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She Left Me While My Dad Was Dying – Then Came Crawling Back… | True Story
Aug 9, 2025
#redditrelationship #aita #redditstories She Left Me While My Dad Was Dying – Then Came Crawling Back… | True Story When my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer, I needed support more than ever. Instead, my girlfriend Sarah called me weak for crying — then ran into the arms of her CrossFit trainer. What followed was betrayal, heartbreak, and ultimately… clarity. This is the raw story of how I lost someone I thought was my future — and found peace in walking away. 👇 Let me know in the comments: What would YOU have done? If you’re going through heartbreak or grief, you’re not alone. Real strength is in feeling, not hiding. — 🔔 Subscribe for more real-life stories that hit deep ❤️ Like, share, and comment if this resonated with you #ToxicRelationships #EmotionalAbuse #Betrayal #GriefAndHealing #Storytime #CheatingStory #MentalHealth #RealMenCry #MovingOn #Redemption #Survivor
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My life with Sarah was a carefully
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constructed home. We had four years of
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shared memories, a downtown apartment
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with exposed brick and a future outlined
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in whispered conversations about
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marriage and children.
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She was beautiful, ambitious, and made
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me feel like the center of her universe.
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We were building a perfect life brick by
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brick, and I was foolish enough to
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believe it was solid. The first crack
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appeared not as a tremor but as a
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seismic shock on a Tuesday afternoon. My
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father's doctor called with the
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diagnosis stage three pancreatic cancer.
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The words 5% survival rate echoed in my
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head a chilling mantra. That night after
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the initial shock wore off, I fell apart
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in our living room. The doctor's
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pamphlets a crumpled mess in my hands.
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The grief was a physical weight crushing
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the air from my lungs.
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Sarah found me there, a mess of tears
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and fear. I looked up, desperate for a
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hand to hold, an embrace, a quiet word
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of comfort. What I got instead was a
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look of pure, unadulterated disgust.
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"Jesus, Mark," she said, her voice a
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sharp, foreign sound as she took a step
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back from me. "Real men don't cry like
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this." I couldn't comprehend it. "What?"
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I stammered, the tears still streaming
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down my face. My dad is dying. I get
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that you're upset, but this is pathetic,
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she continued, her tone dismissive. My
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dad went through cancer, and you didn't
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see me falling apart. Her father had
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dealt with skin cancer, a manageable
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condition caught early.
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This is completely different, I tried to
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explain, but she cut me off. Cancer is
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cancer. You're supposed to be strong
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during times like this. You're the rock,
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not She gestured at me with a flick of
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her hand, as if I were a stain on the
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carpet. That moment marked the beginning
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of the end. The foundation of our home
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wasn't solid. It was a thin veneer over
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hollow ground. Over the next few months,
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as dad's health deteriorated, and I
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spent every free moment helping my
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parents, Sarah's world narrowed to the
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fluorescent lights and polished chrome
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of her new CrossFit gym. She became
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consumed by it and by her trainer, a man
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named Jake.
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Jake says, "I have a natural athletic
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ability."
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Jake thinks I could compete.
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Jake says, "Most people don't have the
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mental toughness for real fitness."
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His name was a constant presence in our
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apartment, a ghost at our dinner table.
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She started coming home later, her skin
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glowing from the rigorous workouts, her
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eyes a light with a passion I had never
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seen directed at me. When I suggested I
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might join her, she simply laughed.
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"I don't think you're ready for Jake's
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intensity level," she'd say, as if I
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were a child. The chasm between us
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widened with every passing day. The
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final fatal blow came 3 months into
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Dad's grueling chemo treatments. He'd
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had a particularly bad day, and I had
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been on the phone with doctors for
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hours.
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Sarah arrived home at 9:00, hair damp
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from a shower, radiating energy.
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How's your dad?" she asked without
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looking up from her phone. "Not great.
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The chemo is really hitting him hard.
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I'm thinking about taking some time off
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to help mom." She finally looked at me,
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her expression a cold mask of disdain.
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"Mark, we need to talk. I've been
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thinking and this isn't working
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anymore." "What's not working?" "Us,"
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she said simply. "You've been so
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negative, so needy. Every conversation
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is about your dad or your feelings. It's
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exhausting.
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A bitter laugh escaped my lips. My dad
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is dying, Sarah. See, that's exactly
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what I mean. You're always playing the
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victim. You act like you're the only
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person who's ever dealt with family
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problems.
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You're dragging me down. I need someone
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who lifts me up, who inspires me to be
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better. Someone like Jake. Her cheeks
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were flush now, her eyes sparkling with
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an almost manic intensity.
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Jake understands what it means to be
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strong when things get tough. He doesn't
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fall apart every time something bad
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happens. Are you sleeping with him? The
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long pause was all the answer I needed.
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It only happened once, but it made me
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realize what I've been missing. Real
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passion, real strength. Jake makes me
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feel alive in a way you never have. A
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strange calm settled over me. The eye of
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the storm.
