The Secret Of Mental Toughness From A Former SAS Soldier | Myprotein

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still see it now his body's next door
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his neighbors are dead on the lawn just
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being killed and houses are on fire and
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he's just washing his car and his two
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kids are running around chasing each
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other on a bike
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and so when you say that that's that
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always stays in my mind you know
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so i then joined the parachute regiment
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i had a great career you know i would
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saw conflict in
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northern ireland unfortunately lost a
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lot of people on that you know so i've
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gone into this grown business now where
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he's real
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um
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cyprus again was a un tour believe it or
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not it was forced to build sunshine but
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the terrorist attack while were there
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killed a number of people
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so i grew through this sort of military
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regime and i knew at some point it's a
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bit like being a football player you
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know for a sunday league team and you go
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right who's the top of the league i want
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to be in that league and i knew the ses
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was the best and at the time i knew they
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were good but and i can say this on any
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platform
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the sas are the best in the world i've
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worked with delta the seals the specs
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now i've worked with all against all of
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them and we are the best in the world so
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i knew that's where i wanted to go
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but
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to get into the sas you have to have
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done at least five years service which
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have done
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a number of operational tours and then
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you go on selection sas selection you
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apply to go on it when i went on state
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selection it was almost like going back
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to being 17 again so i'm now still on a
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platform with
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183 people
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and again you look at everybody you
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always do we all do you go well he looks
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good he looks better than me these look
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a lot better
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183 people
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as the days went by the lumber got
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smaller and i started to believe in
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myself and think you know i could do
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this
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and again at the end of it 183 started
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seven of us finished
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not looking number seven
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and then i went in to join my squadron
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um
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and again we talk about
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memory oh sorry uh mindset and image now
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if i say to you guys here i'm going to
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bring on five ses guys
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you naturally probably think six foot
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six v-shape all big dudes like this guy
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here yeah and i thought the same as i
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went through selection because you don't
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meet the sas guys until you get there
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so i'd finish election i was slim but
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fit
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and i went to b squadron and i walk into
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b squad and interest room is where all
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the guys hang out and i actually thought
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i'd walked into the council estate
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office
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i'm looking around expecting all these
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big super fit dudes and i look around
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there's guys with beer bellies bulldogs
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skittles
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this is the sex
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but what was unique about these people
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was what was inside their head
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and i remember right day one i'm looking
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around it's a big guy and he was big he
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was fat
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huge guy he's making a cup of tea and he
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looks at me he said uh
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hey nipper do you want to go for a run i
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went
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yeah of course i do
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anyway we went out the front gate
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i saw the soul of his
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shoe for about 50 meters i never seen
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him again he left me for dust
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and i got back in there and i went it
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definitely ain't about the image it's
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about what's between your ears
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and then by day two
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um i've entered this new world and
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the sergeant major walks it and met us
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on me and he looked like catwoman he
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does down he's got a rolling cigarette
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in his mouth and he walks in he goes
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right
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somebody's about to get killed in a
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country blah blah blah we've got 48
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hours to go and save him let's go do it
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i'm like what the is going on
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and then he turns around and he goes
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what's your name on the newest guy there
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he goes i says billy he goes right
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how are we going to do this in front of
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all his i'm like i haven't got a clue so
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at that point i shut my pants i'm like i
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don't know
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but he says well tell me what would you
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do so i'll come up with an idea and
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he'll not too bad but get everybody
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together now and we put this plan
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together and off we went and did this
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job and i was saying and i was thinking
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well
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why is this world i've just entered it's
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crazy we went out to a foreign country
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we did the job we came back
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and it's just like nobody talked about
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it's like yeah back to normal what we're
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doing tomorrow it's just a crazy crazy
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world
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so the mindset that's what
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sets
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the sas apart from everyone else yeah
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do you think so if you think growing up
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were you dead obviously being a torah a
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tear away
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you had that mindset or can you be
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taught that mindset
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i think it's difficult to teach at that
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sort of level about that age group it's
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what you how you grow up you know
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but i think um
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what set me in good stead was i had a
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heartbreak of upbringing and most of our
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brought on myself to trouble but being
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street wise knowing you know i wasn't
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academically smart but i was kind of
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street smart you know what's right and
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wrong but i just knew
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i could do
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better
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than you know or i thought i could do
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better than i actually could and i
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wasn't afraid to go for it and i wasn't
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afraid to get part of my ass and fail
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and get up and go again and that mindset
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was ingrained from that very early age
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you know and then
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as you get into the regiment you then
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sort of
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realize where you are and
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everything we did in the regiment
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everything was against us we never had
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anything in our favor and the biggest
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thing we always get against is time we
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never have enough time
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but whenever we look at a problem we
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always just say right there will be an
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option there's got to be a way we can do
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this
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and there is and if you dig deep enough
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there is you've just got to find it
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persevere with it and go for it and
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that's the same if you want to relate
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back to where you are now where you're
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training you want to get to a certain
