts out a
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good and fruitful life for us. We can
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often start trying to perform our way
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into becoming the women that we think
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we're supposed to be, but the Proverbs
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31 woman wasn't valuable because she
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checked every box. Her life actually
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flowed from her relationship with God.
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And that is something that I often have
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to remind myself because I can clean my
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entire house, but that's not the thing
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that gives me peace. You can get
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everything done and still feel anxious.
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And we can make a beautiful meal, keep
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up with laundry, and take care of
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everyone around us, but still somehow
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feel empty if we haven't made room for
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God in our own heart. So, maybe the
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first habit isn't waking up earlier or
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making a better schedule. Maybe it's
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simply starting with God, even if all
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you have is a few minutes. A simple
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prayer while you're washing dishes is
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something that I've done many times when
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I felt like I just couldn't slip away
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for just a moment of just quiet time
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alone.
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Listening to scripture while you're
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folding laundry or asking God to help
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you with your attitude when you're
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feeling overwhelmed. I've had so many
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whispered prayers in the middle of the
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kitchen floor in the middle of the
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living room because I was starting to
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feel a little bit overwhelmed. Just
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inviting him into your ordinary day
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because our goal isn't to have a
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beautiful home, but to become a woman
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whose heart belongs to the Lord. The
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second habit is she is diligent with
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what has been entrusted to her.
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The Proverbs 31 woman is known for being
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hard working. That is something we can
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all for sure agree on. She takes care of
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her household. She works with her hands.
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She prepares for the future. She's
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intentional with what has been placed in
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her care, but I think diligent is
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different from hustle. Diligence doesn't
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mean running yourself into the ground.
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It doesn't mean believing that your
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worth is measured by how exhausted you
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are at the end of the day. It's not
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about getting it all done. It's about
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being faithful
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faithful with the home that you have,
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faithful with the children you have, the
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work that you have, and faithful with
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the season that you are in. Because
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sometimes I think we often look at our
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lives and wish they were different
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before we're willing to take care of
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what we already have, thinking that we
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need something more. We want a bigger
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house, we want a better schedule, we
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want more quiet time,
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an easier season, more help, more money,
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more time. It's just always something
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more. And while it is completely okay to
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want things to improve, I'm one who
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often dreams very, very big. You can ask
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my husband. But I think there is
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something beautiful about learning to be
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faithful right where we are first.
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If your house is small or it's messy
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because there are children living in it,
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or you don't have hours every single day
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to clean,
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even if your routine does not look like
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someone else's perfect routine, that's
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okay. Because diligence doesn't have to
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look impressive. Sometimes, diligence is
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just doing the next thing. Loading the
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dishwasher,
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tidying up the floor, making dinner,
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folding one basket of laundry, starting
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over after a hard morning, and being
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faithful in the small things. That all
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still matters. And honestly,
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that's something that homemaking has
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taught me. That the work is repetitive.
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The dishes are going to come back, the
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laundry is going to come back, the
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floors are going to get dirty again.
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Taking care of our homes isn't
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meaningless just because it has to be
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repeated. There's beauty in faithfully
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caring for what God has given us. The
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third habit of a Proverbs 31 woman is
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that she prepares instead of living in
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constant panic.
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Proverbs 31 describes a woman who thinks
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ahead. She's prepared for her household.
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And I think preparation is one of the
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habits that can bring so much more peace
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into our homes. One thing that I often
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would talk about when I'm doing like my
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home school videos is the crazy hour. We
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joke about it. I tell my husband it's
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crazy hour and my son, we laugh about
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it. Basically, it is the hour of the day
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that's the craziest in our home and it
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happens like clockwork. It's just in our
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schedule. It's when for some reason the
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kids have the most energy, especially my
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2-year-old. And we're in the middle of
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like trying to do home school
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and I'm trying to keep the toddler
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entertained while trying to teach home
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school. My husband is in the middle of
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working so he kind of can't help out so
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much and
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everyone is, you know, just full of
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energy. It's like prime hour and knowing
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this, being prepared for it, helps me to
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go in with a different mindset. It helps
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me to pray before going in it and it
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just makes me feel a little bit more
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calm because I know that soon it will
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pass and I knew that it was coming so I
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was able to prepare for it. The thing is
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that a prepared home doesn't mean
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everything is always going to be perfect
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or spotless. There is going to be crazy
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hour. There's going to be chaos. It
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doesn't mean you never forget anything
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or that every meal is perfectly planned.
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It simply means that you're trying to
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make life a little bit easier for
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yourself before the chaos begin.
