Because to a narcissistic parent, image is everything…

Here's what's often underneath it: 1. The audience gives her what she craves: validation. She performs for others, friends, teachers, colleagues, because they reflect back a version of her she wants to believe is true: 👉 "Look at what a devoted mom she is!" 👉 "She's so involved and generous!" This supply feeds her fragile self-worth. But her children? They see behind the mask. And get close enough to challenge the illusion. That makes them dangerous. 2. She sees you as an extension, not a person. You're not a separate being with your own thoughts and feelings. You're a mirror, expected to reflect her perfection. When you express needs, emotions, or boundaries, she feels criticized or abandoned. She punishes you for it. 3. She's envious of your potential. Especially if you're emotionally intelligent, insightful, or sensitive, she may feel threatened by the very things that make you special. That envy turns into criticism, emotional neglect, or manipulation. She may resent your freedom to grow in ways she couldn't.