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when we hold our boundaries with love
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and with clarity people are much more
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likely to respect them and oftentimes be
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I don't want to say compliant that's not
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really the right word but be in
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agreement with the boundaries that are
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set And we are a lot more likely to
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maintain them when we can deliver them
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with respect Now there's going to be
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exceptions We've got to recognize when
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are we going to step in Of course
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there's times when stepping in is
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necessary especially in a crisis If
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someone's in severe distress they are
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you know incapacitated they're unable to
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function or at the risk of harming
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themselves or others then of course
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intervention is appropriate Uh trust
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your instincts Don't hesitate to involve
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professionals or emergency services when
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needed with things like that because
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this is there are times when setting
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boundaries is not appropriate It could
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be considered abandoning Boundaries
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don't mean we're abandoning we're
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abandoning people It means that you you
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know how to help in a way that's healthy
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for everyone involved including you know
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yourself as the person who's offering
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the help or the support and sometimes
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it's just too much whatever it is that
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we're involved with So enlisting the
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help of support networks is really
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critical You don't have to do things
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alone You can reach out to a therapist
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trusted friends that are non-judgmental
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There's support groups all over Facebook
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with almost any issue you could come up
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with or maybe you have a colleague or
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you know a mentor Leaning on your
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network can make all the difference when
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it comes uh to trying to decipher do I
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intervene in this crisis this
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predictable crisis that I could foresee
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or do I let someone have the the
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learning opportunity and the consequence
