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have you ever wished for a relationship
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that feels fierce honest and truly alive
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not one built on pretending not one
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built on fear but one where both people
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show up fully bravely imperfectly if
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you've longed for this kind of
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connection Friedrich Nichi would tell
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you "You must be willing to face some
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hard truths first." Because real love
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the kind that transforms you demands
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more than comfort it demands courage
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nichi wasn't known for being soft about
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love he believed that most people settle
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for relationships of convenience not
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relationships of depth why because true
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honesty is rare and true honesty and
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love is even rarer he wrote "Invisible
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threads are the strongest ties but those
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threads can only be woven between two
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people who have first faced themselves
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so if you want a fierce honest
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relationship here are five lessons from
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Nietze that will help you build one
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lesson number one stop idealizing
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people." Nze warned us "There are no
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beautiful surfaces without a terrible
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depth." When you idealize someone you're
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not loving them you're loving a fantasy
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real love begins when you are ready to
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see and and accept the whole person
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their shadows their doubts their
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struggles if you can't love their
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humanity you won't sustain love through
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real life lesson number two demand
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honesty and offer it nichch valued truth
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above comfort he believed that honesty
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even painful honesty was the foundation
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of freedom in relationships this means
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stop hiding what you feel stop managing
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the other person's emotions to avoid
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conflict stop playing roles if you can't
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say what's real you can't build
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something real he wrote "It is not a
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lack of love but a lack of friendship
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that makes unhappy marriages." And what
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is friendship honest connection lesson
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number three embrace conflict as a path
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to deeper intimacy many people think if
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we fight it means we're
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broken nichi would say if you never
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fight it means you're avoiding truth he
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wrote you must be willing to burn in
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flame in relationships this means you
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must be willing to face discomfort to
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speak hard truths to listen when it's
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hard to hear conflict isn't the enemy
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avoidance is lesson number four know
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yourself first nichze believed that most
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relationships fail because most people
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enter them unconsciously he wrote "He
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who has a why to live can bear almost
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any how if you don't know your why your
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values your vision your truth you will
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lose yourself in someone else's and a
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relationship without two strong
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individuals will eventually collapse
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under the weight of unmet needs so the
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fierceness of your love must come from
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the fierceness of your self-nowledge."
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Lesson number five love without
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possession nichi rejected possessive
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love he believed that trying to own
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someone kills what is alive in them he
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wrote "The snake which cannot cast its
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die." If you want your relationship to
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thrive you must allow and even celebrate
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the other person's growth fierce honest
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love says "I do not own you i stand with
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you even as you evolve." It's not about
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controlling it's about witnessing and
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choosing each other again and again in
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freedom so what does this look like in
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real life here are five simple ways to
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embody Nichch's wisdom in love one be
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curious not controlling ask real
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questions let your partner surprise you
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two speak your truth early and often
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don't wait for resentment to build three
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welcome hard conversations growth
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happens when you lean into discomfort
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together four stay rooted in your own
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purpose a healthy relationship is built
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between two strong lives not one merged
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identity five celebrate change if your
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partner is evolving support it if you
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are evolving own it nu reminds us if you
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want fierce honest love you must become
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fierce and honest in yourself so ask
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yourself today am I loving with courage
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or with fear am I offering honesty or
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protecting comfort am I celebrating my
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partner's truth or trying to shape it
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because the relationship you long for is
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waiting on the other side of your
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honesty and here's the beautiful truth
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when two people commit to fierce honesty
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the relationship becomes unshakable not
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because it's perfect but because it's
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real nichi wrote "Become who you are."
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And in love that's the deepest
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invitation we can offer another soul not
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be who I want you to be but become who
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you are and I will meet you there
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if this resonated with you comment below
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i'm ready for fierce honest love and
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remember the more truth you bring to
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love the more love will set you free
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until next time stay bold stay true and
