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I Paid Off Her Debt. Then She Left Me for a Richer Man | True Story
Aug 10, 2025
#redditrelationship #aita #redditstories I Paid Off Her Debt. Then She Left Me for a Richer Man | True Story After paying off her $18,500 debt, buying her a car, and supporting her dreams, she told me she was only with me until someone richer came along. I walked away, quietly. No drama, no begging. Just silence. Months later, she came back… broke, dumped, and desperate. This is my story of betrayal, growth, and why sometimes the best revenge is simply becoming unavailable. 💬 Share your thoughts in the comments — have you ever been someone's backup plan? 🔔 Subscribe for more true stories that hit where it hurts. #SelfWorth #RelationshipLessons #ModernDating
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A new wave of cold, sterile honesty
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washed over me. I sat there, the taste
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of my halfeaten dinner turning to ash in
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my mouth.
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I'm only with you until someone richer
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comes along.
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Jessica said it with a chilling
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calmness, as if she were simply stating
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a fact about the weather. I had just
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finished paying off her $18,500 student
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loan on top of buying her a new car and
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covering the majority of our shared
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expenses for years.
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my reward. A stark reminder of my place
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in her life, temporary, a placeholder, a
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stepping stone to someone richer.
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So, I walked away. I canceled
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everything, disappeared, and watched
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from a distance as her carefully
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constructed world came crashing down.
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Now, she's bankrupt, dumped by her sugar
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daddy, and begging me to talk. I never
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intended to share this story, but maybe
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someone else can learn from my mistakes.
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I used to believe that love and
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financial support were the same thing. I
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was wrong. My name is Mark and I'm 28
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years old. For 3 years, I was in what I
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thought was the relationship of a
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lifetime with Jessica.
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I'm a marketing manager with a steady
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income, and I'm responsible with my
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money. Jessica was a real estate agent,
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driven and ambitious, always chasing the
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big deals and the extravagant lifestyle
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she believed she deserved.
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I loved her ambition. I loved that she
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had big dreams. So when she struggled
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with her student loans, I didn't
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hesitate to help. We moved in together
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and I gradually took over more and more
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of her financial burdens. First, it was
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just groceries and utilities. Then I was
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paying her entire student loan debt.
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Over 2 years, I paid off every single
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scent. I also bought her a car when hers
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broke down, covered most of our living
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expenses, and funded what she called her
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networking dinners and events.
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I never threw it in her face. I never
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made her feel guilty. I thought this was
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what you did when you loved someone. You
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supported their dreams. I was an idiot.
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The truth came out on a quiet Tuesday
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night.
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We were having dinner at home. Or
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rather, I was. Jessica was glued to her
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phone, texting and smiling to herself.
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I caught a glimpse of a name on the
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screen and asked casually, "Who's
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Richard?" Her head shot up. "Just a
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client, Mark." Her voice was tight.
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"God, you're so paranoid. Clients don't
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usually text about hotel rooms at
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midnight," I said, pointing to the
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screen where I'd seen the message
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preview. Her face drained of all color,
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then flushed with anger. "You're reading
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my messages now? That's a violation of
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privacy. It popped up on your screen,
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Jess. I wasn't snooping, but now I'm
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curious. Who is Richard, and why is he
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texting you about the Ritz Carlton? She
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stared at me for a long moment, and I
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saw a subtle shift in her expression.
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The panic faded, replaced by something
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cold and almost relieved. Fine, she
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said, setting her phone down with a
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deliberate calm.
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Yes, I'm seeing Richard. And you know
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what? I'm not sorry. The words felt like
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a physical blow. After everything I've
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done for you, the loans, the car. I
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started, but she cut me off, her voice
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rising. That's exactly the problem. You
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think throwing money at me makes you
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enough. She leaned forward. Richard
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doesn't just pay bills, he buys
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experiences. He shows me what real
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success looks like. So, this is about
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money. I could barely get the words out.
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It's about potential, Mark. You're
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comfortable being mediocre. I'm not. She
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leaned back in her chair, crossing her
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arms. You make decent money for a normal
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person, but Richard, he owns half the
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commercial real estate in the city. He
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takes me to restaurants you couldn't
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afford to look at. He's showing me
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properties in Manhattan that cost more
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than you make in 5 years. I felt like I
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was drowning.
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Manhattan? What are you talking about?
