0:00
What's a hill you'll die on that has
0:02
nothing to do with therapy?
0:04
>> Gosh, to not think therapy is so hard
0:06
for me because people like they're like,
0:09
"Oh my gosh, you know you're a
0:10
therapist." I'm like, "No, it's just
0:11
done. I It's what I like breathe, think,
0:14
sleep." And human behavior coincides and
0:17
collides with therapeutic concepts and
0:20
so they're hard to like untether.
0:22
Honestly, I think lately being a
0:25
nurturing mom, just being a nurturing
0:27
mom, it's like the most important thing
0:30
if you are a parent, if you are a
0:32
mother, it's literally like the most
0:34
important thing that you can do as you
0:36
exist on this earth because the impact
0:38
you have if you're nurturing, it has
0:40
such a rippling effect. And I just feel
0:42
like when people have a secure
0:44
attachment, they felt loved by their
0:45
mothers in the world, they will make a
0:48
difference. And I think when it comes to
0:49
like my purpose for existence and
0:53
I can't do anything about if you didn't
0:55
have a really good mother. I can try to
0:57
show up and I can teach you about things
1:00
that happen related to trauma, but I
1:01
just think that like the heal I die on
1:04
is it is probably the most important job
1:07
that exists is being a nurturing mother.
1:10
>> 100%. You sound like my lifespan and
1:15
how can the audience be part of the
1:17
conversation with you?
1:19
>> I feel like I'm hearing comments and
1:21
questions and things like that from our
1:23
social media channels. And I really do
1:25
try to like either create shows or
1:27
address concepts in a show when I get
1:29
those questions. I definitely would
1:32
would love to have more audience
1:34
engagement like what do you want to hear
1:35
about? What do you want to learn about?
1:36
And I can then know I'm I'm really
1:39
speaking directly to the audience and I
1:41
want to do more of that for sure. So, I
1:42
would just say like tell me what you
1:44
want to learn and I'll I'm here for it.
1:46
We'll write a show about it or we'll get
1:48
a guest related to that topic. For sure.
1:51
>> Yeah. What's a tool or concept you think
1:54
everyone should have in their back
1:56
>> Nothing good happens with impulsivity
2:00
unless it's like a survival moment of
2:02
fight, freeze, flee, and it's like I'm
2:04
in danger and I moved quickly because
2:06
the of the impulsive act of survival.
2:09
But like in any engagement, slow is pro.
2:13
Slowing down for the response, slowing
2:16
down for your decision, slowing down to
2:19
be mindful of intention. I think that
2:22
that is really probably the best advice.
2:25
Like the pause is okay. It's okay to
2:28
have the pause and it's okay to
2:31
think about what it is you want to do.
2:34
And it also shows confidence. Like, I
2:36
don't know, but I'm going to think about
2:37
it. And I think that's good, too.
