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i remember like it was five minutes ago
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and it must have been 40 or 50 years ago
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I was working at a very fancy clothing
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store here in Seattle and I was just
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minding my business straightening some
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slacks when a guy comes rushing in He
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goes "Hey get my slacks My Ferrari's
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double parked." And I went "Holy cow let
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me go get your slacks." And I go as I'm
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going upstairs to get the slacks I'm
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thinking to myself even at 24 or 25
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years old do I really care what kind of
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Ferrari he has or what kind of car he
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has i just know I got to get his slacks
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But then it occurred to me I wonder who
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he's trying to impress Maybe he's trying
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to impress me but maybe he should think
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about impressing himself because I
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wasn't impressed even at 25 because I
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don't need to know what kind of car you
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have what brand of car you have I just
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know you got to get your slacks But as I
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thought back on that after all these
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years and I realized self-esteem is so
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interesting When you feel good about
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yourself when you have good self-esteem
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and self-confidence everything in your
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life works better And when you have low
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self-esteem you say things like "Hurry
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up My Ferrari's double parked." And you
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try to impress people Oh I just got back
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from this trip We're just about to leave
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on a cruise All these things when I
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thought my answer like I said before was
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are you trying to impress you or me
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because you know what you're not
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impressing me So think about that and
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think about the behavior of people you
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know that don't behave in a certain way
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and they talk down about people they
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talk they say nasty things they talk
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behind people's backs they engage in
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gossip or whatever Any of those kind of
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antisocial or not the best behavior type
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behaviors can be traced back to lack of
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self-esteem When people feel good about
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themselves they don't feel the need to
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impress other people or to put people
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down or to try to say nasty things about
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people So you say to yourself "Well if
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my self-esteem's good I'm not going to
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say those things But if I want to get
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higher self-esteem how do I do that?"
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Well no surprise from that gratitude guy
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Get a gratitude journal Here's that
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gratitude guys daily gratitude journal
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you can get I'll put a link in the
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description When you're writing things
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down every day about what you're
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grateful for your blessings and
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abundance you feel better about yourself
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you feel better about your circumstances
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and you won't feel the need to talk down
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or try to impress other people There's a
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little saying in the front of the book
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that says in the gratitude journal if
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you think about it it's like a dream If
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you talk about it it inspires you But if
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you write about it it empowers you When
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you write down I am so grateful to my
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wife for all the love she gives me or
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whatever it might be it plants it in
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your brain So when you're writing down
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all the things you have in your life
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that is your blessings and abundance it
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makes you feel better about yourself
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When you feel better about yourself
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you're not going to behave in ways that
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aren't necessarily nice around other
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people that you impact with So think
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about it Get a gratitude journal
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Increase your self-esteem and you won't
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be finding yourself being like the
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person going "Hurry up My Ferrari's
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double parked." Gee creamy Anyway that's
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the message for the day Remember be
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grateful and never quit