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We're looking at moving in together.
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He's getting divorced and we want to
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start fresh somewhere that matches our
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lifestyle.
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Our lifestyle? Jess, I've been funding
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your lifestyle for 2 years. She rolled
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her eyes.
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I appreciate it, but that doesn't mean I
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owe you my future. Richard can give me
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the life I actually want.
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Her voice took on a pitying tone. Look,
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you're a good guy. You're stable. You're
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reliable, but that's all you are.
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I stared at her trying to process this
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woman I had loved, supported, and
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sacrificed for was talking about me like
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I was a placeholder.
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So, what am I supposed to do with all
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this? Our lease, our plans. I'm sure
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you'll figure it out. You're good at
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practical things.
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The dismissal was devastating, but what
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she said next was worse. Look, Mark, you
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need to understand something. I was
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always honest about my ambitions. I want
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more than this. She gestured around our
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apartment. The apartment I paid for.
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I'm only with you until someone richer
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comes along. Well, someone richer came
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along.
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The silence that followed was deafening.
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I sat there looking at the stranger and
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realized I had been in love with a
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fantasy.
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When did you become this person? I asked
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quietly. I've always been this person,
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Mark. You just chose not to see it.
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Maybe she was right. Maybe the signs
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were always there and I had ignored them
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because I loved the idea of being her
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hero. I didn't yell. I didn't cry. I
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didn't beg. I just nodded and said,
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"Okay." She looked surprised as if she'd
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expected a fight. "Yeah, okay. If that's
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how you feel, then we're done." "Just
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like that? Just like that?" She
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shrugged, packed a bag, and left to stay
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with Richard. I sat in my living room
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and made a plan. The next morning, I
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went to work and started making calls. I
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removed my name from her credit cards,
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canceled the ones I'd been paying for,
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and transferred my direct deposit to a
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new account. I called our landlord,
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explained the situation, and paid the
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penalty to break the lease. I called my
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company's HR, and requested an immediate
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transfer to our Los Angeles office.
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By the time Jessica came home that
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evening, I was gone. I packed everything
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that mattered to me and left the
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apartment key on the kitchen counter
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next to a note that simply said, "The
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lease is paid through the end of the
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month. After that, you're on your own."
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I blocked her number, blocked her on all
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social media, and drove to California. I
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didn't leave a forwarding address. For 6
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months, I heard nothing. I threw myself
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into my new job, made new friends, and
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slowly started to rebuild my life. It
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hurt. But there was also a profound
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sense of liberation. Then the messages
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started. Missed calls from unknown
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numbers, then voicemails.
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Mark, I know you're getting these. I
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just I need to explain. Richard wasn't
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what I thought. Can we just talk? I
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deleted them without listening to the
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whole thing. A week later, another one.
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It's been 3 months, Mark. This is
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childish. I made a mistake. Okay. I said
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things I didn't mean. Just call me back.
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Another one. I'm outside your old
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apartment. Where are you? Your
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co-workers won't tell me anything. This
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is insane, Mark. We had something real.
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I found out what happened through a
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mutual friend. Richard never intended to
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leave his wife. He had played Jessica
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just like he had countless other young
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women. After 6 months of promises and
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expensive dinners, he ghosted her
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completely when his wife found out and
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threatened divorce.
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Without Richard's financial support and
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without me paying her bills, Jessica
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couldn't maintain the lifestyle she'd
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grown accustomed to. She was evicted
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from her apartment, her credit was
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destroyed, and her career had taken a
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hit when word got around about her
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affair. Richard had ensured she was
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blacklisted from the high-end properties
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she'd been trying to break into. She had
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to move back in with her parents. The
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voicemails kept coming, getting more
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desperate. Mark, please. I was confused.
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Okay. I thought I wanted something
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different, but I realized what we had
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was real. I miss us. I miss you taking
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care of me. I miss feeling secure.
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That one made me laugh. She missed
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feeling secure. She missed me taking
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care of her. Not me, not our
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relationship, but the security I
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provided. But she wasn't done. Through
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mutual friends, she found out where I
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was working. And last month, she showed
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up. I was leaving my office when I saw
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her standing by my car. She looked
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older, tired, and definitely not wearing
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the designer clothes she used to favor.
