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I'm Angel, I'm 18 years old, and I'm a content creator
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I'm Carla, I'm 20 years old, and I'm dating Angel. I feel like I've always had that caregiving mindset
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I grew up with two younger sisters who were deaf. I'll get him out of bed, put his clothes on, get him dressed
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I obviously knew it wasn't going to be like any other couple
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He does need help, so I do have to help him. But he did tell me from the start
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because I didn't want her to feel trapped. I've always been judged since I was little
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So when TikTok came around and I started seeing people blowing up, I was like, I could do this
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And I knew my wheelchair would catch people's attention. People say that she's only with me
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for the disability checks or the parking spots. We don't even receive disability checks
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We've never received a check before. Someone was like, how damn bad does a girl have to be
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And I was like, to date you? and my comment ended up getting more likes than his
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So it's kind of alarming, I guess. Somebody wrote this whole paragraph saying, like
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I would really, like, sit down and think about what you're doing because who wants to, like, live their whole life
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with someone who can't, like, do anything? Now it doesn't affect me, neither does the comments
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because I know it's people I'm never going to meet. I know who I am, and obviously I know who my partner is
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and as long as it doesn't affect her, doesn't affect me in any way. You ready? We have to get ready for the day
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I'm Angel. I'm 18 years old and I'm a content creator. How did you sleep? Bad. Why
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I'm a nightmare. I'm Karla. I'm 20 years old and I'm dating Angel
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Can you tell us the name of the condition that you have? It's called autogracosis and it is based on the joints of my hands and in my legs and also on my hips
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I don't have enough strength to lift up my whole body by myself
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We first met through social media We started talking after I started noticing that she would like my stories on Facebook And I was like well she really pretty So I decided to text her I knew like some way or another I had to make it work Like I really liked him
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Five months in, she started coming over and started seeing what my mom was doing
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So she was kind enough to start helping out. I obviously knew it wasn't going to be like any other couple
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He does need help, so I do have to help him. But he did tell me from the start
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you're kind of signing up for helping me. Because I didn't want her to feel trapped
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Is that good for you to step on it? I'll get him out of bed, put his clothes on, get him dressed
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And then we just head to doing his skincare, brushing his teeth
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If his phone drops, I have to pick it up. or if he wants a cup of water
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I have to come in and get him water. I grew up with two younger sisters who were deaf
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I feel like I've always had that caregiving mindset and it was never like, oh my gosh, I don't wanna do this
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It was more like, I'm happy to help out. Just let me know what you need
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New Year's of 2023, we decided to take this New Year's picture
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was kissing and I posted it to my Snapchat. And then that's where like all my friends were like
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oh, Angel has a girl. I always knew I wanted to be like a hunter creator
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So when TikTok came around and I started seeing people blowing up
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I was like, I could do this. And I knew my wheelchair would like catch people's attention
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I do a lot of skits of me and her. I ended up posting a video about her and me
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because she would always say like, Oh, you don't post me on your social media? And that video actually ended up getting like 2 million likes
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It was like my most liked video. At first, it was very intimidating. I still do get kind of like shy in public
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but he's always kind of telling me, don't be shy like we don't even know these people
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How much we receive are mainly like, oh she just doing it for the money How much are his parents paying her You for sure cheating Like I don care what no one says And then obviously more intimate comments
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where they're asking a little bit too much. Like, why do people like have that in their mind
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to even like put out in the public? Someone was like, how damn bad does a girl have to be
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And I was like, to date you? And my comment ended up getting more likes than his
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So it's kind of ironic for me. for me. People say that she's only with me for the disability checks or the parking spots
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We don't even receive disability checks. Like we've never received a check before. Somebody wrote
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this whole paragraph saying like, I would really like sit down and think about what you're doing
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because who wants to like live their whole life with someone who can't like do anything
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So Joey's my sister-in-law is coming over to just have a little discussion about how
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she sees our relationship. We like to bake, so we decided to make her some cookies today
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Hi! How are you? I'm good. My name's Joyce. I am Carla's sister-in-law
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Would you like a water, Joyce? Please and thank you. I know both of them are into content creating, so I'm like, maybe is this something that's
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just to help them both out? I think that was my main concern
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So, like, what did you think when I first started dating Inja
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Or like when I first brought it up? I always felt like you were very mature and always very grounded in what you do and people
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you interact with But you know I glad he in the family You seem very happy You know from like my experience like I always had to like care for somebody like that my family and so I feel like with him it was just like oh like I can
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help him out I know taking care of someone is not easy that she does and
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she's actually she actually wants to kind of amazes me because I feel like I wouldn't do it
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You know we got engaged in September. I got this call. We got engaged in September of last year and we really had to think about our future lives
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and what we have to do in order to get to that
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I think one thing you guys should experience is living together before you get married
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I know that usually it's traditional the opposite way, but I feel like whenever you
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move in with someone prior you get to know them a little bit deeper and get to
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see a side of them that you're not really used to as well as just make sure
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your guys's goals down the road are kind of aligned. That is kind of like our goal this year to be in that place where we're able to live together
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Thank you for the cookies. There's a lot of communication between both of us. We respect each other's opinion
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If we have a problem we always talk it out. I consider him normal, but I feel like it works just because we're also so different from everybody else
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The best way to deal with haters, I feel like, don't give them the attention they always want
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because that's the only thing they could get from you. The thing I love most about Angel, he kind of brought a side of me that I feel like I never really was able to have anybody else get for me
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just because like he's really funny and like his personality is really just outgoing just do your
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thing don't care about anybody else i love how caring she is and like she from the jump she
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didn't care that i was in the disability like she's always says he sees me like everybody else
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and i really love that about her she has a beautiful soul