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And usually that could be with a prayer
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or it could be resetting the kitchen
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before bed, reading a devotion, laying
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out clothes the night before, keeping
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simple meals on hand or doing a lot of
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laundry before it becomes ten loads,
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keeping your home stocked with the
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things that your family uses regularly,
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creating simple systems instead of
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waiting until everything becomes
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overwhelming and I think that this is
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especially important for those of us who
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feel like we're constantly behind. So,
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No, you don't have to fix your entire
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life today. Just try preparing for one
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thing. What is one problem that keeps
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repeating in your home? Maybe mornings
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feel chaotic. Could you prepare
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something the night before? Maybe dinner
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always feel stressful. You could try to
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create a simple list of meals that your
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family already enjoys without looking up
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a brand new recipe. Maybe the house gets
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overwhelming by the end of the day.
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Maybe spend 10 minutes resetting just
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one room each day because preparation is
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really just an act of wisdom. And wisdom
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is something that we can gain from the
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Lord. Wisdom is saying that I know life
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can get busy. So, I'm going to do what I
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can now to make things easier later. And
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that doesn't have to be complicated.
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Sometimes the simplest system are the
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ones that we actually
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stick to. Habit number four is that she
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is wise with what she has.
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One thing that I really love about the
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Proverbs 31 woman is that she isn't
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described as careless.
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She's thoughtful. She considers things.
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She works and provides and makes wise
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decisions. And I think that wisdom in
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our homes can look very ordinary. It can
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look like using what you already have
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before you buy more. Something that some
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of us call shopping our own home or
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minimalism. It can look like taking care
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of the things that you own, cooking food
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before it goes to waste, being
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intentional about spending your money.
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And not constantly comparing your home
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or lifestyle to someone else's, but
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learning to live within your means and
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being grateful for what God has already
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provided for us.
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I think that social media can make us
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feel like we always need something else,
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like a better organizer, more seasonal
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decor, better appliances or cleaning
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supplies, more trendy clothes, more
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products, even a bigger a bigger house.
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But, I for one have definitely learned
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that peace usually comes when we stop
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adding more
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and taking better care of what we
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already have. In fact, I have found that
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when I add more things to my home, to my
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schedule, that is when I start to lose
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peace and become more overwhelmed.
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By the way, you guys, if you hear a lot
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of things going on in the background,
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little noises, that's just my
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2-year-old. I'm holding her as I edit
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this video, so she's here
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with us, and that's what you guys may be
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hearing in the background. But, what I'm
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trying to say is that I'm learning that
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more isn't always the answer, and
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sometimes what we need is less to
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manage, less clutter, less spending,
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less comparison, and less pressure to
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keep up. A wise woman does not have to
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have everything, it's that she learns
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how to steward
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what she has. And that can be a
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beautiful habit to practice in
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homemaking. Before buying something new,
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ask yourself, do you actually need it?
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And before throwing away, ask, can I use
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this? Before comparing, remind yourself
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that God has been good to us right here,
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right where we are.
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Wisdom can bring so much contentment
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into our homes.
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Habit number five is she speaks with
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kindness. Proverbs chapter 31:26
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says that she opens her mouth
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with wisdom, and on her tongue is the
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law of kindness. And this one can be
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challenging, surprisingly, for a lot of
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us because it's easy to be kind when
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everything is going well. It's easy when
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everyone's listening, when the house is
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clean, the kids are happy, and when
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we're well-rested. But what about when
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we are overstimulated? Or what about
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when we have been asked the same
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question over and over again
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five times, or when we're cleaning up
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another mess, begging our children to
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tidy up behind themselves, or when we've
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just had a hard day. This is when
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kindness can
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feel a little bit more difficult.
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Kindness is something that has to become
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a habit, and not something that we do
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when we just feel like it. And I think
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the words that we speak can completely
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change the atmosphere of our homes, and
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it can also encourage others around us,
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our spouse, our children, our friends to
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be kind, too. Our families may not
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remember every single meal we made, or
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even whether the floors were always
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clean, but they will remember how our
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home felt, and they will remember our
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words, how we spoke to them, what we
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said, and how it made them feel. And I'm
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not trying to say that we are not going
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to have hard days because we will, and
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I'm not saying that we never get
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frustrated. We will.
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But I want to be a woman who knows how
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to pause, to apologize when I'm wrong,
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and to ask God to help me control my
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words. So remember that correction
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doesn't have to be cruel, and that
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exhaustion doesn't give me permission to
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tear down the people that I love, or be
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mean to them. And honestly, sometimes
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kindness starts with being kind to
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ourselves, too.
