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My Feminine Husband Got Me Pregnant | LOVE DON'T JUDGE
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May 12, 2025
James previously featured on Love Don’t Judge over 2 years ago with his ex-girlfriend. James is a feminine presenting man who initially came out as gay when he was younger because it was ‘easier.' He faced a lot of judgement for that relationship because people couldn’t understand how it worked. James is now in a new relationship with his wife, Dani. They have been together for almost a year. They met on instagram in January 2024 when Dani messaged him about one of his TikTok lives and James said everything took off from there. They officially started dating in March 2024 and Dani gave birth to a baby girl earlier this year! They have received similar judgement to his previous relationship, with many people confused about James dating a masculine presenting woman as a feminine man. People online have said that he definitely has a type. During the early days of dating, Dani encouraged James to join her in the gym - her passion in life. The couple now enjoy regular workouts together and dream of opening their own gym someday.
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The last time I did this, I was very fat
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And then I moved out here, and by the end of May, she was pregnant
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I think it was a couple months after we met that I got pregnant
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I think Danny forced me to just, for lack of a better word, grow the hell up
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This one guy came up and he was like, how do you do that? There's so much hair on your head. And I was like, the same way you do it
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I just put it in a ponytail. But I mean, look at us. We're gorgeous. Why wouldn't you stare
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I was not expecting Danny to be Danny. Like I was like, okay, so Danny's a man
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And then I met Danny and Danny was not a man. Danny was a woman
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You said you had some things to ask me. What's up? What drew you to James? Like coming from just liking females, just liking girls
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Like what made you drawn to him? I'm Danny and I'm a masculine woman who married a feminine presenting man
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I'm James and I'm a femish man that married a masculine woman
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I identify as straight, although it's questioned by pretty much everybody in my comments all the time
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But it's like, they don't really know me. If you were to ask my family, they would be like, oh yeah, he's always been this way
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Like, he was always a little different. I guess I would say that high school was the first time that I felt comfortable dressing masculine
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And I didn't feel as judged. I would say Danny is probably the most feminine, masculine presenting
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woman that I've ever been with. My thing is I still want to be with a woman
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I like the fact that she's in touch with her femininity. So we met, at the time I was doing TikTok Lives
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We started talking and chatting it up. And then what, like a month later
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I flew to Kentucky. And then we hung out for four days, got married
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Nine times out of 10, I'm the one that's gonna catch the eye of the public
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So it's mostly like, is he really with her? Like, is this a couple
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Are they friends? Or is he with her as a cover up? But usually when we're walking by
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they'll stop and stare at him and I'll give them an ugly look because I don't like it because I know they're judging him
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But I mean, look at us, we're gorgeous. Why wouldn't you stare? I've always been a femme man for the most part
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but there have been varying levels of how femme I've been. The last time I did this, I was very femme
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Like, I wore heels every day. My lashes were always done. My nails are always done
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That's one thing. I'm gonna keep done all the time. I'm gonna have my nails done
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Like, I might wear a crop top here and there or whatever
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At one point in life, being very honest, I used how femme I was to get validation
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but I don't need that validation now. I've come to terms with who I am and I love who I am now
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I'm married for crying out loud. Like I scored so The only women I dated for the most part have been masculine I never dated a femme man before but I talked to a couple before I met James
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Through social media. I feel like that's like a common thing nowadays, people meeting on social media
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Well, your caption said looking for a wife. It was. And what did I get? A wife, period
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I was being my loud, obnoxious self. And then she DM'd me. On our first date, we went and got our nails done
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Yeah, we got a nose done. We got matching L's. And then we went and got tacos at a margarita tower
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And I got, well, I was drunk. That following May, I moved out here
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And by the end of May, she was pregnant. Welcome. Welcome to my restaurant
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Come on, Chicky. Hey, Chicky baby. I feel like we don't really have necessarily, like, roles
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Yeah, I would say it's kind of opposite. like people would think that I would you know cook. So uh who would you say wears the pants
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I would say we both wear shorts. Yeah oh I like that. Right. Yeah we both wear shorts
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So on March 4th 2024 we went to Petco randomly we were looking at cats and we found a cute one
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and I was like can we just take it home and she was like well we have to find a home first
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and then I was like, when you said we had to get married in order to get a home
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and you were like, well, I already said I would marry you. And then we went on our way to the courthouse
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And then we were married. That's your parents' love story. And then a couple months later, you were here
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We were theoretically talking about having a kid. We were like, yeah, it would be cool to have a kid
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Like, we're in a position where we'd be able to sustain a kid, and then it happened and we were like oh we're really having a baby right now i would say my
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family was probably more vocal than hers was us getting married i kept quiet for a while because
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i knew my family would be more vocal they're kind of used to my spontaneity they're kind of used to
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me just coming out of the woodworks or something oh i told my mom as soon as we walked out the
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courthouse and she was cussing at me first and then she said well as long as you're happy i'm