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goal
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it's hard it's going to be tough
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nothing's going to be easy but you can
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do it and you've got to call for it and
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you've got to do it chunked by a chunk
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and then going back to your career in
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the ses you know as you fought all
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around the world all these crazy places
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is there one place or one
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tour in particular that was a really
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difficult tour for you
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i think it was and like united relate to
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what's happening today bosnia if you for
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the younger generation if you remember
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what happened in bosnia it was just
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the hardship about bosnia was going over
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there it's literally on our doorstep
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it's europe
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going into europe and seeing the
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atrocities of what had happened you know
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trying to get your head around how all
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these people have lived together for so
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long then everybody turned on each other
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and it was
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you know it was it was modern day hitler
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going up just like we're seeing today in
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ukraine history repeats itself so when i
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got out there there was three groups of
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people fighting with each other and
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trying to get your head down the
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political scenario the situation trying
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to the best to help people but it was
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really difficult when you just saw
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neighbors that lived together for years
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and they just turned on each other and
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killed each other
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and then in every war location i've been
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to
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there's a surreal moment something just
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is crazy and i remember in bosnia going
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through a village that had just been
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cleansed for a better word i guess
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smashed bodies everywhere
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in the street and and right in the
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middle of this
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village
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is a house and a guy washing his car bmw
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like
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like he's like just bizarre i could
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still see it now his body's next door
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his neighbors are dead on the lawn just
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being killed and houses are on fire and
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he's just washing his car and his two
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kids are running around chasing each
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other on a bike
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and so when you say that that's that
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always stays in my mind you know but the
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other thing that says is that how we
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could actually operate how that could
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happen that was only in the 90s 95 96
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onwards how could
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this happen after what we learned from
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the second world war with hitler but it
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does and it's happening right now again
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you know so
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that's that always sticks to my mind
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ridiculous and now horrible conflict and
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more research and then how does it so
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when you see this you go into these
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war-torn places you see
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dead bodies women children men whatever
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and then mentally that must affect you
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right can it come out but now have you
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had any experience with mental health
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afterwards or have you been pretty
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strong i'm going to be very honest with
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you i mean i know there's a lot of
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problems with men i'll find out i'd be
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very fortunate
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you know i have my dark moments yeah you
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know when a smile sound will remind me
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of something or just like now talking
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about it it's now in my head
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but don't let it
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i don't let it
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drag me down i'll talk about it i'll
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think about it and
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you know by doing that allows me to sort
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of release it and i'll tell you what my
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decompression for everything is fitness
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if i feel miserable down i'll just go
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around just go for a run a jog of war
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whatever it is and it just allows me
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just to
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settle myself down and just move forward
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so i've been very very fortunate not to
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have any
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mental issues at all you know but you
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know i think about i have dark moments
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but i just say to myself it's done i
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can't change it you've got to move
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forward and as tough as that is you've
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just got to pick yourself up you can't
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sit there in what i call a pity party
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because the only person who can drag it
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out of it is you because nobody knows
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what's in your head in your mind over
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you
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and the fact that if you're all good
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enough to admit it and talk about it
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have a cry if you need to upgrade so
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what but you've got to do it you've got
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to do that you can't just sit there and
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let it and that's what's happening today
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the guys i've been with seeing the same
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amount i've seen been in these
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situations and they just bottle it up
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you can't follow you've got to do
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something to decompress whether it's
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fitness talking about it and there's
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people out there to help as well so just
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don't be afraid to talk about it but
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it's never bothered me
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yet i would say
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so i think that's a huge thing because
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jimmy you're one of the most alpha man
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i've ever met you've done all these i
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mean you've saved the same ass basically
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you know and for you to be able to be
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open and talk about it you know that
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gives us all the right to be able to be
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open and talk about absolutely any
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issues we're having because the more we
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talk about that we can't get through it
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you know i think you say it's happened
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to us but um i think that's a
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huge thing it's just to
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take ownership of ourselves more and not
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look for excuses
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to blame other things absolutely yeah
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exactly don't make excuses and again
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talking about the way the world is today
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don't make excuses for people that are
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making mistakes be honest and tell them
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you know that's wrong don't do that you
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know don't don't cover up all this
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that's what we do today we're all too
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scared biggest thing missing in the
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world today is the truth you're too
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scared to tell the truth because we're
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going to upset somebody well you know
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what
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life's about getting upset it's about
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bouncing back from being upset because
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that's where you learn your lessons
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that's when you grow when you're
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uncomfortable you make mistakes
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i always say you know you can make a
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mistake just don't keep repeating it if
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you repeat it it's a problem it's not a
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mistake anymore problem you've got a
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problem you need to sort that out
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so don't be afraid to make mistakes but
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don't
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don't lie about it don't try and cover
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it up or be open about and learn from it
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thank you so much guys much appreciated
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we'll be on later on have a good day
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stay spicy guys thank you enjoyers
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this is an awesome
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setup enjoy

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