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People judge us because of our 34-year age gap
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I'm Phil and I'm 60. I'm Lenny, I'm 24. She's my missus
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I always get comments like, that's weird, man. Age, red flag, so much potential wasted
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I was 23. I've got a lot of comments saying that the baby's going to have to go to school
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and tell everyone that her dad died because he was so old. He looks like her grandpa
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My friend Brendan's coming over today to talk about our relationship. A little bit apprehensive, just with the whole age gap
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and Phil having kids as well. Didn't want her to get hurt again
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I'm Lenny, I'm 24, and my man is 60. We met at work, in like a rest home
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and Phil was gardening, and he looked like a hard-working man, and hadn't had a hard-working man before
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so that kind of drew me to him. I like the colour he got
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I always liked an older man. Ooh. Lovely strong colour. I've only really been in one other relationship
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Often you would break things so that I could come and fix them. Well, not fully break things
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This door handle's falling off. Couldn't fix that. Do you want me to help paint
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Um. That sounds like a no. And then I just messaged him and he just wasn't getting the hint
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Until you come up and ask for a kiss on the kettle. I got it then
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It was all over after then. Yeah, pretty much. It was so young, beautiful, gorgeous
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It didn't really occur to me that all that flirting and banter was actually flirting and banter
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Oh yeah, because he'd walk into the staff room and say, hi handsome. Yeah, I'd be looking behind me to see who handsome was
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Who's he talking to? I was just turning 21 and Phil was about 56
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We've been together three years now. So Brendan's coming over today to talk about what he thinks about our relationship
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My friend Brendan wasn so sure about the age gap and how quickly things were moving I apprehensive because I want him to like me and approve of me and Lenny So Brendan what did you think about mine and Phil relationship at the start
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At the start, it was definitely apprehensive. Especially with not meeting Phil before, you know, I guess you had told me before you were seeing Phil
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and then with how quickly everything was moving, I think it was like not even a week later
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you had rung me and told me that Phil was moving in with his son. Is it the right move for you
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I've got our children, yeah. I've got a son who's 15, he lives with us here
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I think there's another thing why we work so well is because Lenny's been so amazing with him
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Well, I appreciate your concern, but we're very good. I think it just moved so fast because it just was the right thing to do
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and it kind of just... It had a mind of its own, didn't it? It wasn't fast for us, though
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It was quite comfortable. People talk online about having an age gap about, like, five to seven years
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and that being, like, a problem. I'm like, oh. Is it? It was, like, this trend going on about age gaps
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I was like, OK, we're going to say it now. and yeah, that didn't make a lot of people happy
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No. I always get quite rude comments. Girl, you look like a teenager
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What is that old dude doing with you? Thank you for saying I look young
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This entire situation cannot be serious. He met her at daycare. She was one of the kids
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That's so savage. So he was 35 when you were born. That's weird, man
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Are you looking for a father figure or something? age red flag
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Someone else said, there's no way that's true, lol. And I said, don't know what to tell you, Shannon
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These age gaps getting way out of control. Stop, her and Grandpa are so cute together
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If my dad came home with someone born in 2001, I'd cut him off. Get back out the door Is he rich or just normal So much potential wasted Are they talking about you or me
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Me. I get comments like, oh, I bet he's got money. I was like, if he had money, we wouldn't be living like this
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Just wait till he's 80 and you're 45, then we'll see if it lasts
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I think a lot of the comments ended up getting flagged and deleted
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of them calling you a b****. That upset me. It's putting quite a nasty taint on things, yeah
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Like, I was a legal adult. I think we find the comments online funny more than anything
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Like, for us, they seem absurd. We just can't take them seriously
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Well, they don't really know us. No. They only see, like, what, like a 10-second video
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People might judge, but they don't know. I didn't go looking for someone who was 20, 34 years younger than me
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And you didn't go specifically looking for someone quite that old. What's brought us together is the fact that we get on so well and we love each other
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As long as Phil treats you right, it's all that I could ask for
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Phil treats me very good. Make sure I've always got everything I need and everything I want, which is nice
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Just tell people, do what you want, it's your life, you don't know how long you're here for
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Definitely my whole opinion changed after meeting him for the first time
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It was good, it felt comfortable, it felt like Lenny was definitely happy, you're definitely happy
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And I guess it just eased some of the nerves that I had
6:11
How was bringing Dochi into the world? And how were people's reactions with everything and her
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How old were you when you fell pregnant? I was 23. Did it come as a shock to you guys when Lenny found out she was pregnant
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Oh, well, we were really excited. We were both so happy. We have a baby She just over three months old now Yeah I didn think we could have a baby but Yeah You still working so Still working Just more like the online judgment
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Everyone's saying that Phil won't see her grow up, and I always think, like, what, like five good years
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are better than 20 really bad years anyway. When I posted that the baby was here
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or, like, when I was pregnant, I got a lot of comments saying that, oh, you won't see the baby grow up
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The baby's going to have to go to school and tell everyone that her dad died because he was so old
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Yeah, yeah. I was like, it's a bit savage. Yeah. Whenever I get a comment talking about, like
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oh, like, you're not going to see her grow up, but, like, then my mum got dementia when I was, like, 18, 19 anyway
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and I had to put her in a rest home. So, like, you just never know. I don't know how old I live for, but the time I've got
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I'm going to make the most of it, and the time I have with Lennie and Dainty is going to be special
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We've already got a really strong bond. You know, like, she's already..
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She knows who I am, you know. I do a lot of the catering and feeding at night, so..
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Yeah, Phil does basically all the feeding at night because I just don't wake up. No. See you later
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Bye. Nice to meet you, Phil. Nice to meet you. Family are all happy for us
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Don't they? Yeah. Say to our face anyway. I think now people don't see the age difference
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that just see, you know, me and you and our baby. The great thing about Phil is just hardworking and loyalty
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and just helps make me happy when I'm sad and is always there
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It's nice to have so much love around. These are the best days of my life
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We met and love has just grown. People can, like, judge all they want
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It doesn't really change anything in our relationship. It makes me really happy when I can take care of these two
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They mean everything to me