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Okay, I said, my voice quiet. You want
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to be with Jake? Be with Jake? You think
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I'm weak? Then you shouldn't waste time
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with me. She looked genuinely confused,
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as if she had expected a fight, a
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desperate plea for her to stay. I'll
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start packing tomorrow, I told her. You
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can have the apartment. You don't have
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to leave. Yes, I do. I hope Jake makes
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you happy, Sarah. I really do.
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The next day, I was gone.
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The months that followed were filled
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with a different kind of pain, but also
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a profound love. I spent my final
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precious months with my father, a gift I
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would never have had if Sarah had
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stayed.
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During one of his last lucid moments, he
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looked at me, his hand in mine. "Don't
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let anyone make you feel weak for
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caring," he whispered. "The world has
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enough people who don't feel enough."
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He passed away on a quiet Tuesday in
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July. At the funeral, barely holding it
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together after giving the eulogy, I saw
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Sarah standing at a distance, she
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approached me slowly, her voice hushed.
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Mark, I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank
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you. I know this isn't the time, but
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I've been thinking about us, about how
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things ended. I think I made a mistake.
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Sarah, please don't do this here.
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Jake and I, it's not working. He's not
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who I thought he was. Being without you
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has made me realize what I had. This
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conversation isn't appropriate. Will you
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call me when things settle down? I don't
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think so. Take care.
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She was relentless. Calls, texts, a
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handwritten letter. The messages morphed
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from apologetic to desperate, confessing
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that Jake was controlling and angry and
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that she wanted me back. I didn't
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respond to any of them. I finally had to
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block her number. 3 months later, the
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dam broke. Jake, it turned out, had a
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history of domestic violence. Sarah
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found out the hard way when he grabbed
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her arm hard enough to leave bruises
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during an argument. When she confronted
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him, he shoved her against a wall. She
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ran, but he followed, trashing her car
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in the gym parking lot. The security
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cameras captured it all. The keying of
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the paint, the slashed tires. Jake was
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arrested for vandalism and assault
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without standing warrants in two other
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states. He's in prison now for 3 years.
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The first time she appeared at my new
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apartment, the irony was so thick I
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could taste it. It was a cold Thursday
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in October. She looked awful, her hair
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stringy, her eyes red, her clothes a
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mess. "I needed to see you," she said.
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Against my better judgment, I let her
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in. "I messed up, Mark.
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so badly," she sobbed, the tears flowing
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freely as she slid off the couch and
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onto her knees in front of me. Jake was
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awful. Controlling, possessive, violent,
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everything you're not. I'm so sorry you
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went through that, but it made me
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realize what I had with you. You were
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kind and patient and loving, and I
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treated you like garbage. Sarah, get up.
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I'll do anything. Therapy, whatever it
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takes. I'll be the supportive partner
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you needed when your dad was sick. Stop,
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I said, my voice low and firm. Just
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stop. What can I do to fix this? You
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can't fix this, Sarah. What's broken
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between us can't be repaired. But I love
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you. No, you don't. You love the
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security I represented. When I was
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broken and grieving my dying father, you
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called me weak. That wasn't a mistake.
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That was who you are. The person you are
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showed up in that moment and it was
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ugly. She left but the campaign didn't
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stop. The final confrontation was a
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Friday night in December. I found her on
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my building steps waiting for hours in
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the cold. This stops now. I told her, my
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patients completely gone. The calls, the
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texts, showing up at my work, bothering
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my mother, all of it. I won't stop
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fighting for us. There is no us. There
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hasn't been for over a year. Why won't
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you even try after everything we had? I
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looked at this woman who had once been
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my world and felt absolutely nothing.
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The love had been replaced by a quiet,
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settled acceptance.
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Because you're not a good person, Sarah,
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I said, the words feeling heavy on my
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tongue.
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A good person doesn't abandon their
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partner when their parent is dying. A
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good person doesn't cheat and then blame
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their partner. A good person doesn't
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come crawling back only after their
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affair partner turns out to be abusive.
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Her face went white. The truth a
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physical blow. That's not I'm not. I'm
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You are. You showed me exactly who you
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are when I needed you most. You're
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selfish, cruel, and manipulative.
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Jake being a piece of garbage doesn't
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change that. It just means you have
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terrible judgment on top of everything
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else. I can change. No, you can't. I
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said, starting toward my building door.
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Because you don't think you did anything
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wrong. The person who could say real men
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don't cry to someone grieving their
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dying father. That's not a mistake.
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That's a character defect.
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We're done, Sarah. Don't contact me
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again. I turned back one final time.
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I hope you figure out how to be a better
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person someday, but I won't be around to
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see it. That was 8 months ago. She
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hasn't contacted me since.
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I'm with someone wonderful now, a woman
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named Lisa, who cried with me when I
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told her about my dad, who understands
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that emotional availability is strength,
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not weakness.
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Dad was right. The world has enough
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people who don't feel enough. I'm
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grateful I'm not one of them, and even
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more grateful I dodged that bullet.
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Sometimes the trash truly does take
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itself
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