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We are a three-dead family with another one on the way
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I'm having a child with my husband and my ex. It's pretty crazy, the situation, but it's fun
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We do get a lot of hate online. Aren't you embarrassed of yourself
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Be an effing man. Child Protection Services needs to be called immediately
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My cousin Krista is coming over today. So, Mo, what are you doing
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Be honest. Yeah. Has it been challenging? Living with Tom. Koi and Bo, it's time to get up
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Let's go have breakfast with your other two dads. I'm Daddy Mark, and I'm 59 years old
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I'm Daddy Moke, and I'm Chick-a-Koo. And I'm Daddy Tom, and I am 71
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So we have a son and a daughter. Our son's name is Koi. He's eight
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Daddy Moke and Daddy Tom are making breakfast down the stairs. And our daughter's name is Bo
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They're twins. Hi. Hi. Hi. Tom and I used to be married and uh let's see what else. It was a disaster
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No I'm kidding. So Tom and I had the twins together through surrogacy. We have a surrogate
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named Ashley and we're the biological parents. I am Bo's biological dad and Tom is Koi's
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biological father. The kids were born in 2017. I think we separated in 2018, but you know, have
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always lived together and co-parent together. Because I wanted to be involved with the kids
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growing up and Mark realized that and that we get along really well. And Mocha night at first
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you know, it was a little interesting. When and how did you two meet? We met at the gym. He came
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out of the locker room and we locked eyes and it was pretty much love at first sight right
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yeah i had to ask mark are you married that's the first question he said he was separated and i was
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like oh boy okay let me see how this goes when i finally found the love of my life mark then i have
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to deal with a three-way or not a three-way but a third person in our in our family but we got
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married last year. Yep. And Tom, how did you feel when you learned Mark had a new partner
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I was a little depressed for a little bit, but, uh, you know, life goes on and, uh
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we get along well. Mark and Moak have a great wedding. You guys are perfect for each other
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and I love you both. Good morning, guys. Good morning. Good morning. Good morning
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I think you gonna make us proud of this stuff And how did you three come to the decision to all live together and parent the three kids as like a group Gosh when we started there were times when I thought what have I done
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Because there was a lot of tension and, you know. Well, let's clarify this. I lived in my own apartment for a while because I didn't want the kids to be like
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who's this stranger living in our house? And I didn't move in until they were really comfortable with me
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And then I said to Mark, it'd be nice if we just bought a new home
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And a big priority was to find the proper quarters for Tom to make sure he's comfortable
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And I live in the back pool house. It is very fun having three dads
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Pretty crazy, the situation we're in, but it's fun. When one says no to something, I have a shot with the next one
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And what do your friends at school think about the fact that you have three dads? They think it's kind of cool
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Yeah. Who's the strictest parent? I think it's you. You're not strict, really
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But you're very strict about that green couch up there. You won't let anybody sit on it
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Nope. No one sits on it. I'm an interior designer. I designed this whole home so I have a, you know, way I want everything to look
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And I know that's impossible because we have two kids that are eight. There's three dads
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Really, that's the only thing that makes me a little tense. When we first moved into this house, it was kind of like figuring out everyone's role in the house
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Mine was to be obsessively clean and no one can sit on anything here, including a walk on the rugs or anything like that
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I'll definitely be drama queen. And you do see a therapist. I do see a therapist and we've had a couple of group therapy sessions
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One namely in particular about Tom Stillwhite wearing his wedding ring to Mark and we're trying to change that
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Did this cook over our dad? Of course, yeah. And Moke and I are planning a third child
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We're going to have one more baby and Ashley is going to be our surrogate one more time
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Yeah, we wanted the kids all to have the same birth mother so they'd all have the same mother
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So I know, guys, that this is our guest room, but it's really the only option because we don't want the baby downstairs
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Yeah, so I think we just changed the color wall, seafoam green, and then that really cool quilt
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And when is the baby due? It looks like the baby's going to be due in the spring. So, Tom, what do you think your role's going to be like with the new baby
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Of course I'm going to be here when the baby comes and help it grow up and help it be a brother and sister to Beau and Coy and looking forward to it
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I'm excited about Tom being a third dad to the new baby. This is Jenny