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happy for you. And then with the baby, she was more than excited for another grandchild
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Come on, Stinky. You want to find something to wear? A little outfit
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The designer. Your designer clothes in here? What do you want? Your papa bought you this one
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Carson is three months, well, should be three months in like a week and a half
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I think it was a couple months after we met that I got pregnant
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I've always wanted to be a dad I didn't think I'd be a dad this early
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I want to be a dad like closer to 30 ish But here we are Layla supposed to come over in a minute No You ready
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I think so. Layla's my girl. She was the first friend that I made
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when I moved to Fort Knox. She said that she had some questions for us
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I don't know. She didn't tell me what they were. So she just said she needed to talk to us. Oh
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But we'll see. She'll be fine. Hi, my name is Layla. I met James at our, well, my job now. I mean, he's a pretty unique individual
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so I think that's what drew me to him. And then as we started hanging out, as we started getting
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to know each other, I met his wife, Danny. And then, you know, obviously they're not your normal
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like heterosexual couple. And so that kind of intrigued me. I was not expecting Danny to be
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Danny, like I was like, okay, so Danny's, Danny's a man. And then I met Danny and Danny was not a man
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Danny was a woman. When I first met Danny was, would be like, why is he your person? At first
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we didn't see eye to eye. At first, we weren't friends. We weren't hanging out solo. And so I
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guess for me, I was like really nervous to talk to her, really nervous to ask her questions. Hi
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Hi, Danny. Nice to see you again. I just got off work, so just wanted to stop by
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I know we wanted to just chit-chat, kiki-haha. And you said you had some things to ask me
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What's up? Yeah. So, you know, working at the youth center, you know, we're around a lot of families
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a lot of diverse families and the youth. And it just got me thinking about, you know
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some concerns I just want to bring to y'all's attention, from a place of care and love
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How are you guys going to battle different opinions that some parents may have since you guys aren't, you know, the normal picture of mom and dad
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So I think it would be like one of those things that we just have to have the conversation with her, like in a manner that she understands at whatever age it comes up
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And I think that us will kind of be her norm. Do you think the talking to her about, you know, how you guys present will be easy if she ever comes to you with questions or when she comes to you with questions about, you know, my daddy takes me to go get my nails done
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Yeah. And my mommy takes me to go work out. Like, how is that going to look
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More than anything, we want her to understand, like, look, it is okay to be different
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Yeah. It is okay that your family is different. But it is okay that other people have normal families, too
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I guess one opinion that I see floating around when I'm with you guys or when I post that I'm hanging out with you guys is obviously the way Dani doesn't present like how I would present or she presents more masculine
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I guess what drew you to James? Coming from just liking females just liking girls what made you drawn to him I think it was his feminine energy Cause I a baddie Yeah that too So do you guys think you know you in it to win it
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You're in it for life, in it for the long haul and forever
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You see the rock? I do. Do you see the rock? Yeah, I do see that. That's nice
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It's really nice. Yeah. I mean, beyond Carson, beyond all that. And I think that Carson has drawn us closer
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Because we didn't have that time where we were just dating. Yeah. And we were just friends
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We were figuring out a lot about each other that we didn't necessarily know before
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Yeah, it did make us stronger. I'm so happy I get to be in view how that unit grows and flourishes
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Yeah, girl. Bestie. Bestie. Locked in. Okay, well, I gotta go. Walk you out, child. Yes
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Bye, Dani. Bye, Dani. Bye girl. Bye. See you later. Okay
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I think it was a good day. Yeah, I think we had a very good conversation. Good conversation. I hated the gym
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Glad to hear that. But I think now it's like how we come together at the end of the day
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Like it's the one thing that we do together. Most of the time
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Unless I don't feel like it. Then I'm not going. I will say people used to come up to me when I used to, I used to have hair like down to my ankles
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And people would come up to me while I'm at the gym. This one guy came up and he was like, how do you do that
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There's so much hair on your head. And I was like, the same way you do it. I just put it in a ponytail
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So eventually we want to open our own gym. Well, it's going to be her gym
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But you're going to be the manager. I'll be like behind the scenes doing the money stuff
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But we got to put a daycare in it. For all the parents
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For all the parents. Look at you. Marriage doesn't come with instructions, but..
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And we're young. We dated fast, but we're fine. Yeah. I'm excited to see what's next for us
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I think we're each other's opposites. There's stuff that I needed to learn that he had taught me
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and there's stuff that he needed to learn and that I taught him. And we both didn't know that we needed, but..
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that we needed, but. I think Danny forced me to just, for lack of a better word, grow the hell up
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What I love most about James is that he's willing to work for things now
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that he's willing to understand and, you know, go out and go get things for our family
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I love most that Danny pushes me. She has made me grow to love being the family man
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I love being a dad, and I think that's because Danny has made me appreciate the small things
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Everything doesn't have to be crazy big. Just appreciate the small things
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