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We're a married couple and we have a girlfriend
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Since 2020, we've dated about 60 people. When it comes to our children, we didn't really sit down and have a specific conversation about
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mommy and daddy for a year. Probably took about two and a half months before they were like
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okay, wait a minute, this is somebody special. I thought Bella really wanted me and maybe didn't really want Eve
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Bella broke it to me that actually she preferred Eve and wasn't really into me
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so i have this guy he thinks that he's our kind of ideal woman is impossible to find
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i became a dating coach 18 years ago as an accident there are only five skills you need
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for a woman to find you more attractive i actually got voted the number one dating coach in the world
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three years in a row his detail list is so detailed what are you telling him well i'm telling you to
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revise his list a little bit basically we've been running the company together we've helped over
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350,000 people in the world get their ideal relationship. Once he applies this, he will
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never have a problem with dating ever again. I know this stuff inside and out, and it is impossible
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to be in a relationship and not apply it. In our relationship, we have our dynamic
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my dynamic with our partner, Eve's dynamic with our partner, and then our dynamic all together
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So it's a lot more communication. So you just have to welcome a lot of very uncomfortable
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discussions that lead to wonderful results. Oh, let's go. Oh, my God
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Nice. We've been together for 10 years, almost 11 years. When we first met at Austin Fashion Week, I was in a relationship with another woman
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and she actually saw Eve first and said, oh, my gosh, I have to date that woman
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And so I went up and said hi. I didn't really specifically was seeking for Clarence relationship per se
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I was going with the flow. But over time, it developed into a real relationship
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And the three of us ended up living together For six years we had children together She still one of our incredibly good friends but the relationship part of it has fallen aside and turned into more of a friendship and that happened a few years ago now
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and since then, me and Eve have continued that lifestyle and dating other people
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We have five kids, Oliver, Dante, Orion, Ivy, and Zoe. Our parenting styles, I would say
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He's standard, actually. I'm more of a strict parent than he is. I would say I'm the bad cop. He's a good cop
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We homeschooling our kids because we believe that standard education is a bit too rigid and not very flexible
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We spend every day with our children, but they have chores they have to complete in the morning
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They're all very advanced, but they're also social. Our eldest son, at 14, we have spoken to him about people and relationships
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He knows there is monogamy. He knows there is polyamory. polyamory is dating multiple people at the same time they didn't really need to explain to me
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that they were polyamorous i kind of figured it out after a while and they did tell me at a certain
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point but i just realized that my dad dated multiple people and that was just normal to me
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when it comes to our children we didn't really sit down and have a specific conversation about
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Mommy and daddy are humorous. So for them, we're just not a friend, basically, right
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Until about, like, six months. Just want to see how the children interact with the person we're dating as well
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before we get serious with anybody. Like, and that's important. Have you met many of your parents' partners
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Uh, we do get to meet them after a while, but not until they feel comfortable with, uh
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like, making sure that it'll be okay for them to meet us. In the last four years, despite the fact that we've dated 60 people
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There's really only been three that have actually interacted with the kids
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more than at like a group setting. When I talk to my friends about Bella I usually do bring up the fact that she is my parents partner Hi hon Good to see you
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Romantically, we've been together since January, so a couple of months, but I've known them for years
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There was this really awkward moment where I thought Bella really wanted me and maybe didn't really want Eve
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Bella broke it to me that actually she preferred Eve and wasn't really into me
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And she's like, eh, you're okay. she's like, Eve's like a perfect 10
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and you're like a 6 and that's accurate numbers I hadn't really been
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in a relationship with 3 people or 2 other people before it's still like a learning
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progress type of thing since 2020 we've dated about 60 people, give or take
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we have definitely dated more than 1 person at a time but the dynamic tends to work best
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when we have the throttle Everything else is fun, wild time. I don't define any specific rigid rules
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It's just a relationship that you make work. By your own rule
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Family is super accepting. Friends, mostly accepting. The friends that aren't accepting have gone
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Yeah, they're not friends, right? Again, why would I live my life according to someone else's standards, right
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It's my life. That's why strangers, we get all kinds of reactions. Some people are very supportive and ethical of questions
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They're the same. which you know I answer the term and some of course are very detrimental right and tell me
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that I have no self-esteem or no value. We absolutely have people try telling us
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that our lifestyle is going to have some kind of negative impact on our children. I don't believe
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our dating life impacts our children in any major way other than to help them be more tolerant and
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open to other ideals. Are we the best parents in the world? Probably not. Yes we are. Probably
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Our children don't get confused about our dating life because we don't make our children part of our dating life
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I think a lot of people in the state of our dating lives think we will just live in a big compound and we have a lot of f*** in front of our kids
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So the biggest misconception is that we are too promiscuous and we're damaging our children, basically, which is not against my neighbors
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Yeah, I think that's true. That's a massive misconception for us. Yeah, but really
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How did you feel when Adam and Eve told you that they had five children
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I was definitely a little overwhelmed at first. But getting to know them, they're so wonderful
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They're so cute and they're so funny. My age kind of does help me connect with them on levels that they might not
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I definitely still have a lot more, I don't want to say energy. You guys still have, like, a lot of energy
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Just throw me in the face. She's in her 20s. I'm, like, 80
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I mean, you're almost there. She's a political adult. I double-checked. Good job
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I'm making a bear. We're baking two cakes, a lemon one and a chocolate one
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That's how they met her, was as a friend. And of course, when she was hanging out, she started baking with them
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and they pretty much fell in love with her. As our relationship developed, they really just knew Bella as a friend that came over
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And it probably took about two months, two and a half months, before they were like, okay, wait a minute
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Like, this is somebody special. Push in and pull. There we go, good job
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She teach me so much that I'm able to do eggs now
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now. What does it mean to you to see your children and girlfriend bonding like this
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Very, very special, of course. It's for me the most important part. Our kids like her and she just
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fits really well. The best thing about being in a poly relationship is that, again
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you're making your own rules. It's like you have your cake and eat. If my children grow up to be happy
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wonderful people, that's all I really care about. I just need them to be happy
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and to be as successful as they want to be in their own world. Thank you