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Hey, Jenny. This is our nanny Jenny Hi Hi And we wanted the kids all to have the same surrogate as well as the same egg donor So they 100 brothers and sisters That was Bo and Koi fifth birthday
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Bo, something I could just tell was troubling her. And she's like, you're the best dad in the world
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And the last thing I ever want to do is hurt your feelings. But she said, I really miss not having a
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mom. And that's when I got on the phone with Ashley and Ashley started crying. I started crying
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So in the last three years, we've seen them way more. And now, you know, Ashley is in our show as
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well. So she flies out for filming and doing a much better job of like really seeing them more
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often. So speaking of filming, we're going to do a social for our show downstairs. If you guys want
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to follow us downstairs. All right. We started posting, I think it was a year ago in June
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Okay, so the social that we're doing today, the idea is, of course
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if you were doing it correctly, you would be dropping these from the front
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But since we're stupid Hollywood people, you're going to be dropping them from the back
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Just because we're from Hollywood doesn't mean that we're not smart. That one's going to stay in the front
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It's a joke of it. Okay, I don't get it, but let's do it. So why did you decide as a family to start posting on social media
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Because we're fabulous. That's true. You know, there have been so many questions
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People are so, like, curious about what is this and, you know, is this a thruple
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And no, it is not a thruple. And we started doing, like, funny videos and it was just taken off
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Do you get judged online for being older dads? No, I think we've got been judged about being gay dads
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I pulled up some negative ones here to share these lovely comments
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Aren't you embarrassed of yourself? Be an effing man. You don't need to make some stupid, cringy as hell, super gay video
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Just go back inside and... See, that's why I don't read them
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Child protection services needs to be called immediately. Those are the ones that really bother me
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bother me. To the people out there who don't think we are like happy um well I'm very happy for one
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We are very happy because we have amazing dads. I don't know where the other two are
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I'm surprised Koi actually said dad if you don't have haters you're doing something wrong
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When we got our first haters he's like all right we're on to something. Oh here's a great comment. Is this mean? No. Oh all right. Mark is my favorite
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He always makes me smile What Mochiz or Marcus Marcus I love that there a lot of positive comments about my hair which is always really good
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I love you guys' sense of humor. You guys are the rainbow after the storm. Aw
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Well, fortunately we get more positive than negative. The positive ones are fantastic
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There's quite a fan club that Daddy Tom has. There are all kinds of men and women saying like
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Is Daddy Tom available? Can I be the fourth dad? Is he looking
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Hey, y'all. My cousin Krista is coming over today. Oh, wow. The house is beautiful
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Thank you. Initially, she was a little bit put back. She thought it was a throuple as well
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And I had to explain it to her. She wasn't happy about that. I was just concerned
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Like, what are you doing? Nothing against you, Tom. I just didn't know you at the time, but Mark and getting married and having this wonderful life together, just starting out
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And his ex-husband is moving in, and y'all gonna live together? Didn't understand it
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And then he just grew on me. We got to know him, and I got to know Mark more, and gosh, Bo and Coy
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So I got to see what you live and why you love your family so much and why they love you
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Thank you. But be honest. Yeah. Has it been challenging living with Tom
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Maybe when Tom walks into our bathroom, we're taking a shower and saying
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Mark, Mark, Mark, help me with the computer. I can't remember the password
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But no, it's been great. Tom, boundaries. Yes, boundaries. Tom in the wedding band said, you know what I'm saying
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Not saying anything, Tom. What would you think if you had to share your boyfriend with his ex-wife and live in the same house
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Absolutely not. Hey, so we've got some barbecue cooking. Yum. Oh, I'm starving
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Jenny's the best. She is. Thanks. Yay. Hi, my name is Jenny
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I work for the dads and I'm their nanny. It's been fun
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What do you think makes a good parent? Unconditional one. I would say putting the kids first
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I want them to have an exceptional childhood. That's what I want to see for our kids
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As I have three dads, we'll have three kids now. So it's triple the fun, triple the drama, triple the excitement
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in this family. It's going to be a blast, kids. Tom, would you ever consider
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bringing another partner to the family? Sure, why not
