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One of the biggest questions many women have is how to keep a man keen after sleeping with him. How to keep a man interested after sleeping with him for the first time? So how do you move past that one-night stand, that fling and the intimate moments you shared just for fun. Is there any way to tell what to do next and the man will respond?
In today's episode, I will help you look at this issue from a perspective of a guy. And though this may not apply to every single man, these are all pretty universal principles that generally speaking apply to every man.
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What is really going on in man's mind after you slept with him and why do so many of us change our behavior afterwards
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If you slept with a guy and you want him to continue chasing you, then there are a few things that you can do to help the relationship alone
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or at least see if it can be turned into something more
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But first of all, you have to consider a guy's mindset. Some guys, not all, chase girls for one thing only and that is sex
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And once they got it, they're often ready to move on. Once they've got what they wanted, they're basically calling next
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Don't expect this type of guy to form strong emotional connections with their sexual partners like many women do
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It's true that most guys are very visual, so we'll go after women we find physically attractive
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We might not feel the need to get to know women we're sleeping with all that well
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And it's just something short-term and casual for us. Also, the younger the man, the less likely they'll be to form any sort of
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strong relationships or want to settle down. There is no magic number or magic age during which
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men want to settle by if we are in our 20s and 30s, we want to sow our wild oats and sleep around
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as much as we can without any commitment. That's why a guy's behavior may suddenly change once
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you slept with him. The morning after is always the time when you notice they shift in behavior
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For some guys the morning after, a hookup means one thing. Get a out. They got what they
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wanted and aren't looking for anything more serious. Why bother hanging around? Why stringing the girl
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along? It might sound silly, but a lot of guys worry that committing to anything more than a one-night
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stand or casual fling means that they will be tied down for the rest of their lives. We think that
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if we show any interest, then you're going to invite us to see our parents or certainly expect us to
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propose and move in with you. So if the guy you like is acting differently now that you slept together
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he may be worried that you're going to try to force him into relationship with you
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The best thing that you can do is to keep things light and casual at this point
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You might want to take it to the next level but it best to avoid mentioning this just yet Just after you slept with somebody isn always the best time to bring up the fact that you after something more serious Actually this tends to be one of
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the things that really turns us guys off and pushes us away. So keep it casual for now. You might
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be feeling a lot right now and you've probably fallen for him even more since you've been sharing
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something so intimate, but you need to take things slowly. You can talk about dating more later on
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If you don't rush him or pressure him into anything at this point, he'll come to you in his own time
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If you're giving him too much attention, he's going to be looking for an exit
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This is something that many women do after sleeping with a guy. If you think you have feelings for them, this can be hard to rein in, but the more you throw yourself at somebody, the less interested they are
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By holding back a little bit, you'll create more of an air of mystery around yourself
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and maybe they'll start chasing you again. He might also really like you, but the more you show interest
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the more likely he will be to pull back away. It makes no sense, we know, but let him come to you
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Otherwise, no matter how much he likes you, he'll feel like he's being tied down too early
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and will want to resent you for it. Instead, try to keep him interested by mixing things up
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Have fun and play around. Be fun, sexy woman that he enjoyed spending
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time with and keep him guessing what you'll do next. Create an enigma around yourself while letting him
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get to see the more playful side of your personality. I don't mean just in a bedroom though. I mean to
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show him that you can be fun and spontaneous. Some guys worried that suddenly becoming a one woman
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man means that for the rest of their lives they are going to be living in a routine and their life
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will be boring. Show him that you're an exciting and interesting woman that adds something special
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to his life. Try being super confident as well. If that doesn't come easily to you, then try
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faking it. The more secure you seem, the more confident you come across as more he will be
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intrigued to you. He wants to spend time with somebody who knows that they can have fun and they
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feel sexy just the way they find them sexy So try to get in touch with that side of your personality and if you can then try to fake it and he will chase after you Don constantly ask him for
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reassurances and question him about his feelings for you. This can come across as needy and clean
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Keep those things on a download for now. Instead try teasing him with cheeky messages. Let him know that
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you're thinking of how much fun you had together in a bedroom and maybe suggest something fun to try
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next time. This is a great way of showing that you're attracted to him and interested in him
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without getting too emotional or clingy too soon. It's a good way to keep him interested in you too
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He'll remember just how much he liked hanging out with you and he will be excited to see you again
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As time goes on, you will naturally get closer and you'll start to bond over things that aren't
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strictly physical. And that's a good thing. That's what you want. So if you've played it cool and
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you've given him some space, all while showing that you are fun and sexy, then you can drop him
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a text to let him know just how much you enjoyed spending time with him. Just don't do it
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five minutes after he left the door. It's good to express your feelings in a healthy and measured
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way after all. Send something fun and flirty. He'll feel sexy and attractive from the compliment
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and will feel good about having slept with you. It also kind of serves a little bit like a reminder of
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your existence and will keep you on his radar. If at this point things are moving in the direction
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that you had hoped for then he might not be getting the message that you're trying to send
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Some of us guys unfortunately need things literally spelled out. So be truthful with you. You
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enjoyed sleeping with him but you want more. It's that simple. Be honest about how you feel
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Let him know what you feel and he let him make the decision. It will quickly become clear just how
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he feels about you and you will feel a lot better knowing where you stand, wherever that ends
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Now, if you're still no closer to get what you want, we've explicitly told him that you want something more serious and he's not giving it to you
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maybe it time to call it quits I know it hard to accept that things aren working out with somebody when you have feelings for them but it better to do it sooner rather than later Trust us it hard
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It can be really hard and it can really hurt, but you need to put yourself and your needs and desires first
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Don't chase somebody when they don't want to be chased. You'll find somebody else who is moving at the same pace as you are and who can give you what you're looking for
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Remember that your personal happiness is most important. prioritize your own feelings, keep your head held high. And guys, if something is just a fling
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then maybe accept it. Maybe it's just a fling. Maybe it's just one night stand. Not everything has
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to turn into a serious relationship. And I get it. We can't help ourselves. It's chemistry. We get
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that flood of emotions, especially if we share intimate moments with somebody, somebody that we
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may fancy. But they may not share the same feelings as we do. So
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For that reason, maybe it's worth just enjoying the moment and take it as an experience
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And when in the future you look back, you'll realize that you have learned more about yourself
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and also about human interaction and human behavior. And when finally somebody comes that is worth it, somebody that is on the same wavelength as you are
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then you will know that that is the right person that you should invest your feelings and effort into
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