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"Hello, Mark." I stopped walking but
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didn't approach. "Jessica, what are you
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doing here? I need to talk to you." She
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took a step closer, her hands shaking.
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"Please, just 5 minutes. I don't think
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we have anything to talk about." "Yes,
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we do. We have everything to talk about,
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she insisted, her voice cracking. Mark,
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please. I was scared. Okay. I thought I
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wanted something different, but I
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realized what we had was real. I miss
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us. Us? I kept my voice level. There was
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no us, Jessica. You made that very
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clear. I was confused. Richard promised
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me things. And when those promises fell
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through, suddenly you remembered I
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existed. That's not fair. I loved you. I
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looked at her for a long moment. This
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woman who had systematically used me and
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crushed me with her honesty was now
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claiming love. No, you loved what I
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provided. There's a difference. That's
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not true. What we had was real, Mark.
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The way you took care of me, the way you
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supported my dreams. The way I paid your
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bills, you mean? I interjected. Don't be
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cruel.
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Cruel? I almost laughed. Jessica, you
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told me I was a placeholder. You said
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you were only with me until someone
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richer came along. How is acknowledging
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that being cruel? Her face crumpled. I
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was angry. I said things I didn't mean.
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No, you said things you did mean. You
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were just honest about it. And honestly,
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I'm grateful. You showed me exactly who
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you were. I took a step back. So that's
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it. You won't even try? What about
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everything we built together? We didn't
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build anything together. I built
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something and you took from it until you
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found something better. The only
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difference now is that the something
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better turned out to be a lie.
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She was crying now, mascara running down
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her cheeks. Please, Mark, I know I hurt
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you, but I'm different now. I understand
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what matters. I understand what real
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love is. Do you? Because everything
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you've said in the last 10 minutes has
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been about what you need, what you miss,
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what you want, just like always.
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That's not. You miss feeling secure. You
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miss me taking care of you. You miss the
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life I provided. You don't miss me,
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Jessica. You miss your safety net. I do
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miss you. I miss talking to you. I miss
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being with you. When When did we ever
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just talk? When were you ever present?
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You were always on your phone, always
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networking, always looking for the next
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opportunity. I unlocked my car. You were
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never with me, Jess. You were just using
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me as a base of operations.
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So what? You're just going to throw away
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3 years? I'm not throwing away anything.
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You already did that. I opened my car
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door.
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You said you were only with me until
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someone richer came along. Well, I'm not
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richer, but I'm definitely better. and
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you're not worth settling for anymore."
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She stood there, mouth open, as I got in
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my car and drove away."
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I haven't heard from her since. Some
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people might think I was too harsh, but
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here's the thing. She showed me who she
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really was, not in a moment of anger,
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but in calm, calculated honesty. She
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told me I was temporary.
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When her something better didn't work
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out, she wanted to come back to her
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safety net. But I'm not a safety net.
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I'm not a backup plan. I'm not a
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placeholder. I'm worth more than that.
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We all are. The last I heard through
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mutual friends, she's working at a small
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real estate office in the suburbs,
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living with her parents and single. Her
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credit is still destroyed and she's
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struggling to rebuild her career.
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Richard reconciled with his wife and
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moved to another state. Meanwhile, I got
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a promotion. I'm dating someone amazing
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who contributes equally to our
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relationship. And I sleep well at night
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knowing that everything in my life is
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built on honesty and mutual respect.
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Sometimes the best revenge isn't
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plotting or scheming or trying to hurt
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someone back. Sometimes it's just
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refusing to be someone's consolation
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prize.
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Sometimes it's just walking away and
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building something better.
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And sometimes the most devastating thing
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you can say to someone who discarded you
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is simply, "You're not worth it
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anymore."
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Because in the end, that's exactly what
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Jessica was. Not worth my money, not
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worth my time, not worth my love, and
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definitely not worth my future.
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I learned a hard lesson about the
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difference between supporting someone's
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dreams and being used to fund them.
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I learned that love without respect is
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just exploitation with feelings
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attached.
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Most importantly, I learned that
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sometimes the most powerful thing you
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can do is simply refused to play the
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game. She wanted someone richer. She got
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someone temporary instead. And when
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temporary ended, she discovered that I
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had become something she never thought
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I'd be unavailable. The irony is
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perfect. She discarded me for being not
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enough. And now I'm the one who thinks
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she's not enough. Funny how that works.
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