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Not looking at ourselves as failures
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because the house is a mess, or
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believing that we're bad parents because
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we're overwhelmed, or our children have
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screen time, or they ate McDonald's, not
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speaking negatively over ourselves all
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the time. The law of kindness should be
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on our tongues when we speak to others,
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but I think we also need to learn to
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speak with grace to ourselves as well.
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The sixth habit of a Proverbs 31 woman
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is that she built her life with
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intention. The Proverbs 31 woman wasn't
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just drifting through life. She was
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actually intentional. And this is
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something that I had to learn because I
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always used to joke about how I just go
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with the flow. That is just how I was.
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And I think that that's a habit that I
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need to take the most. Living
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intentionally doesn't mean planning
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every minute of every day, but it's
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about knowing what matters to you for
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sure and knowing what you're building
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and what you want your life to be
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centered around and being intentional
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about placing that in every
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single day. For me, I don't want to look
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back one day and realize that I spent
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all my time chasing things that actually
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didn't even matter and spent all my
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money on stuff that
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was wasteful or unimportant. I want to
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remember that my children were only
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little for a short time.
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I want to remember that my marriage
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needed attention, too. And I want to
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remember that my home didn't have to be
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perfect to be full of love. I want to
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remember that my relationship with God
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is what mattered more to me than the
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image I presented to other people. And
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that's what I think intentional living
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really is, choosing your priorities on
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purpose.
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Saying no to some things so you can say
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yes to what actually matters the most
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and slowing down enough to notice your
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own life. We can take care of our homes
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without making home making an idol,
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without making it our identity.
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And we can love our family while
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remembering that God is the center of it
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all.
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Maybe that's what the Proverbs 31 woman
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really reminds us of. Not that we have
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to do everything, but that we can live
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with purpose. We can be faithful and
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grown wisdom, care for our homes, speak
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with kindness,
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and prepare for our futures,
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while keeping God at the center of our
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hearts. So, as I finish cleaning and
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resetting my home today, that is what I
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want to remember. I don't have to be
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perfect. I don't have to have it all
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together, or become someone else,
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but I can simply ask God to help me
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become more faithful with the life that
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he has given me one habit at a time, one
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room at a time, and one day at a time.
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So, if you're in a season where
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homemaking feels repetitive or
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overwhelming, I hope that this may be
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encouraged you today.
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The work that you're doing may feel
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ordinary, but a faithful life is often
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built in ordinary moments. So, thank you
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so much for spending this time with me
18:21
today and watching this video. I hope
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that you enjoyed it. If so, I hope that
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me know which one of these six habits do
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you feel God is calling you to work on
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right now.
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I'll see you guys in the next video.
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Happy homemaking.
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>> Candlelight in the dark.
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Weight of a broken heart.
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Knees falling on the floor.
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I could hear you pray.
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Listen, I won't forget
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the way that you called me back.
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Because of the hope you had,
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I'm forever changed.
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Yeah.
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I'm forever
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changed because of you.
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Yeah.
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It's your faith
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that made those mountains move.
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is your faith
21:10
that brought me to the truth.
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It's the way you called heaven down when
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you prayed for where I am now.
21:20
It's your faith.
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It's your faith that made those
21:25
mountains
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move.
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Move, how you made those mountains
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move.
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Yeah, yeah.
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All of the pain you faced,
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the trials and wars you overcame.
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Every road that you paved,
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thank you for it all.
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I wish you could see me now,
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way up beyond those clouds. I think I'll
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make you proud.
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And your prayers haven't let me fall.
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It's your
22:06
faith
22:08
that made those mountains move.
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It's your
22:12
faith
22:14
that brought me to the truth.
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It's the way you called heaven down
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when you
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prayed for where I am now.
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It's your
22:25
faith.
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It's your faith.
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It's your faith
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that made those mountains move.
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It's your
22:37
faith
22:40
that brought me to the truth. It's the
22:44
way you called heaven down
22:46
when you
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prayed for where I am now.
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It's your
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faith.
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It's your faith that made those
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mountains
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move.
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Move, how you made those mountains move.
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mountains
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Ooh
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Ooh, that made those mountains
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Ooh
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Ooh, that made those mountains
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Ooh
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Ooh
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It's your faith
23:24
that made those mountains move.
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It's your faith
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that brought me to the truth. It's the
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way you called heaven down when you
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prayed for where I am now. It's your
23:41
faith.
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It's your faith that made those
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mountains move.
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